I was using my husband’s phone and noticed an adult site in the history called lonely and then a word that rhymes with witches.com.
Is it possible that he didn’t browse this site or is it 100% certain he did?
I don’t want to confront him about it unless I know for sure.
Please give me some advice. I’m not tech savvy.
I don’t know what he was trying to look at but I don’t think the site address you describe even goes to a working site. It seems pointless to question him about going to a blank page that says ‘Under Construction’.
Why wouldn’t you feel comfortable asking him about it? is he the type to explode on you just because you question him about something? If not, just ask him about it. If so, best to let the lonely bitches have him.
If you’re looking for alternate explanations, I suppose it’s possible that he clicked on a blind link not knowing where it led. It’s also possible that it was once an active site and that he heard about it somewhere and was simply exercising morbid curiosity.
It could be that it was a porn site rather than lonely women looking for men (which I assume is your fear).
Are there other seemingly adult sites in the history?
I’m oddly surprised that bitches.com doesn’t go anywhere, but that doesn’t necessarily mean anything. I remember a few years ago one of my employees had her 10 year old daughter at work for a little while. The daughter was playing around on one of our computers and I asked her if I could use it. She went and did something and I found something odd. I called the mother over to show her the history…she had gone to IHateMom.com. It’s a non working site or at least was at the time. She was just angry at her mom for something or other and let out her anger on the keyboard.
IOW, was the OP being a bitch? Does he work with some bitches? It’s possible he was just venting and punched BITCHES DOT COM into the phone get some excess energy out.
Which browser is it? If I browse a site with the stock browser, it shows entries for every page I visited.
I think the OP is talking about lonelybitches dot com, not bitches dot com. Both of them appear to be unused and for sale.
lonelybitches dot com can be purchased for the low low price of 9,975 USD.
Is it possible that your husband speculates in domain names?
Could it have been from an advert? Adverts that open tabs can appear in the history.
The site may be inactive now, but it was active three months ago.
Archived snapshot: [WARNING: VERY NSFW!!!]
http: //archive.today/ XpjMw
And if I may be so bold, you really shouldn’t complain about his porn-browsing habits any more than he should complain about you snooping through his private smartphone – just MHO. 
Of course it is not 100% sure he browsed the site. His finger could have accidentally brushed against a malicious link or an ad that went to that site, or some malware could have taken him there.
You will never know “for sure” without talking to him, and even then you might not know for sure. (If he denies it, you still will probably not feel like you know “for sure” if he is telling the truth or not.)
I don’t think you being tech savvy or not enters into it. The real issues are, what kind of person is he, and what kind of relationship do you have with him vis-a-vis trust?
In my younger days, a couple of times when I stumbled across situations (roughly equivalent to yours) with my fiance/wife, I would get paranoid, finally bring it up to her, and get an explanation that I couldn’t deny or verify, with the end result being I still didn’t know for sure but now I was in the position of having shown her that I didn’t trust her enough to give her the benefit of the doubt in the first place.
Ten years later, she has not given me any reason to feel like I would have been making a mistake by trusting her without question.
If you have a lot other niggling little concerns about his fidelity to you, and this browsing history is just another hint at a larger problem, it might be good for you to talk about it with him.
But if it is a one-off thing, I would let it slide.
It could have been an innocent mistake.
It could have been malware.
It could have been some horrible search engine text box auto-complete disaster or fat finger typing failure. Maybe he was trying to search for “Lonely Birches” or “Lovely Britches”.
He may even have been looking into adopting an abandoned dog for you.
Weak humor aside, unless you feel there are deeper problems that are causing you to question his actions, you should probably just forget about it.
If you come across something like this, and your instinct is to turn to strangers on the internet rather than talking about it like an adult with your husband, I find that more worrisome than whatever he’s doing on his phone.
Well…
The only realistic scenarios are that he chose to visit that site, or he accidentally clicked a banner ad while looking up porn on his phone. Viruses mostly target Internet Explorer and that’s not available on most cellphones, and adult ads are generally only shown on adult websites, to it’s hard to browse to them unless that’s what you’re going for. The History page won’t list the source of ads or other random nonsense that appears in a page. Only the full, loaded page shows up in your History.
Based on a Google translation from buddha_david’s link, the site does seem to be advertising its “localness”, which would imply something more than a porn library. On the other hand, you don’t name a website for hookups and affairs “lonelybitches**.com**” if you want actual women to show up. So my guess would be that he accidentally clicked or he was interested in finding a prostitute. If he doesn’t speak German, then the former is far more likely. If he does speak German then…
Men look at porn sometimes. Even incredibly happily married men. It’s a thing.
It’s like admiring a fine car that you see on the road. He didn’t put his key in it, let it go. And if he did look at that site it has absolutely nothing to do with you or you relationship.
An anecdotal story about a different phone thing that might have turned out differently if I wasn’t fully trusting. I was at a picnic with a family friend who I know from softball and he is also married to a woman who was my best friend at a job where we worked together closely. He is also a cop on the drug task force.
He said that they busted a local drug dealer and as usual they retrieved all his phone records. My son’s phone had made several calls to this number. Now, I believe that I know my son well and that he is about twice as straight-laced as I am. So I just asked him what was up.
He said “fucking Lance!” Lance (not his real name) is the brother of his girlfriend and a notorious drug user that had been in trouble, and still is to this day. He used to borrow son’s phone to make a few calls. We agreed that was probably a stupid practice.
“Delete my browsing history!” will be the last words out of my mouth.
I post on a board where uh moderation is lets say lax, and has a bunch of old friends. We love to post the most bizarre and disgusting porn just to get a laugh, women shoving live eels where the son don’t shine type stuff. These pics are in img tags, meaning they load from the originating server. So the site will show in the history, even though none of us went to it directly.
It could be something like that.
That’s a very good point. It could also be due to email spam, which sometimes have pictures that are hosted on a domain somewhere.
Is your concern simply him viewing porn, or are you concerned that it’s a site where he might arrange to actually meet some these “lonely bitches”?
She is admitting to not being tech savvy and hence wants to better understand what happened before confronting him with it. Surely that’s better than having a confrontation that may be completely unnecessary.
If you only knew the history he deleted…
I think the assumption that it would be a confrontation, rather than a simple discussion, is telling. My wife and I could easily discuss such a thing if it were to arise.
Yes, it is telling you that I read the OP, where she says she will “confront” him once she knows for sure.
Do you think word nitpicking and criticizing the OP’s relationship is helping?