Backstory: So there was this girl in 9th grade who I had quite a crush on. Never had the guts to talk to her, spent all summer wishing I had, start 10th grade, and she had moved away. I had missed my chance.
I’m in my 3rd year of college. I started a myspace account and decided to see who I could find from the area. “Hmm…that girl looks vaguely familiar.” Holy shit!
Anyway, I took a chance and IM’ed her (she said in her profile that she was welcome to meeting new people and making friends). Surprisingly we hit it off and talk for about 5 hours about almost everything, including my shyness in high school.
Now, obviously I’m quite interested in this girl. After finally talking to her after all these years she’s turning out to be an even cooler person than I had imagined she was back when I didn’t have the guts to even say “hi.”
Anyway, on to my conflict. Tonight we got to talking about currently relationship status. She’s single (for the time being) but her best friend goes to another college, and after having spent the last two weekends up there, she has a crush on a particular guy who might like her back. We actually started talking about crushes and I made the following point, without specifying who I was thinking about:
I made a point about how bad the odds look for someone who has feelings for a girl, considering that
-The girl probably already likes someone else (or more than one person)
-The girl probably also has numerous male friends who have feelings for her
This makes the situation rather dismal because it means that a guy has to practically sweep a girl off her feet if he’s to have any shot in hell with her. He has to get to know her, get her mind off of the person she’s smitten with, and show her that he can provide something that all her male friends lack.
Now, given this girl’s particular situation, I’m afraid that if I wish to have any chance I may only have a 4 or 5 day window, maximum. Granted, I didn’t want things to be this rushed. I would have liked to take it slower and gotten to know each other, but it’s seeming like I might have to forgo all that and take the big plunge. It was already my plan to see if she wanted to hang out this weekend, but now it seems that I’m going to have to ask her out or make some kind of move after only just meeting her.
Is this a smart idea? Is there any other option? Any way I can just take her mind off this other guy without having to profess my feelings and face what could bring this new friendship to an end? I feel like for some reason I’ve been given a second chance with this girl, but I don’t want to blow it by rushing things if I don’t absolutely need to. Help!