I don’t mind my boyfriend lookng at porn, and he knows this. However he still deletes his internet history. But he forgot and I noticed a site called ‘adult friend finder.’ I assumed it was just porn and didn’t think anything of it.
However, from a comment I heard today it’s not a porn site. It’s a site to hook up with people for sex. I went to the website and it seems to be the case.
I am so NOT fucking impressed. My boyfriend has some SERIOUS explaining to do.
Just to point out the obvious, now *you * have gone to a website that offers a service for “adult friend finding”. What happens if he snoops around the url history and discovers what you have been up to?
Make sure he went there on purpose before you accuse him of anything. Before I had a pop-up blocker, that site would pop up ALL THE TIME, sometimes several times, on adult pages. Apparently, they have huge amount of advertising. I don’t know if the pop-up would be recorded in the history, though, if he wasn’t actually looking at the page.
Popups ARE web pages, and they do go in the history.
Adult Friend Finder was a popup I saw quite frequently until I got a popup blocker.
He’s not necessarily going to the site to hook up with someone. Adult Friend Finder also has a large number of galleries of free porn pics.
Uh…so they say.
Sometimes, pop-ups do show up in history. I found that out when my wife accused me of going to unsavory sites. I did a little digging and discovered they were pop-ups from sites she was going to to find out about adult (not hentai) anime.
There’s also the “what the hell is this" curiosity click.
Or there’s the possibility that he thought it was friends, not “friends” and he was looking for actual non-romantic people with the same interests. I knew somebody who was quite surprised when they found out “find people that share your interests” meant “we’re a dating service.” That one is unlikely though.
Peace - DESK
Thanks for the responces.
I plan to phone him and just casually bring it up during the conversation. I think I’ll do it now…
You’re going to have to record this conversation because I want to know how you’re going to bring that up:
AngelicGemma: Hi honey, how’s your day been?
Boyfriend: Oh it’s been fine.
AngelicGemma: *Say, did you know that you can search a person’s internet history on the computer? I’d love to know what this Adult Friend Finder is? Really, hon, *
:mad:WHAT IS IT!?:mad:
…honey? Are you there?
I’m back. (but forgot the pie.)
Actually it went somelike like
ring ring
Me- Hey
Boyfriend - Hey babe, how are you?
<bla bla. chit chat chit chat>
A few mins later…
Me - Really casual Oh, there’s something a wanted to ask. You know a while ago I saw your internet history and the porn site names?
Boyfriend - Susiciously yes…
Me - Well there was one called adult friend finder. I heard today that it’s a hook up site. So, erm… what were you doing on it?
Boyfriend procedes to blame pop ups, and picture links.
Coversation turns to other stuff.
So thats that sorted!
So you are not so trustworthy when you find some “evidence” but as soon as he has made some excuses, (all of which are probably true) you’re fine with it. I suggest you beat the truth out of him, with a feather duster.
That’ll teach him 
:pinky to mouth:Oh I am naughty
Damn You Smilies! You Ruined My Moment! Arghhh!
See, now, I’m going to have to join in here with a wail of frustration:
People, please stop looking through the browser histories and Internet caches of your spouses/significant others. No good has ever come of this, in the history of human relationships. Gemma - you just “noticed” the site? Didn’t go looking for it? How does that work exactly? I’m not trying to be difficult, but I’m surprised that your boyfriend wasn’t angry at you. If anyone - particularly my wife, who presumably trusts me - snooped through my browser history, found something in there that they found discomfiting, then came at me with a not-exactly-veiled accusation of something I hadn’t done… well, there’d be an argument. And there would be a problem with the relationship, because where there is snooping, there is no trust.
To be fair, if the OP had been typing a url into the address bar that started with “www.adu” the web address may have auto-completed. It’s not necessarily a case of cache-browsing.
Time for a little background info.
A few months into our relationship I asked to use his computer. He said yes. As I reached the computer he came running behind me and deleted the internet history. Which resulted in the following conversation -
Me - Mock shocked voice You haven’t been looking at porn have you?
Him - Guilty look Course not.
Me - You don’t have to delete the history. I don’t mind you looking at porn.
Him - But you’re not supposed to know I do it.
Me - Why?
Him - It’s just not done!
So it became a sort of game. I’d try and catch him out. He’s winning. He’s only forgotten to delete the history twice in the year we’ve been going out. It’s great fun when I manage it though. I get to take the piss. “Now that doesn’t sound like a very classy site honey!” “Big busted blondes? But I’m a red head!”
Amen, brother!
My wife apparently was “stalking” me here at the SDMB, and got all pissed about something I posted as a freakin’ joke! (I said something bad about her mother 
) She dredged it up in a big fight and I just kinda sat there thinking, “Wow. Isn’t this great? I have managed to find a way to get into trouble with the wife when I’m not even around!”
I wonder if she knows I scratch my ass and pick my nose (but not in that order) when no one is looking, too. :rolleyes:
“But I’ll always regret that Rwandan thing.”-- Bill Clinton
Yeah, I don’t know how many times I’ve craved information on “Adulation” :rolleyes:
But ceral, AFF is an interesting enough site without actually looking into their “services.” I suggest the two of you browse it together sometime…just to see what pops up.
(Bolding man)
What makes you so sure she’s stopped? bwa ha ha ha ha! She could just be waiting until you next post something she doesn’t like.
Err… that should be ‘mine’
As long as you wash your hands before reaching into the cookie jar, I don’t see the problem here…