Young Guys Older Women

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I was reading through HarrdyGirl’s Post earlier and her intended escipades with a younger man… (Have Fun). Anyway I have been in a commited very loving and passionate relationship now for 4 months with a damn cute little 36 year old lady (I’m 23) that I met strangely enough online. Intreinstgly enought, we had a great laugh over this, there is no way we would have ever hooked up in the normal way (bar, club, through friends, etc). The strangest part of all this is I really am falling in love with this woman… oh yea and the sex is great. :slight_smile:

The worst part is it’s a long distance relationship… :frowning: But we talk nightly on the internet, and well we have both become quite proficient at cyber sex… when the real thing is 200+ miles away it will do… LOL.

Any thoughts or stories of your own are welcome. I’m gonna show her this latter, should get a laugh. :smiley:

NPavelka

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Nothing really to add NP. Other than to wish you well in your relationship and offer a warm welcome to the SDMB. :slight_smile:

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That is not too bad! Three hours? You guys should be able to drop the “cyber” every weekend! I was married to a lady 9 years my senior. Sex was great, and if she weren’t just a bad person (independent of age, she was a bad person earlier) I would be more than likely married to a 44 year old.

Oh, and Welcome!

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Welcome!

I love younger men. They are * so* enthusiastic and don’t need a nap as often.

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We are getting together about once a month, but expecially with my work schedule It makes life difficult. I’m a researcher working with DNA at a university, so I’m in the lab a lot of late nights and weekends… :frowning: It’s also tough for her to get away because she has children from a previous marriage… pretty good kids though… :smiley:

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I once dated a woman who was 11 years older. She was smart, funny and a wonderful person. Then I ended the relationship (very long distance). What the hell was I thinking? She was a jewish doctor for crying out loud…
::goes and sits in the corner banging head on the wall::

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Ever since I was 26, every lady I’ve dated has been 2-6 years older than I. In fact, I haven’t dated anyone under the age of 30 since I was 26 (seeing as how I am 30 now, that’s no big deal anymore). It’s not a requirement of mine for the women I date to be older; that’s just how it’s worked out.

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I’m not age prejudiced so I have them on both sides of the fence plus some the same age as I.

Age prejudices is one of the stupidest ones, I think, because eventually we all are going to be that age someday.

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Before RickQ and I met, I was quite worried about our age difference–I am 40 and he just turned 25 last week. For those of you who don’t know, we met here at the SDMB and carried on a email/ICQ/phone relationship for a few months before we met in London last week. I knew I liked him, but I was afraid that in person, he would seem like a kid to me–most men I have met casually who are his age do seem like kids. In fact, when we first met online, I discouraged him from flirting because I thought I was too old for him. I don’t know if it is partly because he is British or simply due to the man he is, but Rick does not seem like a kid to me at all. The age difference that I worried about turned out to be a nonissue when we met.

The other issue people have raised–that of long distance–is more of a problem. I live in the US, Rick is in the UK. Leaving him yesterday when I came back here was incredibly hard. He is planning a trip here in a few months, but right now that seems too long…

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Welcome!

To make things straight I’m not having a relationship w/ Joe outside of sex. He’s a 21 year old Limp Biskit fan who collects comic books.

I ususally only have serious relationships w/ men my age or older. Younger guys usually aren’t emotionally mature enough or focused enough.

But every so often give me a young man with a ot of energy to blow off some steam with…
Down Shelby!

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“To make things straight I’m not having a relationship w/ Joe outside of sex.”
I always wondered what a woman meant when she said that. First, how could you only have sex? do you meet when he is behind a wall with a hole cut out where he puts his penis?

There always seems to be more relationship happening then the woman thinks. Give it some thought & see if you can find it.

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well, I have been with a number of younger guys and they were great, I am now in a relationship with a guy who is 34 and I am 42. It is great and we plan to be together forever.

We met on the internet and I moved in about a week ago. Couldnt be happier, so there is alot to say for younger guys.

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I met my SO online, so his being 8 years younger wasn’t an issue. We moved steadily and quickly into a RL relationship and the age thing is still a non-issue. There are, however, significant pluses. He says I’m beautiful without the coltish awkwardess----I can walk in heels gracefully. He is open-minded and not cemented in his habits. Together, we can have whatever we want.

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I keep finding such great ideas on this message board!

I have the day off tomorrow. I think I’ll go lawn bowling, or play shuffleboard…

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I’m 36 and my SO is 45. We compliment each other nicely and have a terrific relationship. It doesn’t hurt that she’s smart (doctorate), funny, stunning to look at, an amazing lover, and an all around wonderful person. She’s asked if the age difference is an issue with me once or twice but now seems to be satsified that it isn’t a big deal. God, how I love this woman. I think I’ll call her right now…

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Handy,

Joe and I are fuck buddies,period. I like him as a friend but a serious relationship? No way.

He has no long range goals, no real focus and the only things we really have in common are we work in the same dept,.we watch wrestling and sex.

Not enough for a serious relationship IMHO. Maybe it sounds cold but I’m being realistic here.

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Um…Friendship is a serious relationship, hardygrrl. As long as you’re being realistic, you might try admitting that this guy isn’t your friend either, he just happens to be attached to a tool you use for sex.

I just like to get the terminology straight.

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For those who don’t know,
I’m 37 and Montfort is 27,
and so what…
Who cares??
I don’t and he doesn’t either.
We love each other and that is all that matters,
that’s my opinion.

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Oldman-

What I meant by relationship is a fully committed to each other deal.

Joe,trust me,is well aware of what is going on here and has NO problems with it.

I am a very sexual person-I’ve been told I have the sex drive of a 16 year old boy. When I’m in a fully commite,emotionally attached relationship I am completely faithful and usually making my man VERY happy ifyouknowwhatimean.

If I’m not involved with someone I will seek out a fuckbuddy to keep myself from pulling my hair out or doing the one nighters. So far I’ve had 2 fuckbuddies in my life,both knew what the deal was before we started and both had NO COMPLAINTS.

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hardygrrl,

I didn’t mean to sound censorious, and I hope you didn’t take it that way. If so, my humble apologies, that’s not what I meant. It’s not easy to make yourself clear with only words, no body language, no tone of voice, no nudging and winking. Even with all those extras it’s often not easy.

All I meant was that it’s a misnomer to call this guy a friend. He’s a self-propelled dildo, and as long as you know that and he knows that and there are no other expectations, that’s great, I wish you both well and much joy of each other.

The sex drive of a 16-year old boy? Jeez, where were you when I needed you? I know exactly what you mean by a fuck buddy, I’ve had one too (once), but I’ve also been married for the last 20 years so I’m a little out of touch with such things.

But maybe a real dildo would be better. You can’t get AIDS, herpes, chlamydia, syphilis, or any other nasty disease from a dildo. Unless you share it. (Don’t.) It’s alway ready when you are. You don’t have to phone it to come over, it’s always right there. It’ll never want to meet your parents. It’ll never sit around in its underwear watching football all day. It doesn’t sweat, belch, fart, drool, snore, or ask to meet your sister. You can have as many of them as you want and nobody need ever know. You can get one as large or as small as you want. In any color you want, and nobody will hassle you.

Bit of a hijack. Sorry folks, back to the OP: there’s no such thing as too old or too young as long as you can do good things for each other. The meaning of life is to be found in what we can do to, for, and with, each other. That’s all there is.

And I’m not really old, I just felt that way when I joined SDMB.