It seems that the fall of 2009 has been a bad one for Doper breakups. Here’s another for the list: my wife and I are splitting up.
I’m not exactly sure why. She tells me that it’s been coming for a while, in spite of the fact that there have been few problems between us and we had even booked a Christmas getaway that was long overdue. But she cancelled our holiday suddenly, announced she was going to be spending Christmas with an old friend who lives back across the country, and advised she would be seeing a lawyer. At some point in the New Year, she would be moving across the country and taking up residence with the old friend. This news all came as quite a shock to me.
I’m being intentionally oblique here, since I’d really rather not spill details, some of which are hurtful to think of. She laid this news on me a few weeks ago, and I’ve been dealing with it since. A few of my online and in-person friends know, and my workmates know; and I’ve spoken with one of the lawyers in our office who has agreed to represent me in divorce proceedings. For now, my wife and I are still under the same roof, and things are civil, even pleasant at times; but it’s not easy.
Anyway, Dopers, if you have any good thoughts to spare, could you send them my way? Christmas was always a happy time in our house, but this year’s doesn’t look like it will be that way. I’ll make the best of things (lots of televised football, for example, a pile of interesting books, the opportunity to catch up on work, and getting together with friends) and hope that everything works out well for all parties; but I could sure use some good thoughts and some reassurances right about now.