Not a proposal of marriage but an idea about getting married:
If your sibling was getting married for the second time and decided to get married on the day YOU got married, would that bother you? Please give your gender when responding if you don’t mind. My wife and I have a difference of opinion on this one - I personally, do not have any problems with it. Who cares if they get married on the same day you did…My wife on the other hand thinks it’s absurd and they should pick another date.
I’m not a “wedding” person, so it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. In fact, if I was on friendly terms with the couple, there’s all kinds of celebration potential for years to come!
At first, I thought you meant that our respective weddings would be on the same day. That would be dickish, but simply picking the same date (but another year) for the wedding wouldn’t bother me.
Male. I couldn’t care less. They could get married when they like.
But for background information I married my first wife just so we could get on the same roster at work. We were living together but the organization only afforded roster changes to married couples. We were only married for 3 years. So as you can see marriage is just a social arrangement as far as I’m concerned.
Thirty odd years later we are still friends and go out together to anything we both like.
If it was the same date and YEAR, then yeah, it would bother me. Otherwise, no. If we lived on Pluto, I might be miffed, but here on Earth we only have 52 Saturdays to choose from in any given year, so there are bound to be things happening on anniversaries.
I’m female.
P.S. Not asked, but if you want to name your baby the same name as my kid, that’s peachy, too. I don’t hold patents on names.
Same - I was thinking “wouldn’t the guests have already committed to the first wedding?”
And no, the same day wouldn’t bother me. I wouldn’t expect anyone outside of me and my fiance to remember the date we got married, let alone take it into consideration when they were planning their own wedding.
See that’s what I’m talking about, it’s not that big of a deal…
As for the naming of a kid. I’ve seen both sides of that coin. I knew a woman who was giving birth very close to another co-worker. They both liked the name Jack for a boy [and they were both having boys] One was very miffed they they were going to have the same name…I tried to point out that Jack was one of the top 10 names of the year…no matter.
But I guarantee if they were dueling over naming their kid Michael or some other extremely common name they wouldn’t be at odds.
I’m interpreting this as the sibling is getting married on the anniversary of the other sibling’s existing marriage. If that’s the case, it seems to be making a mountain out of a molehill.
However to deliberately schedule a wedding on the same day as a sibling’s already scheduled wedding is hugely dickish, IMNSHO.
Mr. Neville and I got married on Labor Day weekend. His brother decided to get married on Labor Day weekend (but not the same date) in a later year. He asked us if it would bother us if they did that. I went and said, “Why on earth would that bother us?”
Now, if it was on the same day of the same year, or within a couple of weeks (because a lot of family members travel for weddings, and might not want to do that for two weddings so close together), yes, that would be dickish.
Now, I could see some confusion coming from having first cousins with the same first name, so I wouldn’t do that. But then again, I think having kids named after their parents creates the same kind of confusion and should be avoided as well. Fortunately, Mr. Neville’s family is Ashkenazic Jewish, and naming kids after living relatives is not done in that culture, and my family has no strong naming traditions one way or the other.
I wouldn’t care. It’s not like an anniversary is a big extended family deal every year - once it’s done you just each celebrate your anniversary separately.
For Italian families, it used to be considered standard to name the first born son after the paternal grandfather. So my Dad had 7 or 8 cousins named Dominic. It’s amusing to see the different things they’re all called to distinguish them - there’s a Dominic, a Dom, a Big Dom, a Mickey, a Mick, a little Mickey, etc.
It would annoy me a little unless there was some particular reason they’re choosing that date - like it’s the anniversary of the day they met, or it’s the only day this year they could reserve a coveted location. If they were just picking a date more or less at random, I would expect them not to choose my own anniversary.
Personally? I don’t see where it is even worth thinking about, much less being miffed over. I don’t know the anniversary dates of my 4 siblings - does anybody keep up with that?
I wouldn’t care. It isn’t like anniversary celebrations are family events. The same exact day and year would be annoying (and stupid) but this…not so much.
But is it on a Saturday, seven years later? Or on the exact same date on, say, a Monday? Because the latter is a bit odd. Though I still can’t see why I’d be annoyed, unless I had some big anniversary cruise planned that week.
Female. Nope. Anniversaries and birthdays aren’t big deals to me though - I know they are much bigger deals to other people.
However, if it were a big second wedding (oh, you have to come, everyone will be there) and a big anniversary for us (like 25) and we were planning on being out of town to celebrate, I wouldn’t change plans to be there either.
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