I don’t know if I want to go into the details of what brought this about, but I have something that I feel is very important, to say. Although the following seems cliche, we often forget its importance.
[li]Never take your friends for granted! It’s too easy to “get used to” them, all they do, and forget how special they are.[/li][li]Always know who your real friends are, and show/tell them how much they mean to you! I can’t stress this enough![/li]
(PS: No one died or anything, I simply had an experience last night that awakened me.)
I strongly agree with you. Your freinds, besides your family, should be the most important part of your life. Sad thing is though, is I there is only one person I really, honestly, truely, consider my friend. Even so, I can tell him anything, without fear of him passing judgement on me, I can trust him, I can rely on him to cheer me up, and the same for him with me. He rocks!
So what happens if you have a friend for years and years, since you two were kids, and then out of nowhere she goes and does something that hurts you very deeply, apologizes for it and after you forgive her, goes out and does the same thing again?
Yes, this happened several months ago, but I’m still bitter.
Sorry about that. I know you are right but it’s so hard to trust people now.
I am going through a similar ordeal, which is I why I posted this thread. It has been nearly 3 years since I have seen the people I was with last night. I had hoped they would have changed for the better, but alas, they have not. Sadly, they seem to have gotten worse.
Friends that you do not feel comfortable being with, aren’t really your true friends, IMHO.
They didn’t do anything out of line last night, but I was very uncomfortable being with them. We have had some major problems in the past. I want to put them all behind us. Unfortunately, I can already see how the same problems may easily arise again. They not learned a thing, or grown up at all, during all this time.
Totally unrelated to the past problems, after three years of alienation, you would think that we all would have a lot to talk about and catch up on. However, I was ignored much of the evening while I was speaking, and they had very little to say for themselves. They were too busy being distracted by totally inane things. Can you say A.D.D.?
I have known these people for at least half of my life. I know them very well, and I can honestly say, “what a bunch of losers!” I don’t enjoy stating that, but it’s true. I wouldn’t say so if I haven’t known them for so many many years.
I will be seriously limiting my time with these people since they have re-entered my town and life. I really would just like to avoid them completely, but I am more mature than that,(and them) and feel holding a grudge for 3 years is childish. I will give them another chance, but if they screw up again, in the same ways, it’s over. I will not be their doormat or backstabbing target ever again.
