Hmm…I hesitate to submit this post but what the hell. Sometimes you can be too close to a situation to see it for what it is. Sometimes family and friends may tell you only what you want to hear. It’s nice to be able to post in a forum where everyone will provide their honest two cents.
When my SO drinks I find him incredibly annoying. Not every time, but most times. It’s not that he does anything outlandish. His voice just gets loud, he wants to debate about things in which I have no interest, he slurs his speech, and says things he normally wouldn’t say while sober. His overall character is just different.
An easy solution to the problem would be to simply leave when I start finding him annoying. Currently, this is what I do. Unless I’m drinking alongside him, I begin to feel tense the moment I see his personality begin to change. And…I honestly don’t feel like drinking with him every Friday and Saturday just so I won’t be tense around him.
The problem is that he wants to buy a house together…this is where I hesitate. The thought of living with him and knowing that two days a week I’ll either have to join him, leave home, or spend it in some other part of the house leaves me feeling drained. I’ve voiced my concern and he tells me this is the way he unwinds after a long week and that I should just love him for who he is.
I’d love to go out with him on a Friday or Saturday night with other people but he said he doesn’t want to drink and drive…admirable but then if we go out that means I’ll be the one sober and he will most likely drink even more knowing he won’t have to drive home. He says he’s happy staying at home and just watching TV or playing hearts on the computer.
I feel sad just thinking about this. What are your thoughts?