Maybe it just wasn't meant to be

[Incubus]

A while back I had met a girl at a party- I really liked her from the start and shared with fellow Dopers my exploits (similar to though much tamer than the pajama pants wearing girl thread). Well, I was happy that everyone was rooting for me, also all my friends were rooting for me as well, I thought this had to all mean a good thing and...well, no.

See, I got to know her, we did a couple of things together, then things got wierd. She always seemed too busy to do anything- I always asked her, 'how about we do ____' but she'd always answer with 'Sorry I'm too busy I have to do ____ ____ and ____ today'. She wasn't the kind of girl to plan out activities more than 5 minutes in advance either, so I never really got a chance to do anything fun with her again. I really liked her, but she was too busy to spend time with me, and my interest started to wane. Then there were a few times where she wanted to do something, but wouldn't you know it, that happened to be on one of the few days I was unavailable. And when that happens, she gets pissed and thinks I'm trying to make excuses to get out of going. Hello? Did you hear me asking you for a month and a half if you wanted to do this, or do that, or just sit out in the backyard and drink lemonade during this wonderful summer? Well, gradually over this summer we kind of lost touch. My interest in her fizzled out- I had wanted to spend time with her, and get to know her better, but she was secretive about everything about herself. When we had talked, it was on AIM in the middle of the night, apparently that was the only time of the day she could spare to even talk to me. A few weeks after I stop talking to her, she AIM's me and asks me how come I haven't been talking to her. I explained the situation to her- I had liked her, but she didn't seem to have time for me, and I didn't feel that she liked me as much as I liked her. She claimed the reason things weren't working was solely because of me- I wasn't doing this and I never did that. Which was just twisting everything she was doing around on me. Well now the summer is over, and I've heard from some common aquaintances her and I had that she is very self-centered and argumentative, and that they aren't too fond of her lately because she doesn't really get along well with any of them. Also, she is back with her ex boyfriend, the guy who allegedly was manipulative and made her feel guilty about everything. So in a way its as if I had never met her :/

Sure, maybe she liked me a lot and just had a bizarre way of showing it, and that I didn't pursue things further because I was afraid of being rejected, but

[Incubus]

...honestly I did not have anything to lose.