It would be a total deal-breaker to me.
The idea that this about attraction is absolute bullshit, as the broad category of “race” tells you shit all about a person’s appearance.
Are you telling me that there are people who are objectively attracted to people with coloring like Jessica Alba, but inexplicably repulsed by people with coloring like Beyonce? That there are people who only like Asian ladies who would be totally hot for a medium-skinned, double-lidded, somewhat Latin-looking Filipina, but unable to keep get it up for a medium skinned, double-lidded, somewhat Latin-looking white woman?
An “Asian” can vary in appearance from a blond-haired Uigher to a black-skinned indigenous Pacific Islander. “Black” people, especially in the US, vary from dark skinned to utterly and completely indistinguishable from a white person. “White” people cover ground from Norway to North Africa, and can be as light or swarthy as anyone else. And “Latino” basically tells you nothing about a person- they could be a straight up white dude from Argentina or a black dude from the DR. And while most people don’t fit into these extremes, in reality a good chunk of people from every “race” are a shade of brown and you’d never know what particular category they fall into by just looking at them.
So if it were actually about looks and the weirdness of attraction, they’d say something about the looks. People would state the colorings and builds they are attracted to.
But it’s not about looks or attraction, it’s about the whole set of baggage that comes with race. And if your dating is characterized by that baggage- be it focusing on another race or restricting yourself to your own- that’s pretty much automatically working with a lot of stereotypes. You are assuming an Asian lady is going to be like this, or a black dude like that, or an Indian girl like X, Y and Z. And of course, with the range of human beings in this world, that’s unlikely to be true and not particularly respectful to your perspective dating partners.
The reality is that within race, you can have a lot of mismatches. I’m a white girl who has a LOT more in common with someone who was raised in a low-income Latino neighborhood than with an upper-middle class white East-Coaster. A Korean adoptee from Missouri is going to have next to nothing in common with a first-generation immigrant Vietnamese person in San Francisco. Race is a pretty poor filter for finding people with a similar background and values.
And yeah, if you don’t have the balls to stand up to your racist parents (or you just automatically assume a mixed-race relationship is going to have all kinds of extra challenges, before you even know the person), even if that works in my favor, I’m not interested.
