I'm obsessed with this chick (kinda long)

I met her in college about 3 or 4 years ago. When I first saw her I remember thinking, “god is that girl beautiful.” Somehow I became friends with her, and that was it, we were just friends. I mean I had a special feeling about her from the day I met her, and I think she felt the same way about me to some degree. But she had a boyfriend, so I didn’t really worry about it. I still called her my “dream girl” though to my friends.

Sometime around a year and a half ago, my head went a little fucking crazy. At a party one night, she pulled me into a bathroom and made out with me. I remember just being real excited and thinking “oh my god I just made out with my dream girl.” But that was it, it was near the end of the school year, so I lost contact with her for the summer.

Come that August, when we were both entering senior year I started to get obsessed with her. I found out she was gonna be living in the building next to mine and I thought this is my chance. Every night I would write shit in my journal like “she is my dream girl.” “This is your chance with her.” “I gotta get her.”

Well wonder what happened when the school year came around and I did finally see her? I froze. I didn’t call her. I hardly spoke to her when I saw her. I didn’t even try. I fucked up and it pisses me off so bad still.

Towards the end of the year, I realized I didn’t have much time left so I decided to give it another try. I called her and me and some friends went out. She even gave me a chance that night, but I managed to get too fucked up and blew it.

I tried calling her a few times in the summer, and even after all the weird vibes I was giving her she still responded.

Here’s the kicker. One night I was going out in the city and I saw her and it’s so WEIRD because even though it was nighttime and she was way too far to make out, I knew it was her. (I think it’s something in my head where I’m always looking for her, especially when I go out at night.) Anyways, we talked and her friend was there and told me about where they worked. That was it, and we went our seperate ways.

I debated for a while whether or not to apply there. On the one hand it was a real good job, on the other, she might think I was stalking her. Well I decided fuck it, I’m applying there.

I got the interview and as I was taking a tour of the building I walked by her. She got up and nearly screamed, “oh my god scotty!!!” Yep, it was about right here where I thought, good job Scott WHY DIDN’T YOU JUST CALL HER BEFOREHAND!!!

Anyways, I didn’t get the job, didn’t get the girl and I’m fucking pissed about it because fucked up so bad.

One night a couple weeks ago I went out to a bar and I remember seeing this girl through the glass from the back coming in looking a lot like her. I thought, “couldn’t be.” Sure enough, it was.

Anyways, we talked a little and I guess we could still be friends. I mean I never did anything deliberately mean to her or called her a name or anything. I don’t plan on calling her anymore to go out or meet up or anything because I give up.

However, I think I’m gonna reapply at that job in a couple months and I’m probably gonna call her and ask for a reference. I don’t know if it’s more about getting the job or about getting closer to her. I think at this point it’s about the job, but I never know with myself some times.

Never told anyone all that, just wanted to get it off my chest. Feel’s good, actually. Thanks for listening. : )

Allow me to solve your problem.

Why don’t you just ask her out next time you see her? Have dinner, talk with her, have fun without getting smashed. Focus on having fun rather than the chance of getting your dream girl, and I bet you anything these “mistakes” you keep making will go away.

You’ve become a lot more confident Mookie. Took our advice I see?

Not really. I just read the post and it seems like every night he “had a chance” (for a lack of a better term), he was going on a wild bender and wound up getting little more than drunken make out sessions rather than a blossoming relationship. If he’s interested specifically in this girl, why doesn’t he go for a more intimate night out between them?

That is excellent advice. See, you’re not completely useless. :slight_smile:

More advice - she’s not the only woman in the world, you know, OP. Half the planet’s population is female, and you’re obviously not repulsive to women if she keeps not avoiding you. Ask your dream girl out - ask lots of women out. Go out, have fun, enjoy your young life. Mostly, enjoy not having pain in all your joints and chronic conditions. You’ll get those soon enough.

Obligatory Onion link: Totally Hot Chick Also Way Psycho



God bless The Onion.

OP, the pattern here seems clear to me. She’s into you too, but you’re both too shy to admit it.

Ask her out, dude. Don’t use a group outing as a cover; ask her to dinner, just the two of you. Make it a fun thing, not a forced-romantic thing; no candlelight.

Good luck!

Write this down on a piece of paper or the back of a mundane business card or receipt or something, keep it with you, and read from it next time you meet her:
“Would you like to go to dinner with me?”

(Also, don’t bother “practicing” saying, it. It doesn’t usually help.)

It’s too late to ask her out. I asked her out a bunch of times over summer and nothing ever came of it. I give up. It’s just weird to me because she’s still on my mind a lot.

I do think I’ll be contacting her about that job though, so if I were to get it I’d have a lot more contact with her. Other than that, I don’t have a good enough reason to call her without coming off as completely desperate.

Just as a disclaimer, and I know this sounds bad, though I may be a bit obsessed with her, it’s not to the point where I don’t try and meet other girls. It’s just if I had my pick of any girl, it would be her.

oh yeah, stranger. Hilarious. Thanks.

One more relevant link, from the brilliant “Shit My Dad Says” on Twitter: Link