It wouldn’t bug me. Female.
Male. Wouldn’t care in the slightest. Can’t imagine why I would.
Female. Couldn’t care less.
The number of marriages wouldn’t bother me either. It could be their first or fiftieth marriage and I really wouldn’t care any more or less about the date.
Neither my wife nor I give a hoot whether our sibs or sibs-in-law choose the same date we did years ago. There just aren’t that many Saturdays in Spring. And for second marriages I’d bet most folks know one date they’re not gonna pick no matter what, further limiting the pool.
A minor hijack/extension of the OP if I may …
There’s been an assumption, which Phlosphr has neither confirmed nor denied that it’s his wife’s sib that’s getting married, not his sib.
IOW wife is upset that her brother/sister is copying her anniversary, not that his brother/sister (=her BIL/SIL) is copying her anniversary.
For the few folks who object, even a little, to the same date thing, would this difference change your attitude? How far out in the family tree, both by blood & by marriage do you have to go before it’s not offensive, even a little?
My brother had the same anniversary as mine and I thought it was cool.
I can’t see why it would matter.
It wouldn’t bother me in the least.
My sister got married on my birthday and apologised profusely in advance, explaining that it was the only date she could get the venue she wanted for the reception. It didn’t really bother me , but when she surprised me during the reception by leading all the guests in singing Happy Birthday, and a cake was brought in, I could have done without the attention.
Later that year, I chose her birthday as my wedding date in playful retaliation and since then we have usually remembered to wish each other a Happy Anniversary on each other’s birthdays.
Male. When my sister decided to get married in Vegas, my other sister and I wanted to go there and make it a family celebration. My sister wouldn’t tell us what day she was getting married because she wanted a private cemeremony.
Ask your wife which option she’d prefer.
Female - and I think it’s ridiculous to get upset about sharing an anniversary date! Is your wife going to be upset at people if they have the same birthday she does?
Female and still can’t understand why anyone would be bothered by this.
Same here.
The name thing… a girl I know had her heart set on Brandon for her son long before she was even pregnant with him, but part way through her pregnancy decided she couldn’t use it because the neighbour’s son was Brayden and the names were too similar. :rolleyes: I asked her how she’d feel if she settled for something else and arrived home from the hospital to see a “For Sale” sign on their lawn. If it was a relative or a really close friend I could understand, maybe, but it was just a neighbour, and it wasn’t even the same name! Anyway, she eventually went with Brandon (messed up the spelling though - it’s Brandan) and, in a surprise twist, ended up moving away from those neighbours about two weeks after the baby was born.