It wouldn’t be a demand. My wife knows my pssscode, and I hers. She can look at my phone at will, and often does to upload new pictures of the kids.
I’m not comfortable with the word “demand” because I don’t respond well to demands. However, if he asked nicely, I’d hand over my phone. He knows the passcode already, as do my kids, so I’ve got nothing to hide really.
That being said, if my husband started locking his phone and being squirrelly about divulging the passcode, I’d start to get a little :dubious:. Friends of ours got divorced soon after the husband started locking his phone and demanding privacy. You can guess why he suddenly started locking his phone.
My phone isn’t locked and I frequently leave it lying around at home where he can pick it up and see what’s on there. He won’t find anything odd - he knows I have a list of phone numbers for pretty much all our mutual friends but that’s hardly a secret.
He does have a lock on his phone but it’s his business number and frankly I am quite convinced I have nothing to be suspicious about. I’m sure if I wanted to look at his phone, I would only have to ask and he’d hand it over. Not that I’ve ever felt the need to ask, we’ve been together 16 years but that doesn’t mean he has any less right to privacy.
If my husband started demanding just about anything from me, he and I would have to have a little chat - I do not respond well to demands, particularly ones arising out of nowhere. If he asked politely, I might roll my eyes that one of his own phones (he has a work and a personal phone) wasn’t near to hand, but I wouldn’t think twice about handing it over. That being said, my phone isn’t locked and he certainly knows where I store it. If he were actually suspicious of me, he could easily take it off the charger and have a look when I was making dinner or in the bathroom - or still asleep since he typically wakes up hours earlier than I do on weekends.
Aside from the fact that he’s well aware I’m unlikely to cheat on him (I have Views on that subject), he’s also well aware that I’m bright enough to conceal the evidence.
She would never ask; both because she knows there would be nothing to be “found” along with the real possibility she’d never see or hear from me again.
I am an industrial electrician, so all of my coworkers are men. I know three different guys at work that have me in their phone as Tom instead of Tonya so they don’t have to explain to their snooping wives who I am. :rolleyes:
No problem here. I don’t even have a lockscreen on mine, just pick it up and hit the screen-on button.
This. He knows the passcode on my phone and my home computer, and I sometimes ask him to look something up for me on the computer, or answer my phone when I’m driving. But if he demanded to see either, I’d be pretty upset.
I have nothing to hide, but the demand would bother me. I had one boyfriend, many years ago, who went through my phone history behind my back, and then pitched a fit over a ten minute conversation I had had with my ex. (I ran into him at a gas station, we were both late for work so no time to do more than say hello, but I wanted to catch up a bit.) I told the boyfriend about running into my ex, but not mentioning the call, was apparently, an indication that I must be sneaking around. It was the beginning of the end.
With my current partner, we both leave our phones lying around, and I can’t imagine either of us feeling a need to snoop through texts or history trying to find something incriminating to start a fight over.
My cell phone is a ‘2005 wants its phone back’ flip phone. If my wife wanted to see what was on it, it’s usually on the recharger in the kitchen when we’re at home, so she could look through it anytime to see whose phone numbers were in my contacts, and what texts I’d recently sent or received. It certainly wouldn’t bother me if she did so.
If she ‘demanded’ to see what was on my phone, I’d be more worried about the sudden personality change than anything else, because she’s not like that.
She wouldn’t have to ask, since we know each other’s lock codes.
But I’m in the same camp as others here… it wouldn’t be a discussion about the cell phone but about why she has crazy ideas in her head to begin with.
Of course I’d comply, but since she knows how to unlock it she can feel free to snoop whenever the whim strikes. I know how to unlock her phone too. I wouldn’t have married her if this weren’t the case. If you feel like you deserve to have privacy and the ability to keep secrets from me while we’re in a relationship, we are not compatible. My ex-wife had trust issues and it’s a huge red flag for me.
Hubby and I share. It is not a big deal because we trust each other. Trust is something we build so as we like to say, anything worth having is worth working hard for.
If I have a surprise gift for his birthday or something, I simply keep it to myself until it’s time. It is weird in this day and age where people are Twittering and FeeBing about what they had for breaky, sneezed twice that day, and stuff, I know, but I am just me. 
Though I agree on the smartphone openness issue, I can’t agree with the TOTAL lack of privacy. I keep diary; she doesn’t get to read that. Not do I ask her what she discusses in therapy. If my baby sister tells me something in confidence, I wouldn’t share it with my wife. Et cetera.
Both of our phones look the same, so from time to time we each grab the wrong one on the way out the door - in other words, no need to “demand” anything, we see each other’s phone contents by accident anyway.
I’m in the “absolutely not” camp. To me, trust in a relationship sometimes means trusting your partner with their privacy.
The contents of my phone, my email accounts, my private RSA keys, etc.; these are all things that parts of my private identity and are not up for sharing. May as well ask to borrow my kidney. Actually, that’s a bad example. I would give a kidney to a loved one who needed it… but not the passcode to my phone. 
If they demand, nope.
If we have a reasonable discussion and they ask, probably.
FTR, my wife and I have both been cheated on by spouses, the mutual understanding of how that feels went a long way toward cementing our friendship. My email is always logged in, my cell isn’t locked. I leave both unattended for hours on end when I’m at home. If she, the kids, or the homeless couple in the spare bedroom wanna know what I might be saying about them or anything else, they have but to look. I wouldn’t care because I’m not a creep. Well, not in real life anyway.
My wife can already unlock my phone. If she had a strong desire to dig through it, I would wonder what the hell that was all about. She wouldn’t find anything incriminating.
Years ago an ex called my wife and made some outrageous, and false, accusations against me. She didn’t take that seriously, so I can’t imagine what it would take to shake her trust so much that she’d demand to search my phone.
There’s a poll? There must be something wrong with my browser because I’m not seeing a poll.
But if there is a poll my answer is yes. So check that. I ain’t got nothing to hide. I’d even tell her that her ringtone is “Smell Yo Dick.”