as the title says, i am kinda looking for all you dopers to tell those interested about what you should have done, what you did, and what you shouldnt have done. A main reason im asking this is that i am sorta at a crossroads right now. Im deciding whether or not to go to college, on one hand, by going to college i will be fufilling my parents wishes and will most likely get a job for the rest of my life doing something that i dont hate that much. On the other hand, I have my best friend who has decided not to go to college and is instead going to go to California (Im in Missouri) and basically start his life. Right now Im leaning towards California because I just see college as being 4 or even 6 years wasted while you could be out exploring the world. Another idea that i have is stuff like this
i have always liked the japanese culture, the only downside i can see is the the money, but im a pretty simple person, rice all around! But anyway, thanks for reading and thinking and responding to this
Heh, I immediately was going to answer “Wish I had more time to go to college and didn’t have to start supporting myself so soon.” What with one thing or another, I had to go from being totally dependent on my parents to being completely independent in a couple of months of time, with no notice. Very hard. Anyway, I have my whole life to putz around working 40 hour weeks, I only had a little time to study and do nothing but study. What a thrill!
Listen to Anaamika. I do, and so far, it’s worked out real well for me.
Seriously, she’s right - now that I’ve been doing this whole life living working schtick, I really really regret not going to college when I was young. Er. YoungER. I’m NOT OLD YET DAMMIT! Trying to do college now while having a full time job, a family, etc. is damn hard. I don’t know if I’ll even be able to finish it.
I had two grand plans, a fantasy one and a more realistic one
the fantasy grand plan - my friend (who was a jouralism/literature major) and I (a theatre major) were going to rent a loft in the Village and she was going to write Pulitzer Prize winning plays for Me to Star in
the (comparatively) realistic one: After graduation, I planned on moving to NYC (rents were still relatively reasonable in 1980) get a job as a waitress or bartender (i prefer bartender, less walking, more flirting), take classes to improve my craft, audition as much as possible, and give myself a year to see how I handle the inherent rejection. I figured if I could ‘take it’ I’d stick it out for a few years until I made it, or got sick of the whole thing
Instead, I got a desk job within a year of graduation and that’s pretty much what I;ve been doing ever since (except for occasional community theatre and the chorus i sing with now)
