There’s another benefit to warning the teacher: if he receives a warning from another student, then he knows that the girl isn’t being discrete about it. If she succeeds, she’ll almost certainly tell someone, so it’s also a bad idea from a practical perspective.
Patting Sua on the back, there, hansel? 
You know, when I read Sua’s comment, and then thought of my own, I honestly thought that they were different.
Looks like reprise isn’t the only one with poor reading comprehension in this thread. 
it’s ok, eris I have it on good authority that Sua’s above the age of consent.
Re: OP
(by the way, while on a practical basis people may use the term ‘statutory rape’ as different from ‘child molestation’, neither term is being difined here, from a contexual perspective they seem to be implying that a child molestation would be sexual contact with a minor w/o the minor’s consent, while statutory rape seemed to be consensual sexual contact w/a minor, believe also that those using the term this way do not intend that getting a six year old to say ‘yea I want to rub your thingie’ would actually constitute consent - tho I can be wrong about that).
Because of the age difference and the position of trust, I would believe that sexual contact between the two people described in the OP would be wrong from a moral standpoint (as well as the legal one) even if the minor was the aggressor.
And I would absolutely agree that you should warn the teacher.
If you don’t, and the young female goes through w/her plan, several things can happen:
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They might be seen by an outside party. THe teacher would likely to get into serious trouble (at least have some suspicion attached to him).
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He could go along w/her and raise the potential for serious damage to several people’s lives (his, hers, his wife and family etc.)
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He could reject her advances and she could get upset and make a false claim which would bring about negative events for him (even if he’s found not guilty).
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He could reject her advances and she could be ok w/it.
Seems to me to be bad odds for a positive outcome.
If you warn him, he can protect himself by making sure he’s not ever alone w/her.
wring’s third alternative above is what occurred to me when I read the scenario. If I were the teacher, I would appreciate the opportunity to establish a pre-emptive defense by putting a microcassette recorder or something in my desk drawer that I could quickly turn on if it looked like the girl was going to manage to get a few minutes alone after class or something. Assuming that isn’t illegal itself, of course. In any event, yeah, I think the teacher should be warned, even if, as you say, he already has a general sense of what’s on the girl’s mind.
Assuming it is a crime for a teacher to have sex with a fifteen year-old girl, and stipulating that the OPer has knowledge that this crime is being planned, is there any culpability here on a conspiracy basis if the OP doesn’t act on his knowledge to prevent the crime from happening?
Ah yes Sua - good point - I didn’t think of that! But (hopefully) this teacher is a sensible, moral enough guy not to even consider an illicit affair with Lolita-“Hippie”-from-hell…
Wrong for her, yes.
Wrong for him, yes. But because he is married, her teacher, and it is illegal.
I can’t get behind the whole “she isn’t old enough to give consent, she doesn’t know what she’s doing thing” She knows damn well. And she’s into the whole power play her little Lolita act is worth. Ruining his career, his marriage - she knows. And it ain’t going to magically change when she turns 18, either and she starts going after her married professors or her friends boyfriends. Eventually she’ll probably grow up.
I don’t think we should protect her from herself anymore than we protect 15 year old boys who rape.
I agree with Dangerosa that this girl seems to know exactly what the fallout of her plan could be. She’s probably feeding off of the power of trying to do something that forbidden because she knows all the havoc she can wreak from it.
She sounds a lot less like an innocent kid than some of the posters here (no offense guys) are painting her.
And honestly, I was fifteen once. I remember what I was like and what I understood.
If she understands a tenth what I did at that age, and she’s doing this anyway, she’s a very dangerous, very predatory person and he should be warned so he has ample chance to stay the hell away from her.
It’s the OP again. Said girl has officially broken off her “relationship” with said teacher, so any and all fears should be allayed. My question still stands: why would it be wrong for them to have sex? If we remove the wife, kids, and job from the equation, would there be anything morally wrong with it?
P.S. Said girl is very intelligent, as I mentioned. She just places feeling good temporarily (i.e., post-coital stupor) over long-term plans (retirement).
Remove the job, and he’s no longer in a position of authority over her. Remove the wife and kids, and there’s no one else (directly) threatened by his bad acts.
Say he’s a guy she runs into regularly at a coffee shop. They chat a bit, so she knows he’s single and independent, and, say, over 30.
Then I’d have to say that a lot of what would be wrong in the first case is gone. There are still some uncomfortable questions about older men sleeping with teenage girls–I’m very sceptical that the natural imbalance in their potential relationship could be good for either of them. But I have to say that most of my problems with it disappear, simply because now we’re down only to the question of whether she knows what she’s doing (which it sounds like she does), and can take responsibility for her actions (which she largely can).
Of course, it would still be illegal, except in Canada and most of Europe.
So now the question is: Is it immoral for an adult to have sexual relations with a child?
We could argue what the proper age of consent is ad infinitum and never get anywhere so what we are left with are individual ideas and opinions of what is right and wrong. We could always fall back on our own laws regarding such matters which are designed to protect our children from those who might take advantage of their immaturity and naivety.
I consider it wrong for an adult to have this type of relationship with a child. Perhaps this is based on the fact that I have children and would not want to see them involved with anyone until they are mature and responsible. My daughters are now 4 and 2, I would not look kindly upon any man who would think of having intimate relations with them when they become teenagers.
As adults, we are responsible for our own behaviour and have a responsiblity to protect those who might be vulnerable.
Is the OP’s statement that this young woman has now broken off her “relationship” with this teacher ringing alarm bells for anyone else?
Am I the only poster here who is thinking Red Hot Chili Peppers?
Warn him. At the very least, he’ll know that a third party (you) knows about it and that might keep him from being tempted.
where the hell do these people * come from?*
this is the wackiest thing i have ever read!
She was someone’s mother, but not mine, so it was okay!
Um, what alarm bells? What chile peppers?
I think what reprise is saying I think is “What is the relationship she broke off?”
You’re use of ‘relationship’ suggests she got further than the trying stage. (I didn’t interpret it that way, but I can easily see how one might).
As to whether teenager-adult relationships are wrong, that’s very context dependent (and making a moral judgement, which I dislike doing), so I won’t say more on it.
By “relationship”, I meant her attempts to get said teacher in the sack. I don’t know wether or not she was flatly rejected, or if she just got bored.
oh please! Some of you seem to think this is a done deal… It’s not… If I were a thief and there was a 25,000 diamond in a store window… would I be undisciplined enough to steal it? Seems we assume alot…This guy even if he is horney all the the time… will realize the situation… he has lots of options… even if he’s sitting there minding his own business at school and said girl throws out her nude photos on his desk right in front of him… he should very promptly excuse himself and get out, finding some other teacher or administrator, to vouch that he was here and not there and all that…I am a teacher and I was taught never be alone with a student… unless some other(professional) knows where you are and what you are doing…ok I’m rambling, but this situation is totally avoidable…
Seems like I’m a little late, but I wanted to offer this advice if you were keen to stop this whole thing in it’s tracks - warn the teacher in the presence of another teacher.