Lemme explain.
Our neighbor who quickly became our friend (cause of cats) had a birthday party this eve at a local bar.
Me and my son were invited.
Its a karaoke thing (she loves it).
We got there before her and her friend (we’ll call him Ned) was the dj.
We got to talking.
He asked me for my number.
:eek:
No guy has spoken to me in 10 years.
Either barsa are the only place to meet someone, or its true that friends of friends can.
He used to date her bakc when.
Unfortunately, this will probly not last long as 1. I have no sitter
2. When I tell him I will be abstinate til marriage, it will stop right there(he’s not a christian).
Oh well.
It was just so amazing I thought I’d post it.
Hard to believe.
Maybe not. Can you cook, sing, or make a fella laugh? These skills can go a long way towards keeping a guy interested.
Those skills and a positive attitude, I might add.
Good luck!
One never knows. He may love hanging out with your son, and any number of things can change regarding sex. Just being nonChristian doesn’t automatically make one a sex fiend. Hell, being Christian doesn’t make one a prude;)
Don’t you live with your father? Can your son hang out with him while you go out? And I agree with John Carter of Mars, having a positive attitude and being an interesting person has much more to do with a lasting relationship than whether you are willing to jump in the sack.
I should explain.
I have dated about 6 men in my life(I am 45) and all 5 of them wanted was me to service them sexually (I went along) and then throw me away(figuratively).
The 6th was my husband, who only wanted my money.
Apparently you’ve missed all the myriad Call of Cthulhu references posted during your time on the SDMB. Here’s a little something for you to read as you decide whether to “work your love craft” on your new admirer!
Stern-
Thanks. I will read and learn. I have no idea about this cuthulu, other than its some “god”.
He called. In fact, he called a few times as we were out, have no caller id or answering machine.
He finally got us this evening.
We talked.
He says he and my friend/neighbor broke up because she wanted love and he just wants to “have fun”.
He seems to believe that one cannot live without sex.
So this will be a platonic relationship for sure.
I’d told him me and my husband hadn’t had sex often(obvious reasons) and he was like, how did you live?
I am thinking, its real easy. To me, sex cannot go without love.
Its no good that way, totally unsatisfying.
I am looking only for marriage and will have no sex til then.
The links you gave me, if they require a fee, I cannot afford that.
A guy at the bar puts the shmooze on
Cause he’s trying to get his poor groove on
She tells him she’s chaste
And he withdraws in haste
If you’re not in it for love, then move on
Nothing wrong with platonic friends. Though I can’t imagine what that Disney dog has to do with any of this. You did the right thing by being totally up front. Your morals are yours to keep, and I’m proud of you. Don’t be too hard on him, though, for looking at you in a physical way. You are a honey of a babe.
He took us out to eat this late afternoon.
He then suggested we see a movie but there was none we all could agree on (I want to see F911 but its not in movies anymore).
So we went to his home and he showed us a video of some really good magicians.
I guess we have a friend, now.
But at least I don’t have to say noone has asked me out in 10 years.
I was getting a complex.
Cool, I’m happy to hear that you made a friend out of this. Be careful though…you never know if he might be hoping there’s a still chance he can change your mind. Don’t get into a situation where he might try to put pressure on you.
There aren’t very many free dating sites anymore but you might want to try http://www.okcupid.com If you focus on rating the questions about religion and sex as being very important to you, you can find some people who share your values. (I also just found out about a free CATHOLIC website at http://www.catholicmixer.com but I seem to recall you’re not Catholic).
Good luck.
If there are any older ladies you know & trust at your church, get them to start working their matchmaking mojo for you. Yeah, there’ll be some duds but they might just find some winners too.
I’m getting the word out to the older ladies at my church to get moving on it for me.
Cthulhu & the Old Ones- extra-terrestrial/dimensional demonic entities from
before the ascendance of humanity, imprisoned by other more powerful & benign beings to keep them from fully pillaging humanity for food & slave labor, but some humans either because of descent from the Old Ones or sheer perversity do serve them & perform ancient obscene rites of sacrifice & magick to give them some access to this world. The main book of the Old Ones history & magick is THE NECRONOMICON.
Sternvogel, that Call of Cthulhu mythology site you reference has a popup that tries to load a trojan through Internet Explorer. Second time I’ve seen that popup today. Both times, the scanner caught it at my end, but be warned, everybody.
MMDV:) If a guy who doesn’t know you is open to sex outside of marriage, … he doesn’t know you yet. How could he love you? He hasn’t had the chance to get to know the wonderfulness that is vanilla.
::in the background, a giant brown nose is unveiled::
