My prediction: you will either marry very soon, and probably badly, since you will be highly motivated by sexual need and desire, then after that is satisfied you will no doubt discover what a bad choice you made in the heat of the moment.
Or
You will turn into a raging psychopath.
Only time will tell. But I’m betting on the first. So common, so sad…
Diane, it is so hard to get upset with you with that little Kitten thing in you message. But I agree with you too. It is a personal choice. I know first hand the damage of having sex too early, outside of a committed relationship. It really sucks when you do meet the right person and there is all of this shame and baggage.
I also married too young…at about Adam’s age. Worst mistake of my life. But here is the problem: If you shouldn’t get married until you are , say, 26-27, then you have to fight sexual urges for like 13 years. OUCH!
What is the answer? Painful abstinance or damging indulgence?
My vies on sex are that it is best used in marriage. Not only is it created for marriage, but it's the most healthy inside the marriage setting. (PLUS the fact that God says we are only to use it inside of marriage)
However, I do not believe that God created sex only for procreation. God created our bodies for pleasure. (I doubt anybody can deny this) If He wanted sex to be only for procreation, then He wouldn't have made it so pleasurable. So my philosophy is this: If you're not married, abstinence is the key. But if you ARE married, then by all means, go for it once a week and twice on Sundays. ;)
Stoid says:
Well, you seriously underestimate me Stoid. I’ve waited what…7, or 8 years and not had sex? (I didn’t even start THINKING about it until I was around 13, or 14) Believe me, I can go another 8…15…20…50 years no problem. Unlike some people, I’m not DRIVEN by “sexual need and desire.” I want to wait until I find the mate that God has chose for me. I want to love her unconditionaly, and pledge my life to her. THEN I can FULLY enjoy consumating my marriage. And it’ll make waiting all the more sweet.
My vies on sex are that it is best used in marriage. Not only is it created for marriage, but it's the most healthy inside the marriage setting. (PLUS the fact that God says we are only to use it inside of marriage)
However, I do not believe that God created sex only for procreation. God created our bodies for pleasure. (I doubt anybody can deny this) If He wanted sex to be only for procreation, then He wouldn't have made it so pleasurable. So my philosophy is this: If you're not married, abstinence is the key. But if you ARE married, then by all means, go for it once a week and twice on Sundays. ;)
Stoid says:
Well, you seriously underestimate me Stoid. I’ve waited what…7, or 8 years and not had sex? (I didn’t even start THINKING about it until I was around 13, or 14) Believe me, I can go another 8…15…20…50 years no problem. Unlike some people, I’m not DRIVEN by “sexual need and desire.” I want to wait until I find the mate that God has chose for me. I want to love her unconditionaly, and pledge my life to her. THEN I can FULLY enjoy consumating my marriage. And it’ll make waiting all the more sweet.
Dear ARG, I’m glad to hear that you feel that way. It is a much more realistic view than some religions. But this raises another question in my mind - if yours is the only true religion, what is the position on people who were married in another faith? Or even not by a clergyman of any kind, but only a legal ceremony performed by a justice of the peace? Are these people enjoying sex within legitimate union, or are they sinners?