…really, someone should do a study and see how often a sex-related thread is posted to this board. My guess would be an average of five per day or so.
Anyway, my contribution to this perverted posting frenzy is to ask how long was the interval between when you met the person you lost your virginity with and when you actually did lose your virginity with them?
Like many questions asked here, this one stems from a need to find out if I really am as abnormal as I think I am. I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost seven months now, and the most we’ve done is slept together three or four times - and unexcitingly, I mean “slept together” literally. Just sleep. No nookie. One on hand, seven months seems like a long time considering that we’re (a) not religious at all, so we’re not waiting until we’re married or anything like that, and (b) both young and horny. On the other hand, we’re both still living at home, and despite our horniness we both have hang-ups about getting a motel room for a night. Hmm.
So how about you? Did you wait until you were married? Was that really really frustrating sometimes? Or was it only a matter of drunken adolescent minutes between laying eyes on them and just plain laying on them?
I guess I knew her about 2 years but we’d been dating for about 2 weeks when she knocked my feet out from under me. She was WAY more experienced and I had WAY more hair!
I can’t believe how often I’ve discussed My First Time since joining this board. Man, you guys are obsessed.
About five weeks. I think. Not long, but it seemed like eons at the time.
With my husband, it took a bit longer: 9 years. We met when I was 18, became friends instantly, and then stayed just friends for years before finally admitting that there was something else there, and adding sex and romantic love to our friendship.
If I had it to do over again, I’d have attacked hubby when I first met him at 18 and been with him ever since, because he’s the most wonderful man in the world (not to mention marvy in bed) and I would have spared myself a lot of jerks.
About 6 years. She was the daughter of one of my mom’s friends, and my sitter for many years. She was a couple of years older than me.
Aaaaahhhhh. One of my fondest memories.
I would venture to say about 2 years.
We dated, but he came to town only about 5 times a year.
I waited til he had his vasectomy.
We had sex once, then I waited 5 years when I met my husband.
Oh, about 7 1/2 years, hee hee. We’d known each other for six years when we started dating, and actually managed to abstain for a year and a half before having our first night of intercourse (we were both virgins). That was a year and a half ago…and all I gotta say is, we’re making up for lost time!
Ah, and as for when we actually had sex for the first time…that was my birthday present that year. And heck, his birthday is three days before mine; it was a belated gift for him as well!
Three weeks. But, we met one night at a concert, she got my number somehow, called me, and then we spoke on the phone and whatnot for a few weeks until she was able to come visit me (her in NYC, me in DC). Then, that night, a glorious thing happened…
Known him for 16 days, dated for 11. And there were ALREADY signs that I was making a big mistake, but like a fool I ignored them… Grr.
You may be abnormal, Erroneous, but it sounds like you’ve got a good head on your shoulders. Kudos to you and your girlfriend for getting to know each other first.
Well, i’d known her for a month and three years, but we’d been dating for four months. We’d done a lot of other kinky stuff together, but one day, nobody was home (well, except for my sister who was asleep in the next room), we both got up the courage, and next thing you know, i’m waving a fond “good ridance” to my virginity as it rolls away on a train to the Boise. It sent me a post card a few weeks ago. It says the potatos there are excellent.
We now return you to your regularly scheduled normalcy.
About 90 minutes from meeting 'til penetration, the foreplay only took us about 45 minutes to get to, and that was cause we were waiting for the last person to leave the party. It was spectacular.
It took three months for me to lose by virginity to my first boyfriend. With my (now) husband, it took three days. (Although that had special circumstances.)
Although I wasn’t a virgin when I got married (lost my virginity to a high-school sweetheart), Mrs. Rastahomie and I didn’t do it with each other until we were married. We met in 1992, started dating in 1995, married in 1997… so either five years or two years, depending on how you look at it.
So wait for a school holiday (or skip), and wait for your parents to go to work or otherwise get out of the house. Worked for me until I got my own place.
Or (scary thought) are they the type who watch your every move together?
