She’s the eternal tourist.
I go only because she is, and asks me to go along.
If she’s not going, why the hell would I?
I have taken several vacations without Mr. Enocavy and he has taken a few without me. Sometimes we’ve done this because our available time off hasn’t coincided and sometimes one of us just wants to take a trip the other has no interest in. I like to travel solo sometimes, especially by car. It feels restorative.
My favorite solo trip by far was 3 1/2 weeks in Australia. Now I’m planning a road trip to the Southwest, either in March or October.
Mr. Enocavy and I have also taken many terrific trips together. We travel together far more often than separately.
My partner travels all the time for work, so his idea of a vacation is to stay home. And I enjoy traveling alone anyway. But sometimes I’ve joined him in a place for a few days.
In the OP’s case, we would both be concerned with the impact on the other couples: if we had agreed to pay 1/3 of the hotel costs, we would feel obligated not to cancel, I think. And if we were going to be paying for it anyway, someone might as well go. Whether that someone was one of us or a third party would really just depend on circumstances.
It would also really depend on whether or not the vacation was expensive enough that it meant fewer opportunities for later vacations. I wouldn’t go on vacation without him if it meant he couldn’t go on vacation at all, and vice-versa.
I have gone to see old high school friends and family without him. Those are very cheap “vacations” and I sort of enjoy going back into “just worrying about myself and what I want to do” mode in those circumstances. When visiting family and friends I always feel like I need to keep him entertained and that endless conversations about people he doesn’t know are boring (Although, to be honest, this is more my issue than his: he tends to be pretty happy regardless)
Depends on the type of vacation and who’s involved. It probably wouldn’t happen, but I have taken the kids by myself to my mom’s house to celebrate a few holidays when my husband wasn’t able to come. If we were older and the kids were out of the house, I wouldn’t feel bad about taking off for a girls’ weekend or something, but that’s about it.
I said ‘no’, but it’s happened twice in 20 years. The first time was when she wanted to fly up to Timbuktu, and I refused to get on the Russian-built plane. So she went with the post doctor (female) instead. The sandstorm they ran into was blinding and she really thought that they were going to crash. The pilot somehow managed to get the plane landed, but it was very iffy. She said they couldn’t see the ground until they were on it. To this day I’m happy I didn’t go. The second one was to SFO, but that was because I got sick and there was no point in her cancelling her ticket also.
Yes, we’ve done this quite a few times. Usually there are specific circumstances (one of us has accumulated too much leave, an invite from a friend or family member, etc). I once did a 9 day road trip by myself through the Arizona / Utah state parks because I had a lot of leave to kill. Another time my wife went to Spain with her grandmother. I’ve taken numerous long weekend vacations (hiking in Yosemite, etc) when we wife was traveling on business.
Perhaps the strangest was when I went on a two week cruise without her … with her family. Her grandmother likes to occasionally get a bunch of the family together and I think a combination of it being my “turn” because of the Spain trip and the room allocation working out right I got to go and she didn’t. It was fun explaining our group to people because all the couples ended up broken up: me (but not my wife), my father-in-law (but not his wife) and my sister-in-law (but not her husband), plus the grandmother.
I’m guessing we’ll do less vacations apart now that we have a son but even now she has a trip to Atlanta to visit family planned where I’ll be staying here.
No, the new employer wasn’t. He was with the same company for 21 years and was pretty miserable about it. The whole thing was a bit of whirlwind where he was contacted on linkedin and a week later he accepted the job offer. The amount he’s making now is his old salary + my salary and then stock options on top of that. It’s also a new position so he’s putting in a lot more work. I totally understand his point of view and would be doing the same thing.
No. She’s been my best friend for 44 years, wouldn’t be a vacation without her.
I’m currently in Vegas. She isn’t.
She’s taken her kids on trips to visit family without me. She is talking about going skiing. I have bad knees, one of which was caused by a ski accident. She is welcome to go without me.
I vacation every year with two girlfriends. Most years it’s just a long weekend or sometimes just an overnight somewhere close but at least 3 times in the last 15 years it’s been for a week or more.
I love travelling with my husband but we spend a lot of time together even when we’re not travelling so sometimes it’s good to get away with the girls.
I would love to go on a solo vacation, but we’re not usually in a place where we can afford more than one or two trips a year, so it would be selfish for one of us to take off knowing that would use up enough vacation time/money that there wouldn’t be enough for both of us to go on another one together.
My brother is single and goes off on weekend trips alone all the time, and I find myself envying him. I enjoy traveling with my husband, but I do kind of wish I could go on a vacation or two by myself so I could do all the museum trips and bookstore or history tours I wanted without feeling like I was ruining his good time.
I took my kids on spring and fall break vacations every year. Mrsin could not go because those were his heavy work periods. Mostly we went to DisneyWorld, but I did take my son to Las Vegas once and Greece once and I took my daughter to London and Hawaii several times.
As it stands right now, my boyfriend is only home 4 days a month. I think we would both, then, prefer to vacation together. As a matter of fact, my last vacation just thus past month was going on the road with him for two weeks while he was working and it was very, very cool.