Now am I wrong in thinking that this isn’t right? I think it’s no different than a 23 year old man and a 14 year old girl which almost everyone would object to.
It is just as wrong. Boys can be sexually abused just like girls, and they can suffer the same negative effects. It just isn’t as “visible”, since the type of behavior associated with sexual abuse survival is pretty much how most males act anyway :-p
Society in general has the point of view that the male having sex is achieving victory, while the female is giving something away. I’m hardly surprised by the reaction.
well, to be utterly frank about it, getting into someones pants seems to be a juvenile [ok, and adult frequently] male thing…so a 14 year old boy having sex is nothing to horrendous to me [provided rubbers are used and consideration of other safe sex is practiced] BUT…
Not with someone like a teacher, employer, supervisor … like in the military persons with ‘power’ over someone should not have relationships with subordinates because there could be the possibility of coertion or favoritism. It isnt like there is a possibility of pregnancy for the boy like there is for a girl. I would prefer they not have sex at all until they hit 18, but shit happens…
Age. Obvious one - an adult should never have sexual congress with a minor (especially with that kind of age range. I’ll admit to being “statuatorily raped” when I was 17 by my 18 year old gf :-p)
Abuse of a position of power. Someone in a position of power introducing a sexual “favor” is considered “wrong” for several reasons.
If a 23 year old man seduced a 14 year old girl people would find it disgustingly creepy and want him strung up by his nuts.
The fact that a 23 year old woman seduced a 14 year old boy doesn’t change my opinion too much. Her recent marriage was in trouble so she goes out and lays a child, one of her students? There’s an awful lot wrong here but let’s start with statutory rape, abuse of her position as a teacher and the fact that it’s just plain nasty. She needs to be (a) punished and (b) off the streets and away from kids.
Oh, she’ll never teach in Florida again, even if (on the admittedly unlkely possibility) she’s not convicted. It’s highly unlikely she could teach elsewhere in the U.S., either.
It doesn’t sound like there was even the attempt to be circumspect. She had sex in her classroom AND a moving vehicle in the presence of another minor? Jesus.
What the hell was so wrong in her marriage she thought THIS was an appropiate response?
Thank God for her reckless behavior or this could have been dragged out for months, if not longer. They both need help.
I don’t care what anyone says, it’s not the same thing for a boy as it is for a girl. All I know is I would have been only too happy to shag a 23 year old woman when I was 14. That kid was lucky.
Why is it different though? That’s the argument I have been hearing from others as well. The whole reason that a 14 and a 23 year old can’t have sex is because the 14 year isn’t a consenting adult. What does it matter if the child is a boy or girl?
A lot of people expect a 14-year old boy to be happy about any sex he gets, and figure he must be thrilled to have his teacher seduce him. The boy himself may think that he should feel that way, and be unwilling to admit to feeling uncomfortable about the situation. But in reality, it’s often a power play and just as abusive as it would be for a girl. Boys aren’t perceived as victims, but they can be screwed up by statutory rape just like girls can be.
What “matters” is that the boy is - almost definitionally - far, far more likely to enjoy it. I fail to see why that’s a mitigating factor, at least until the specifics are more fleshed out. What’s clear to me is that this woman took advantage of an unclear-thinking young teenager over whom she had considerable authority. It’s entirely possible that some psychological damage has been exerted on the boy.
Okay: have you considered the possibility that the fact that you would cheerfully have entered such a relationship might have something with the way you work, rather than with whether you have a penis or not? Because, you know, I don’t recall electing you Grand High Representative Of All That Is Male.
It is true that some young boys would willingly have sex with an older person. It is also true that some young girls would willingly have sex with an older person. Where does gender enter into the picture?
Sadly, your opinion is prevalent. What you don’t realize is that most 14 year old girls in abuse cases like this feel the same. They are seeking love and attention, and think the way to get it is via their bodies.
The problem is that they are (usually) not prepared psychologically for sex and all it entails, and end up getting used and abused, then going into a downward spiral.
The same thing can happen to boys, only they end up being abusers.
I don’t think it’s the same. Sex is bpth physiologically and psychologically different for boys than it is for girls. I think young girls who enter into such relationships are doing it for emotional reasons, not really for sex. Boys just want the sex for its own sake (at least I did).
I guess i’m not really saying ot’s appropriate, and I recognize that a 14 year old boy could still get screwed emotionally (no pun intended) but I just don’t think the damage is as great.
I have known guys who had sex with older women when they were 15 and 16 and they suffered no ill effects from it. Sadly, I was not one of those guys.
The woman comitted statutory rape. She’s in deep doo.
Having said that, getting a cute young teacher ravish me was probably at least one of the 271 wet dreams I had as a young teen. I can’t honestly say for sure if I would have felt victimized, but I’m guessing initially I’d be overjoyed. I’m sure the aftermath wouldn’t be pretty, though; but itt would have at least as much to do with the ostracision associated with societal taboo as it would have to do with direct emotional harm from precocious sexual relations.
Fact is, lots of 14-year-olds have been and are gettin’ some (albiet, with other teens, the majority of the time). And I bet a couple hundred years ago, a 14-year-old girl marrying a guy ten years her senior wouldn’t be seen as a big deal.
As I said, the difference is there, you just don’t notice it, because it is glorified in your view. Sexually abused males are predators and abusers, but then, all males are.
It’s quite possible that there are inherent differences in the ways males and females relate to sex (though until someone comes up with a way to actually separate inherent characteristics from the influences of society I’m certainly not going to take it for granted) but that doesn’t matter, because these differences, regardless of their origins, are not absolute by any stretch of the imagination. There are plenty of guys who aren’t particularly interested in sex for the sake of sex (me, for example) and there are plenty of women who are (several people I know).
Can you imagine the street cred of the 14 year old now? Have you seen the pictures of the teacher? She is smoking hot. I feel it is different for a 14 year old boy instead of a girl because of the differences between the sexes, and the emotional versus the physical aspects of it. That is all. I am 23, and a 30 year old would seem like fun. A 14 year old, regardless of how physically developed they are, scares me. If I feel a physical attraction (which I sometimes do, before I know their age), I sometimes want to go hide in a closet so as not to hurt humanity.
