I don’t hate men, I hate men who are total fucking assholes. he wants to ride bareback, he either needs to be responsible for the kids, or he needs to make sure he will never have any kids. He will have to be forced into supporting in kids he ends up having, and will probably end up turning into one of the guys that lives off the books so that the government can’t take any child support out of his wages, or will deliberately have such marginal jobs that the government can’t take out adequate child support and constantly whine about “those bitches that are sucking me dry.”
And before you bother accusing, I have no kids, I can’t have kids, and I was pregnant before deliberately twice in a planned way with the guy that planned them with me. [well and once as a total oops 10 years after getting my tubes tied because pregnancy is a health hazard for me. ] I have never gotten knocked up by a guy that was a jerk about it. I do know women that did get knocked up by men that were jerks about it.
Just reread the OP and yeah, my comment doesn’t necessarily apply to this situation.
To your other point, I’m not so surprised it was a guy in his thirties, I’ve met a good few why think that, because they’ve been acting this way forever, they’ll be fine forever. Twats the lot of them.
Or she was on birth control that failed. 2 methods are always better than 1. Shit happens.
The fact is, if you have sex, kids can happen. Even if your tubes are tied or you’ve had a vasectomy. Even if you’ve been proclaimed ‘sterile’ by a doctor. There are a million different scenarios.
He’s acting like a douche.
Nobody who is old enough to have sex should ever assume someone else is telling the truth or knows with 100% certainty when they tell them they are on birth control or they are sterile because ‘miracles’ happen and birth control fails.
If you aren’t ready to deal with the consequences of an unintended pregnancy without calling your partner a whore and accusing her of sleeping around, you aren’t mature enough to have a sex life. If you aren’t ready to take precautions to prevent unwanted pregnancies and think they just happen to other people, you aren’t mature enough to have a sex life. The end.
Also, while I will admit my sexual experience has been rather limited compared to some, I have never encountered, nor have any of my women friends that I know of, encountered a man whose respose to being told to wear of condom was “Forget it, I would rather just masturbate than wear one of those things.” If he understands no condom = no sex he will have no problem with wearing on.
*“But baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaby. It doesn’t feel good. You don’t understand. I can’t feel annnnnnnnnything, it’s so bad. Don’t you want me to feel good? Don’t you? C’mon, baby. I want you so bad. I just can’t do those things. I hate them. It feels so awful. I want to feel you. C’monnnnnnn.” *
On.
And.
Fucking.
On.
There have been times I have said, “Alright, bye then,” (the vast, vast, vast majority of times) but there have been a few times where I made a poor decision, always with guys I was in longer term relationships with, but still. Shit happens, bad decisions are made.
And to tell you the truth, I’d say 2 out of every 10 guys doesn’t complain about condoms. But 100% of the guys I’ve fucked “forget” until I remind them as they’re about to put it in. Of the 2/10 that don’t complain, when I remind them they are forgetting something, they will comply without complaint. The rest have all done the fucking song and dance above. Granted, I’ve been around the block a time or two, but these are of course just my experiences. Yes, the eventually will agree to it, but 10 minutes of whining back and forth sort of kills the mood.
Maybe I just fuck losers. Totally a reasonable option, actually.
I’ve already warned both of my children to wear armor and double up on birth control methods when they start having sex. Nothing is foolproof.
I was supposedly sterile and still had my guy use a condom in the age of safe sex when I got pregnant with my son. My husband had his daughter with a previous wife who was not supposed to be able to have children yet got pregnant twice. We’re double snipped.
If I got pregnant with a menopause baby, who would I blame, him or myself? Damn me and all that slutty fucking around.
I wonder about this. How much of it is in the heat of the moment versus a combination of feelings a girl has for a guy and willingness to risk it, or even some girls who passively seek to get pregnant.
Well, I only did it 1: when I was on the pill 2: with guys in a slightly longer term relationship. I most certainly wasn’t passively trying to get pregnant, but figured my bases were covered enough that I was willing to risk it. It was never ever a feelings thing (“omg, I loooove him and neeeeed him to be ooooone with meeeee!”), definitely more a heat of the moment thing. I wanted to fuck and didn’t want to sit there and argue about whether or not they’d put a condom on. Still, looking back, that’s never a good decision. Ever ever.
Oh yeah, I’ve gotten that one plenty of times, along with:
"but I can’t finish without a condom!
Guys can really be whiny little bitches about condoms, not that it’s any excuse. Looking back, my chosen retort should’ve been “so how much child support should I be asking for then?”
I think you mean: But I can’t finish with a condom! But yeah.
I once said ok to his request, then as he was about to get to going, he said, “You’re on the pill anyway, so it’s fine :D.” Then I, with a straight face, said: “No, I’m not actually. But I want to have your baby anyway so this is great! :D”
Damn me and all that slutty fucking around.