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Old 08-15-2004, 09:08 PM
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Grabbing someone's dick while peeing is a real turn on?

About a month ago, I was visiting some friends in Dallas. It was an enjoyable Sunday. I had Monday morning off, so I did not have to worry about making it to Houston until the morning.

We spent the afternoon around Fair park. At night, we went to a bar (I can't remember the name, but it could have been "The Cove") with dollar beer night. Kind of an interesting dive. A lot of college students, gay men, cute females, artsy types, and people who want to drink cheap beer. The two restrooms were coed, one toilet apiece, and had a sign that said "One person allowed in bathroom," or something very close to that. I was told by my friends, Julie and Darren, that this was due to past drug deals. Having a bit of a reputation can make for an adventurous dive experience.

After enjoying a few dollar beers I had to go to the restroom. I approach the door to find them locked, upon which I turned around to notice a line. I humbly went to the end of the line. There was a cute girl in front of me who looked "lesbian chic," and a man behind me. I made simple, silly conversation with them while passing the time until a restroom opened up to me. My mind focused on how badly I had to go I walked in, not locking the door.

At places in Houston, I have done this as well. When someone opened the door, he realized that it was occupied and closed the door and waited his turn.

Back to the story, I had my unit out and was underway emptying my bladder when the guy who was behind me walks in. I heard him enter and saw him in my peripheral vision. Being naive and being well in the middle of a good piss which would cause some discomfort stopping, I kept peeing. He wasted no time. In a moment I feel a hand on my ass and saw a hand going for the hose. Reflectively, I grab his wrist, his hand less than an inch from the jewels, turned my head to him and firmly said "NO!" My bladder was still largely full of fluid, yet the hose was now down to a trickle, I focus on getting it back on high and finishing my pee. The guy slowly backed out of the restroom.

It happened so fast; I had to pee so bad; and I was enjoying a rather jovial buzz that I did not realize the weight of the situation until well after it happened. I went back to my friends and joked with them about it. But the next day I thought "What the Fuck!"

I am not knocking all gay men for this. All groups have their assholes. I am also aware that men, gay or straight, often act differently when women are not around. The answer to why gay men are so horny is because men, gay and straight, tend to be horny. But shit! Who gets off to messing around with someones hose when he is in a good piss. It's kind of fucked up to to get off to grabbing it at this moment, but even more fucked up to want it messed with. I would not enjoy a cute girl grabbing it at this moment.

OK, the only gay bars I have really been into were somewhat female friendly (except once, when I also really had to pee). I hear there are gay bars which do everything except put up "no girls" signs to keep women out. Maybe grabbing someones dick when they are peeing is a turn on to some, but this was fucked up...

...and dangerous. Had I been in a really pissy mood, I would have called you a sick fuck, and lectured you for a spell. A more dangerous person would have beaten you to a pulp.

I am a big guy, in good shape, with a shaved head. Maybe in Dallas that gives off Gaydar, but shit! If I am interested in a girl and get friendly vibes, I share a drink with them.
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Old 08-15-2004, 09:14 PM
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And now, the obvious question: why didn't you just pee on him? Afraid he might like it?
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Old 08-15-2004, 09:16 PM
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That's so ridiculous that I'd sooner believe he was trying to help you than make an advance.
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Old 08-15-2004, 09:16 PM
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I would have pissed on him a la Jack Nicholas in Wolf (I think that's the name of the movie).
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Old 08-15-2004, 09:19 PM
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You are not going to believe this but the exact same thing happened to my father when my whole family was eating at a restaraunt. He went to the bathroom and didn't come back for a while. What happened was almost exactly as you described except my father, who is a pretty big guy, grabbed him and slammed his head and slammed it into the urinal until the guy was unconsious. The paramedics and police came but the guy didn't want to go to the hospital. He was charged with assault and my father was cleared because his actions were ruled an act of self-defense.
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Old 08-15-2004, 09:28 PM
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I am not knocking all gay men for this. All groups have their assholes. I am also aware that men, gay or straight, often act differently when women are not around. The answer to why gay men are so horny is because men, gay and straight, tend to be horny. But shit!
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I am a big guy, in good shape, with a shaved head. Maybe in Dallas that gives off Gaydar, but shit! If I am interested in a girl and get friendly vibes, I share a drink with them.
Well, I'm gay, and if somebody tried this with me I'd have done at least what you did, but probably would've been more violent. Like pushing the guy off and saying, "What in the holy fuck are you doing, asshole?" Even saying, "well, I guess the guy was horny" is no excuse. That's fucked up.

But don't think for a second that it's not a gay vs straight thing. It's a pervert who touches another guy's dick unsolicited thing.
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Old 08-15-2004, 10:15 PM
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I had a guy lick my neck outta the blue in a bar one time. I just stared him straight in the eye and said "You're going to have to go a lot farther than that to shock me". He wandered off in confusion(disapointment?). I had to wonder how he didn't keep getting his clock cleaned, if licking strangers is a habit, especially another man who you don't know from Adam..
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Old 08-15-2004, 10:45 PM
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You are not going to believe this but the exact same thing happened to my father when my whole family was eating at a restaraunt. He went to the bathroom and didn't come back for a while. What happened was almost exactly as you described except my father, who is a pretty big guy, grabbed him and slammed his head and slammed it into the urinal until the guy was unconsious. The paramedics and police came but the guy didn't want to go to the hospital. He was charged with assault and my father was cleared because his actions were ruled an act of self-defense.
Your father should have been charged with assault and battery. His "defense" was Grotesquely incomisserate with the nature of the "assault" by the other guy. Self defense, by law, cannot involve any more force than is necessary to stop the "threat", such as it was. A simple "no" probably would have sufficed in this case. The fact that your dad was made out to be the "victim" is an illustration of inherent homophobia in the system.

You father sounds like a violent hyper-reactive asshole if that story is true.
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Old 08-15-2004, 10:48 PM
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...You father sounds like a violent hyper-reactive asshole if that story is true.
Only in your world. A sound beating is certainly in order when the jewels are unexpectedly grabbed; It is an immutable law of nature.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:01 PM
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No. Sorry. A grope does not give you free license to beat a person unconscious.

Imagine the dick grabber is a woman. Would you still be justified in bashing her head repeatedly into a urinal until she was unconscious?

Only if you're a violent scumbag.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:13 PM
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You are not going to believe this but the exact same thing happened to my father when my whole family was eating at a restaraunt. He went to the bathroom and didn't come back for a while. What happened was almost exactly as you described except my father, who is a pretty big guy, grabbed him and slammed his head and slammed it into the urinal until the guy was unconsious. The paramedics and police came but the guy didn't want to go to the hospital. He was charged with assault and my father was cleared because his actions were ruled an act of self-defense.
Outstanding, stuff like this makes me soar with joy that the panzification of the world has not succeeded.

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Old 08-15-2004, 11:15 PM
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If Richard Simmons gropes for my precious, it ass-kickin' time for sure, not about to stand for such an offense to my manly dignity! 'Course, Mike Tyson does it, I'd probably try to be more understanding.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:19 PM
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You could have just ignored it and seen where things went--worst that could've happened is a hand-job, eh?
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:22 PM
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I had a guy lick my neck outta the blue in a bar one time. I just stared him straight in the eye and said "You're going to have to go a lot farther than that to shock me". He wandered off in confusion(disapointment?). I had to wonder how he didn't keep getting his clock cleaned, if licking strangers is a habit, especially another man who you don't know from Adam..
Man, that reminds me of the local Denny's when I was a teenager. Very strange.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:33 PM
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No. Sorry. A grope does not give you free license to beat a person unconscious.

Imagine the dick grabber is a woman. Would you still be justified in bashing her head repeatedly into a urinal until she was unconscious?

Only if you're a violent scumbag.
First of all FuckFace there was more to it than that. The guy grabbed my father from behind and grabbed his upper body with one arm and tried to grab his dick with the other. My father was obviously pissing at the time so it took a second to stop the flow. The guy hard a large, hard hairbrush in his hand that was around my father's body for some reason. When my father went to break free, the guy bashed him in the face with the brush. A struggle started and my father finally bashed his head into the urinal but the guy continued to fight. My father still couldn't break free so he did it again. Same result. Finally, he hit his head hard enough to knock him unconscious. Only then was he free.

Luckily this was in Louisiana and not in Diogenes Land where you actually have the right to defend yourself against sexual assault. Did you tell your mother that when she gets raped, she should lay back in enjoy it? We wouldn't want to hurt any rapists now would me. They may just be having a bad day.

And yes, Dimwit, if it was a woman that assaults a man, he has a perfect right to use force to defend himself. If it takes, knocking her unconscious then so be it.

And BTW, my father is not an asshole. He has no temper whatsoever but he does have enough self-respect to stop someone from grabbing his privates from behind. Maybe he just should have starting saying "Oh yeah baby, go lower" until the guy finished whatever it was that he wanted to do.

And we will conclude with a joke:

A guy walks into a bar and screams "Diogenes the Cynic is an asshole". A guy on a barstool turns around and says "Hey, I resent that!". The first guy says "I am sorry. Are you Diogenes the Cynic?" The guy on the barstool says "No, I'm an asshole."

I would ask you to apologize but everyone knows that self-righteous pricks don't really understand the concept.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:34 PM
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You are not going to believe this but the exact same thing happened to my father when my whole family was eating at a restaraunt. He went to the bathroom and didn't come back for a while. What happened was almost exactly as you described except my father, who is a pretty big guy, grabbed him and slammed his head and slammed it into the urinal until the guy was unconsious. The paramedics and police came but the guy didn't want to go to the hospital. He was charged with assault and my father was cleared because his actions were ruled an act of self-defense.
I am shocked by your father's reaction. I can understand your father grabbing the perpetrator's hand, removing him from the stall/pushing him away, and giving him a harsh tongue-lashing, followed by legal action. But the violence with which your father reacted frightens me. Did your father feel seriously threatened by this man? Did the perp. grab him really hard?

What would have happened if your father had caused brain damage? Yikes, this just seems like a bad Law and Order episode. I'm sorry your father had this experience.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:35 PM
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I would ask you to apologize but everyone knows that self-righteous pricks don't really understand the concept.
Perhaps he didn't understand the "concept" because you described it very differently in your first post by ommitting some very relevant details.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:37 PM
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I am shocked by your father's reaction. I can understand your father grabbing the perpetrator's hand, removing him from the stall/pushing him away, and giving him a harsh tongue-lashing, followed by legal action. But the violence with which your father reacted frightens me.Did your father feel seriously threatened by this man? Did the perp. grab him really hard?
Bolding mine.



A stranger grabbing your love-sack in a public restroom is pretty fucking threatening, no two ways about it. What the hell does it take to goad some of you into defending yourselves?
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:38 PM
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No. Sorry. A grope does not give you free license to beat a person unconscious.

Imagine the dick grabber is a woman. Would you still be justified in bashing her head repeatedly into a urinal until she was unconscious?

Only if you're a violent scumbag.
Imagine if the grabee was a woman. C'mon, you'd be cheering her!

I'd've done the same thing (or tried to, anyway) and I'm partial to the idea of a guy grabbing my cock, provided he asks first.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:39 PM
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Why would it take so little for you to go roid-rage? Don't you think there's a middle ground between lying back and thinking of England and putting some drunk idiot in the hospital?
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:40 PM
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Sorry, that was addressed to Brutus (as should be obvious, I suppose).
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:40 PM
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No. Sorry. A grope does not give you free license to beat a person unconscious.

Imagine the dick grabber is a woman. Would you still be justified in bashing her head repeatedly into a urinal until she was unconscious?

Only if you're a violent scumbag.
IMHO, the scene as laid out by Shagnasty amounts to sexual assault, not a simple grope. More power to him for protecting himself (and others).

If it had been a woman, I might have tried the "Hey, WTF, NO!" initial response, but if she had persisted she might have ended up making close contact with the urnial as well. Not a situation where you have a lot of time to evaluate your assauter. Whether it be male, female, or female impersonator the same rules apply - urinal advances are never welcome.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:41 PM
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First of all FuckFace there was more to it than that. The guy grabbed my father from behind and grabbed his upper body with one arm and tried to grab his dick with the other. My father was obviously pissing at the time so it took a second to stop the flow. The guy hard a large, hard hairbrush in his hand that was around my father's body for some reason. When my father went to break free, the guy bashed him in the face with the brush. A struggle started and my father finally bashed his head into the urinal but the guy continued to fight. My father still couldn't break free so he did it again. Same result. Finally, he hit his head hard enough to knock him unconscious. Only then was he free.
Wow.

What a horrible experience for your father and your family. Knowing a few more details makes this episode a lot more legitimate to me. I envisioned your father's attacker as backing off immediately, such as the OP's attacker did. Knowing what you just told me now makes a big difference.

I'm sorry if you are offended by others' reactions, including my own. Perhaps I jumped to conclusions too quickly; I assumed that your father's situation mirrored the OP's more closely.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:42 PM
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Oh, and Shagnasty? There's no fucking reason in the world to go nuclear when you didn't tell the whole story. Fuck, you think people read minds 'round here?
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:43 PM
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Why would it take so little for you to go roid-rage? Don't you think there's a middle ground between lying back and thinking of England and putting some drunk idiot in the hospital?
So little? I generally think sexual assault is adequate grounds for a beat-down. Again: if it were Shagnasty who had beaten the crap out of the guy, would you be saying the same thing about her?
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:45 PM
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Bolding mine.



A stranger grabbing your love-sack in a public restroom is pretty fucking threatening, no two ways about it. What the hell does it take to goad some of you into defending yourselves?
Brutus, I didn't read Shagnasty's second post until I had already hit "submit." Since he didn't make it clear that the extent of the assault, I was assuming that the incident was a bit more innocuous.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:45 PM
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Shagnasty, I have to wonder if you deliberately presented your father's story in a manner calculated to piss people off. "Some guy reached for my johnson" is markedly not "the exact same thing" as
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The guy grabbed my father from behind and grabbed his upper body with one arm and tried to grab his dick with the other. My father was obviously pissing at the time so it took a second to stop the flow. The guy hard a large, hard hairbrush in his hand that was around my father's body for some reason. When my father went to break free, the guy bashed him in the face with the brush. A struggle started and my father finally bashed his head into the urinal but the guy continued to fight. My father still couldn't break free so he did it again. Same result. Finally, he hit his head hard enough to knock him unconscious. Only then was he free.
The former is not a violent attack and beating the attacker unconscious would definitely be a gross over-reaction and the act of a violent homophobic asshole. The latter is defending oneself with enough force to stop an ongoing violent attack.

I have no quarrel with your father's defense of himself (and I'm a pacifist who eschews violence in all instances except self-defense and the defense of others). But if you didn't know that presenting his knocking someone out for what you initially said was nothing more than an attempted dick grab was going to get you some shit then you're, well, to be kind, you're not being realistic. Alternatively, if you believe that the two incidents were really "the exact same thing" then you're completely fucked in the head.

To the OP, not to excuse an unwanted sexual advance and not to blame you in any way but next time lock the door.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:46 PM
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Why would it take so little for you to go roid-rage?
I sure that you have 'so little' to fight for, but I am quite pleased with my nether-bits, and do not want strangers having-at them. Incapacitate the bastard and get out of there, nothing wrong with that.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:47 PM
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So little? I generally think sexual assault is adequate grounds for a beat-down. Again: if it were Shagnasty who had beaten the crap out of the guy, would you be saying the same thing about her?
I was actually referring to Brutus's first post, before the full Shagnasty story. Sorry for the confusion.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:47 PM
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Diogenes, sorry, but I don't see physically fighting off and subduing someone who is trying to rape you as being wrong.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:48 PM
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I think Shagnasty father's assailant can consider himself lucky that it wasn't a case of like daughter like father, name-wise, anyways.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:49 PM
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I'd've done the same thing (or tried to, anyway) and I'm partial to the idea of a guy grabbing my cock, provided he asks first.
Hey Miller, I got a quick question for ya...
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:49 PM
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I sure that you have 'so little' to fight for, but I am quite pleased with my nether-bits, and do not want strangers having-at them. Incapacitate the bastard and get out of there, nothing wrong with that.
Er, why not just do as Road Rash did in the OP? Again, just talking about some druck fucker reaching for Brutus Jr, do you think that deserves a beating?
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:50 PM
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Diogenes, sorry, but I don't see physically fighting off and subduing someone who is trying to rape you as being wrong.
Er, the post that DtC was replying to was most definitely not a case of fending off a rape. Shagnasty left out many, many details in his first post.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:51 PM
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Er, just wanted another post starting with "Er."
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:51 PM
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The former is not a violent attack
Bullshit
If the same guy had walked into the ladies room and grabbed a girl by the crotch while she was peeing, would that be a violent act?
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:55 PM
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I was actually referring to Brutus's first post, before the full Shagnasty story. Sorry for the confusion.
I didn't realize you hadn't read it yet, so sorry on my end, too.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:56 PM
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Read the post again, Flickster. "Reached for" != "grabbed."
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:56 PM
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Er, why not just do as Road Rash did in the OP? Again, just talking about some druck fucker reaching for Brutus Jr, do you think that deserves a beating?
If I had time to play Secret Service to my little 'VIP', then a down-and-out beating may not be in order. But if said VIP has been grabbed, all bets are off.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:57 PM
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I didn't realize you hadn't read it yet, so sorry on my end, too.
I'm not used to fast-moving threads any more. I'm out of practice.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:58 PM
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If I had time to play Secret Service to my little 'VIP', then a down-and-out beating may not be in order. But if said VIP has been grabbed, all bets are off.
Fair enough. Once physical contact had occurred, a physical response is warranted. Within reason.
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Old 08-15-2004, 11:59 PM
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Shagnasty, maybe next time you'll engage your brain before putting your typing fingers in motion and actually think a little bit about what you're posting.

Omitting just about every salient detail from a story, and then complaining when someone can't read your mind,* just makes you look like an idiot.


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Old 08-16-2004, 12:01 AM
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I think Shagnasty father's assailant can consider himself lucky that it wasn't a case of like daughter like father, name-wise, anyways.
I am very, very male. And Shagnasty sounds like something that it is not. It is actually avery old nickname that goes back to the 1800's.
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Old 08-16-2004, 12:04 AM
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Here's a very simple rule to live by that would keep everyone out of trouble.

Don't make advances to strangers in the bathroom.

What is it with gays and bathroom cruising?
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Old 08-16-2004, 12:06 AM
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I am very, very male. And Shagnasty sounds like something that it is not. It is actually avery old nickname that goes back to the 1800's.
Pity, on both counts...
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Old 08-16-2004, 12:08 AM
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Shagnasty, maybe next time you'll engage your brain before putting your typing fingers in motion and actually think a little bit about what you're posting.

Omitting just about every salient detail from a story, and then complaining when someone can't read your mind,* just makes you look like an idiot.


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My mind is actually quite large. Parts of it are bulging out of my ears as we speak.

I only posted that story to show the OP that it isn't the first time. I didn't expect any attention from it. I had no idea that what I posted first wasn't enough to justify the response in some people's minds regardless of the other facts. The mind boggles at the reasoning that some people have shown
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Old 08-16-2004, 12:15 AM
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I'm not used to fast-moving threads any more. I'm out of practice.
Jeez, me neither. This thread has worn me out.

Shagnasty, with all due respect, I find it hard NOT to pay attention to such a story as the one you shared.
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Old 08-16-2004, 12:27 AM
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Fair enough. Once physical contact had occurred, a physical response is warranted. Within reason.
Something about this bothers me

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Old 08-16-2004, 12:29 AM
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My mind is actually quite large. Parts of it are bulging out of my ears as we speak.
Actually, i think that's probably ear-wax.
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I only posted that story to show the OP that it isn't the first time.
Really? Then why make such gratuitous mention of the beating? Why not just say, "Hey, something like that happened to my dad once."
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I didn't expect any attention from it.
Really? You really didn't expect a reaction from anyone when you wrote: "What happened was almost exactly as you described except my father, who is a pretty big guy, grabbed him and slammed his head and slammed it into the urinal until the guy was unconsious"?
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I had no idea that what I posted first wasn't enough to justify the response in some people's minds regardless of the other facts. The mind boggles at the reasoning that some people have shown
If you had posted the full story first up, most people probably would have accepted that a violent response from your father was necessary. After all, if the guy really did grab your father around the body, and hit him in the face with the hairbrush, and generally struggle with him, then your father was certainly justified in doing anything he needed to do in order the get away and secure his own safety.

But let's just have another look at what you said in your first post:
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What happened was almost exactly as you [the OP] described except my father, who is a pretty big guy, grabbed him and slammed his head and slammed it into the urinal until the guy was unconsious.
Bolding mine.

Well, let's have a look at what the OP described, shall we?
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In a moment I feel a hand on my ass and saw a hand going for the hose. Reflectively, I grab his wrist, his hand less than an inch from the jewels, turned my head to him and firmly said "NO!" My bladder was still largely full of fluid, yet the hose was now down to a trickle, I focus on getting it back on high and finishing my pee. The guy slowly backed out of the restroom.
Quite obviously, what happened to your father was, in fact, NOT "almost exactly" what was described by the OP. In fact, it was quite different altogether. And if the OP had beaten his guy unconscious against the urinal, then he would have been in the wrong. Luckily, the OP apparently doesn't go around looking for excuses to beat people to a bloody pulp.

Finally, a general point. While i'm not a lawyer, i was under the impression that even self-defence has its limits, and that once the person who is defending himself or herself manages to secure his or her own safety, the law generally frowns upon continuing to beat the person out of simple revenge. With your attitude, it might behoove you to read up and find out whether that is, in fact, the case.
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Old 08-16-2004, 12:39 AM
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I still think the sick fuck got what he deserved.

BTW - before you jump to conclusions I'm not calling him a sick fuck because he's gay. I'm calling him a sick fuck because he's trying to sexually assault strangers in a bathroom.
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