He keeps making it sound like that but the other day he said it was ok to be fat as long as you wear the right clothing and take care of yourself and are related to his wife who is Mexican. Mexicans come in many shapes and sizes - people of the SDMB, just fail at being thin.
But yeah otherwise everything since then has been “I don’t like fat people in tight clothes because all fat people are lazy and disorganized.”
Did your wife have any response (or indeed, concerns) about why you are so obsessed with the topic of how not attracted to fat women you are?
Because we’re still waiting for your response.
Mrs Incubus, if you’re reading this, please ask your hubby WTH, and ask if he can explain on the Dope. Thanks!
Probably no-one needs to actually respond to this, but yeah, that link is just basically saying “Look! Where there’s more food, and more prosperity, obesity rates are higher!”. Well, sure. No-one is going to say it’s only about genetics/physiological traits, such that even someone who’s fasting will stay the same weight.
But there’s plenty of support for additional factos such as hormones such as leptin, different appetite levels, digestive system microfauna and yes, some genes have been linked, all affecting how hungry a person feels, how easily they can put on weight, and how hard it will be to lose it.
In fact, given the very low rates of success of people trying to lose large amounts of weight, I would suggest that willpower is probably one of the smaller factors.
How you doin’?
Willpower is the biggest factor, bar none. Think people are genetically predisposed to defying the laws of thermodynamics? Even endocrine disorders only account for a 10-15 lb difference in a person’s weight. For someone to get past 300lbs it is all on them and their own neglect.
Something tells me that if his wife really read this, a fly on the wall might hear her cursing him a blue streak under her breath.
“You told them about my niece? Family business? Out there where anyone can Google it?”
Yes, we’re impressed by your high standards too. A clean house, an average BMI, an average-paying job driving the dirty masses around in circles all day, and the ability to run 3 miles. Next thing you know, you’ll be telling us that you have two colanders as well.
What are your medical qualifications, again?
I’m in healthcare management. My office is next door to our bariatric medicine department. None of the medical professionals who work there agree that it’s anywhere near as simple as you describe. The physical processes involved are complicated and not well understood. New research is changing their understanding of the factors at work all the time.
There are also psychological factors at work in obesity. Research has established that one of the biggest risk factors for morbid obesity is a high number of Adverse Childhood Experiences. The research demonstrates a strong correlation between a high number of ACEs and obesity in adulthood. This means experiences like child abuse, sexual abuse, neglect, exposure to violence, etc. Most people experience 1-2 ACEs in their childhood. People who are morbidly obese, however, are far more likely to have 4 or more ACEs in their background than thin people are. (They are also more likely to have problems with substance abuse, poverty, illegal acts, etc.)
Interestingly, some people with 4 or more ACEs turn out to do fairly well in adulthood. There is a strong correlation between good outcomes in this group, and having had a stable adult mentor in their lives, who looked out for them in some way.
This is well-established research and can easily be found with a Google search. In fact, Dr. Felitti and his research into ACEs and obesity began at Kaiser Permanente in the 1980s. Any social worker should be aware of it. I’m surprised your social worker wife has not made you aware of this research–and that she is cruel enough to continue to viciously mock and prejudge those who have this problem despite her education.
You may be an excellent physical specimen, but you would do well to develop a sense of compassion and kindness toward those less fortunate than yourself.
This made me LOL. I keep waiting to hear about these “high standards.” His life is textbook Joe Schmo.
Oh and if anyone cares to state their opinions on our friend Incubus with stronger language, please mosey on over to the Pit thread opened in his honor.
And that he has fresh fruit and milk with every meal.
It’s a “fat person”, not a person person.
Um . . .your “cite” is a blog written by a guy who rants about fat. McBloggenstein has written 112 rants against fat folk.
ETA: His list.
Huh…guess his niece-in-law is screwed then. Pity she didn’t have a stable adult mentor to look out for her.
But neither will be one of those cheap plastic dollar-store numbers. It’s only stainless steel and stoneware for the Incubus household.
I wouldn’t expect him to respond to this. Successful fat women do not and cannot exist in the Incubusverse, and therefore must be ignored. You’d get the same silence if you asked him to explain Melissa McCarthy’s success.
Given that there now is a Pit thread where Incubus can be beat upon, and that this thread has devolved to sneers and smears, I’m closing it.