Has Zsa Zsa Gabor still got a pulse- I’m feeling a bit itchy around the foul house.
Wait- did I have her in the death pool?
Well…Ashton Kutcher hasn’t any regrets…on the other hand, Demi Moore seems a bit worse for wear.
Age differences are important to some, not to others.
I might add that going around demanding that other people “get over” things about you isn’t a great indicator of maturity either. Not that I’m putting the OP down; there’s nothing wrong with acting like you’re 18 when you’re 18. But yeah, even if you act 23 when you’re 18, that doesn’t impress many folks, really.
I used to think like you.
However, trust me. “Don’t stick your dick in the crazy” is sound, good advice.
I’ve got no problem with your situation, its your life but if you were my son, I would be seriously worried about your judgement and vulnerability, and hoping to high hell that you come to your senses.
Just saying.
Everywhere possible?
Joe
OP should check out a song called ‘Lucille’ by an artist named Fred Eaglesmith.
If your friends give you grief, make them listen to it too!
And I don’t think that there have been many who has reached 40, thought back to how “mature” they were at 18 and how mature they thought they were, and laughed a little.
And those I’ve met that were really mature for their age, to the point that they wouldn’t laugh about the statement in hindsight, had really hard lives that forced maturity. An old acquaintance at eighteen had been emancipated from her parents for two years because her stepfather sexually abused her, was working full time and picking up her degree in night school. She was mature for her age. And she was mature as in “had the life experiences and maturity of 24.”
But that doesn’t mean it can’t work. A friend of mine married a man 20 some years older than her when she was in her early 20s. He was immature. Still is in many ways. But she hasn’t really outgrown him. It works. They are happy.
Jesus Luiz (Brazilian model; 21 when married to Madonna) seems to like his situation.
Of course, come divorce time, he will most likely walk off with >$10 million, makes it nicer for him.
Have a good time while it lasts.
Well BPC, the good news is that you are a young bachelor and this part of your life allows for exploration and experimentation (with safeguards of course). When you are young and single, you have the energy and stamina to do almost anything you want…traveling the world, explore sex with many different types of people, have the physical ability to work hard and in any part of the world you want, etc. It will help you become a well-rounded individual.
For her though, it’s a different story. Her relationship with you is hindering her ability to form a permanent intimate relationship with someone who can identify and meet ALL of her needs…not just sex (which I believe you are definitely meeting her needs there!), but other needs that deal more along the lines of security (physical, emotional, and financial), communication (reading not just verbal queues, but picking up on the physical and emotional queues that she herself may assume that you should be able to read). Her life experiences are going to start to conflict with your need to “learn as you go”…arguments and resentments will increase as you try to maintain the relationship for sake of having sex, but the sex itself will never overcome the other issues that will continue to build as time goes on.
When I saw that you posted that the relationship is “stable” at this moment, it will not guarantee that the future of this relationship will remain stable, not next week, not next month, not next year, etc. The oxytocin is running your show at the moment, giving the two of you the temporary idea that the relationship is stable, but it’s only a matter of time when the honeymoon period wears off, and the real life issues and disagreements will start creeping into the relationship.
The sad thing is that while the two of you are having fun, your friend is emotionally unavailable to a man who is able to meet all of the needs I stated earlier, and she is further delaying the possibility of forming a real and lasting relationship with that type of man. BPC, this is NOT a criticism of you though, it’s just that you two are in different stages of life that are beyond your control, no matter how well intentioned the two people of making this work.
Your friends mean well, but if they are young like you, they probably will have a harder time expressing what they really feel, so anger at the situation was probably the only way to express it.
I wish you luck, and enjoy it while it lasts…the next woman you come across might reap many rewards from the talents that you learned with your current lady.
But maybe she doesn’t want a ‘future’ as much as a ‘right now’. Let the woman have her nooky, who’s it hurting? Why shouldn’t she get a few weeks/months/whatever, of teenage wood if she can find it?
(Would you feel the same if you knew she had an inoperable brain tumor and only 8 months to live? Or would you then say, well good for that broad!)
Will this relationship go the distance? Not likely but who knows? There are no guarantees with any relationship.
I suspect when other issues arise, they’ll handle them. Maybe by breaking up, but so what? As long as they both had fun, where’s the harm, I’m not seeing it.
I don’t think he’s entertaining marrying her, or moving into her house, so I’m not seeing a downside for any party.
I do question that this thread isn’t just a little bragging though!
According to BPC, she wasn’t seeing much of any romantic action for quite some time. If she spends a year or two getting great sex with a guy in his late teens, it’s hard to see how she’s any worse off. Hell, when they decide it’s time to call it quits, she’ll probably be happier and more optimistic (and therefore more appealing to other men) for having had this fling.
Hell, I spent a lot of my teens and 20s in relationships I knew weren’t going to go the distance. I suppose I was unavailable for that perfect romance, but it wasn’t knocking at my door, and those relationships were a hell of a lot better than nothing at all. And you can always drop your temporary fling if Mr. or Ms. Right comes along.
I’m totally seeing this as a parody guidance counselor booklet.
You guys are right…she can get it if she wants it and I’m not stopping/criticizing her. For all I know, this just might give her the swagger and confidence she needs to be open to another relationship with Mr. Right…problem is that dropping that temporary fling is much harder/convoluted than just saying “I need to move on, I found somebody else”…there are threads here and elsewhere where people are stuck because of having her emotional intimacy split between two guys, where both are expecting full emotional intimacy from her. It’s much harder to build a strong relationship that way.
As for the 8 months left to live scenario, BPC would have posted about it if she cared enough to tell him (signs of a stable relationship) which I would respect the relationship even more so…after all, wouldn’t BPC deserve to know that he has gotten into a limited relationship with someone who knew they were going to die in the near future so he can decide to stay or go? And what if she doesn’t care about him (signs of an immature and/or sex-only relationship) and use him to fulfill the short-term need of sex. That would be quite a selfish act, and would show a lack of respect towards BPC.
Or she can cook meth, and he can sell it…and make a business out of it…
How is it a selfish act, if he’s getting what he’s happy with, out of it too?
And why is anyone obligated to tell, that they have been given, a death sentence diagnosis? That’s an awfully personal thing, I’m not entirely sure I agree with you.
Besides, maybe she’ll tell him when she breaks up with him, in a few months or weeks, when she’s feels him getting too invested or having some other issue. How would we know? Until someone is actually being harmed, they are both adults and should enjoy the rush, I say.
Oh my god this thread is fucking hilarious. Like, I just couldn’t stop laughing while reading it.
They seem to like me well enough. 
No, the situation is that I post on facebook that I’m in a relationship, and then my friends are all like “who’s this chick” and I don’t want to lie.
I know it can’t last forever. It’ll last as long as it does, you know?
Err… It’s been 10 years for her. I understand your critique, but “further delaying”… I think that might play second fiddle in her mind to being with someone… I dunno.
Why does everyone keep saying this? God, I wish it were true… She’s so fucking shy in bed. She won’t even let me go down on her, and it drives me nuts because I want to make her feel good, and get her off, but she won’t let me. ;__; Let alone teach me.
Not very rant-tastic. I think the problem with your OP is that while it’s nominally a Pitting of people who are jerkish about the age difference between you and your girlfriend, you’re not really venting about their jerkish reactions so much as you are chatting about your own views of the relationship.
Most romantic/sexual relationships between teenaged young adults and fiftyish middle-aged ones are pretty flawed or unhealthy in some way. Your relationship may well be an exception, but you can’t be surprised that people are going to react to it based on their perceptions of what is typical in such a relationship rather than on your personal opinion of it.
Funny that you are showing the maturity of an eighteen year old’s similarly aged friends, then.
NVM