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Old 03-24-2006, 01:00 PM
Anaamika Anaamika is offline
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A 60+ year old man just asked me out!

To put this in its proper light, you should know I'm 30.

Anyway, this guy's been sort of being extra nice for about six months...smiling, and waving, opening doors, etc. Someone closer to my age I would have automatically assumed he liked me, but since he was so much older I figured he was just being a gentleman, or maybe I reminded him of someone he knew.

My desk faces the front door to our office, which looks out at the elevator. Today he saw me, waved as he always did, and I returned the wave. Then he comes up to the door and opens it. I went up closer to the door, and he said "I've been waiting for you to take me out to try some Indian food." Me: You are old enough to be my father. Dude, if you had a kid at 15 and she had a kid at 15 you could be my grandfather.
I didn't say this, though, instead, I just politely recommended a couple of good restaurants in the area, instead of overtly saying "NO!!!" since it wasn't in the format of "Will you go out with me?". Then he tried to give me his phone number, and I demurred, saying, "I see you all the time, don't worry." I have to admit, I left it open-ended, but I was raised to be nice to old people! If he asks again I will say "I'm sorry, but I think the age difference is just a little too much."

Seriously, WTF? I am 30, but I have a baby face and have often been mistaken for even younger. The age difference is just a bit too much!!!!

It's not bad to be appreciated and I'm going to take it as a compliment, but I also wonder what is it about me that's attracting a man of such...advanced maturity.

And I agree that all these exclamation points are a sign of insanity.
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:05 PM
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Well, you could discourage him by making sure he gets a whiff of the bathroom just after you walk out of it. Oh, like you didn't see that one coming!

Or, go to lunch at an Indian restaurant with other co-workers one day and invite him to come along.
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:07 PM
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I also wonder what is it about me that's attracting a man of such...advanced maturity.
My guess is that it's because you're hot.

I've often considered starting a GD thread about the ethics of Spring/Autumn relationships.
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:17 PM
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My Pop, who's 65 this year, regulary dates women in their thirties and frequently fights off mini-crushes on young women in their twenties. He's a towering intellect and charmer and an unapologetic dirty old man, but with style. Redd Foxx with a social conscience, a low-rent gray-haired Sidney Pointier.

One of Pops buisness acquaintances called him a "player." Mildly offended, my father quipped, "I'm a coach."

You should be flattered by the attention.

That said, with six months of passing back and forth between you two with waves and open doors, it seems a bit odd, not to mention late, to ask for a date out of the blue. But I like his style in asking! "I'm waiting for YOU to take ME..." Heh. I also liked he offered his phone number to YOU.

Are you sure it was a romantic date? Maybe he justs wants a lunch/dinner companion. It's the prerogative of women everywhere to accept a no-strings meal with a kind, polite man who treats you with respect. Quit being an insensitive ageist! There's no age difference in having a meal with someone.
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:21 PM
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I have two words for you: gray pubes.
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:26 PM
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Oh, god. I got all the way through Askia's post, thinking, "Well, maybe he's right. Maybe I'm overthinking this. Maybe he's just being nice." And then I read this:


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I have two words for you: gray pubes.

GAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:32 PM
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My Pop, who's 65 this year, regulary dates women in their thirties and frequently fights off mini-crushes on young women in their twenties. He's a towering intellect and charmer and an unapologetic dirty old man, but with style. Redd Foxx with a social conscience, a low-rent gray-haired Sidney Pointier.
There's a guy like that at work. He's also pudgy, balding, walks with a severe limp, and dresses like a slob. The young chicks love him.
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:43 PM
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This one is also a bit rotund, hair is kind of gray-white. And he's black. I only say that because I've never been asked out by a black man before. I don't think any black man has ever even expressed an interest in me before.

He does dress very elegantly. I suppose that's something!
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:47 PM
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...........and frequently fights off mini-crushes on young women in their twenties. He's a towering intellect and charmer and an unapologetic dirty old man, but with style.
I swear to all that is swearable to, just this morning, someone described me to my face using almost these very words. The one telling me this is the co-worker of a 25 year old that I meet with a couple times a week. I asked if I was reading something correctly, or did "P" just treat me differently than she does other people. Her response was to smack me in the head and tell me I must be blind to not see how much "P" wanted me. And that "P" isn't the only one, that a couple other 20-somethings in the place talk about me that way too.

I'm 46, and happily married but more attracted to women younger than myself than most women my age. It's not all physical, younger women seem to carry less of the world on their shoulders than older (ok, older as in my own age) ones do.

Keep in mind, this is all perception based on not knowing someone well - but generally younger women are more desireable to men after a certain age than the ones closer to their age. I think they (we?) think that because we know women our own age, and women your age and see a difference in how they look at life. Of course, here I am ignoring the physical differences, because that would be crass and shallow.

So let's go crass and shallow. Younger women are hotter. Not wrinkly, not saggy and so on. When I was 20-21, I dated 25-30 year olds. I still would. Back then a 30 year old represented someone different from my own age group. Then it was experience and maturity, now it would be youth and freshness. We want what we don't see in ourselves.

Now, ok, I love my wife (because who else would put up with me when it comes right down to it?), but because she's who she is, I don't even see her objectively. To me, she's as beautiful as the day I met her when she was 23. BTW, she's the one not in the red jacket in that picture.

BUT. If there were no Bus Wife, and I was seeking company, I'd almost certainly be open to dating someone 15-20 (hell even more if she'd have me) years younger.

Dirty old man? Sign me up!
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:48 PM
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AHHHHH Mika! It's always so... weird when that happens. Erg. Just not my kind of thing, you know?

It happened to me a couple years ago, when I was 25 years old (ahhh, my thinner days! How I miss them!). I was out and about with my friend, who had just lent me some of her shampoo to try out. I clearly remember that being such a good hair day, and I was so pleased. It was long, thick, shiny, smooth... I was a walking Pantene commercial. I met one of my male co-workers at the drugstore that day, who had come up behind me, laughing, saying, "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful!" Awww, yeah, it was such a good day...

And then, as I was standing at a shelf of stuffed animals, admiring some of the plush baby toys that I was thinking about picking up as a gift for a friend's new baby... I felt a hand running through my hair. I turned around, smiling, thinking it was my co-worker again, about to make some joking comment about him keeping his hands to himself, when I saw an old, old man standing there, as the last tendril of my hair slipped through his fingers. And this guy was so old... He said, "You have such beautiful hair."

I was a little embarrassed, but murmured "thank you," and kind of stood there, facing him - I, too, was taught to respect and be polite to your elders, and he was about as elder a man as I'd ever seen! He asked me if I would just walk with him for a few moments, and being the polite girl that I am, figured there couldn't be any harm in that. Maybe I reminded him of somebody, his granddaughter, someone he knew when he was younger, what's the harm of being nice to a man who might just want to reminisce?

Then he invited me to go back to his house. Why? "I haven't made love to a beautiful woman for so many years."
I politely declined. Then what does he say? "Oh, come on! I've been fucking my wife for so long, and she's old and ugly! You look just like she did when she was young and beautiful!"

I stopped being polite. *shudder*
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:51 PM
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Maybe I reminded him of somebody, his granddaughter, someone he knew when he was younger, what's the harm of being nice to a man who might just want to reminisce?

Then he invited me to go back to his house. Why? "I haven't made love to a beautiful woman for so many years."
I politely declined. Then what does he say? "Oh, come on! I've been fucking my wife for so long, and she's old and ugly! You look just like she did when she was young and beautiful!"

I stopped being polite. *shudder*
Oh, god! *wipes tears of laughter from eyes* That is too good! You do think just like me!
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Old 03-24-2006, 01:51 PM
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Ok, that's creepy. Not suave and de-boner like me!
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Old 03-24-2006, 02:12 PM
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Don't knock dirty old men until you try one. I say, go for it, Anaamika!
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Old 03-24-2006, 02:37 PM
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Wait a minute, aren't you in a committed relationship? That's your "out." Don't use it until he actually does make it clear that his interest in you is more than just friendly, but don't be afraid to use it.
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Old 03-24-2006, 02:44 PM
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Don't knock dirty old men until you try one. I say, go for it, Anaamika!
For the benefit of both of you, I'm 44. Some people consider that old. And I haven't washed in weeks.
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Old 03-24-2006, 02:51 PM
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I'm 35, so you're just not quite old enough for me, tdn, but throw in the hula hoop and it's a deal.
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Old 03-24-2006, 02:54 PM
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Whoa, waitaminnit, weird. Back up to Mr Bus Guy's post. Mr Bus Guy, is that you in the red jacket, then? Because you look exactly like I've been picturing you for what? More than a year now, I guess. I'm slightly creeped out.
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Old 03-24-2006, 02:55 PM
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Wait a minute, aren't you in a committed relationship? That's your "out." Don't use it until he actually does make it clear that his interest in you is more than just friendly, but don't be afraid to use it.
No. I mean, I could, but I don't see why I shouldn't be perfectly honest. 10-15 years older than me I could deal with. (Not unwashed, though, sorry, tdn). 30 years? Too damn much!
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Old 03-24-2006, 03:05 PM
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Whoa, waitaminnit, weird. Back up to Mr Bus Guy's post. Mr Bus Guy, is that you in the red jacket, then? Because you look exactly like I've been picturing you for what? More than a year now, I guess. I'm slightly creeped out.
Un-creep yourself. That's not me.

She wouldn't be smiling if that was me.
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Old 03-24-2006, 03:06 PM
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I didn't really think it was dishonest. I think of it as a way to let him know you're not interested that allows him to save face.
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Old 03-24-2006, 03:07 PM
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[In response to askia's story about his 65 year old father - Eng.]

There's a guy like that at work. He's also pudgy, balding, walks with a severe limp, and dresses like a slob. The young chicks love him.
Fantastic! 35 more years and I'll have it made.
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Old 03-24-2006, 03:10 PM
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(Not unwashed, though, sorry, tdn).
You could always give me a sponge bath first.
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Old 03-24-2006, 03:11 PM
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Fantastic! 35 more years and I'll have it made.
Yeah, 21 more years for me. And I have to aquire a limp.

And turn black.












And charming.
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Old 03-24-2006, 06:11 PM
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My Pop, who's 65 this year, regulary dates women in their thirties and frequently fights off mini-crushes on young women in their twenties. He's a towering intellect and charmer and an unapologetic dirty old man, but with style. Redd Foxx with a social conscience, a low-rent gray-haired Sidney Pointier.

One of Pops buisness acquaintances called him a "player." Mildly offended, my father quipped, "I'm a coach."

You should be flattered by the attention.

That said, with six months of passing back and forth between you two with waves and open doors, it seems a bit odd, not to mention late, to ask for a date out of the blue. But I like his style in asking! "I'm waiting for YOU to take ME..." Heh. I also liked he offered his phone number to YOU.

Are you sure it was a romantic date? Maybe he justs wants a lunch/dinner companion. It's the prerogative of women everywhere to accept a no-strings meal with a kind, polite man who treats you with respect. Quit being an insensitive ageist! There's no age difference in having a meal with someone.
I want to be just like him when I grow up.
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Old 03-25-2006, 12:24 AM
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I was asked out a few years ago by a man who is in his late 70's, older than my dad, who was nearly old enough to be a grandfather when he had me. We're talking 45 years older than I am. On one hand, I thought, "Whoa, no way, man! You'd have to look like Sean Connery at that age to even think about having a shot." On the other hand, I thought, "This guy has some brass ones, good for him for trying."

In any case, I had to stop taking his calls because he wouldn't take no for an answer. I felt bad but creeped out at the same time, so I know right where you're coming from, Anaamika.
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Old 03-25-2006, 02:10 AM
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Anaamika, apparently both you and the old guy are attracted to youth and beauty. That's natural.

When I was near your age and travelling in Europe, I spent a wonderful day and evening with a gentleman in his early seventies. He was too old for me, but for just a day, he made an interesting and intelligent companion. He's the only man who ever bought me violets.

That's been almost thirty-five years ago. The funny thing is that the older that I get, the more attractive that old man gets in my memory. I'm getting into his age range now. C'est la vie.

Fortunately, I have a younger man of my own at home. He's only sixty-four.
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Old 03-25-2006, 02:33 AM
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Ya know, the sad fact is, by the time some of us old farts have become secure enough in our selves to actualy chat up young hotties, we are so old that their response is "Ewwwww".

Oh to have had the gumption back when I was young and had all my hair. And less around the middle.
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Old 03-25-2006, 06:01 AM
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Redd Foxx with a social conscience...
Hell, where do I sign up?!
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Old 03-25-2006, 06:32 AM
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Hey, old men aren't the only one's who are dirty. One time when I was in my 20s, I was playing pool in a bar, and a black lady in her 50s or 60s came up to me, licked her lips and said "Honey, I'll take your sweet ass downtown till you can't walk straight!"
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Old 03-25-2006, 02:19 PM
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Okay, I needed an excuse to tell this story.

I remember going to the Folsom Street Fair a few years ago and waiting for my girl friend to finish trying something on. One 57-year-old guy got rather offended that I wouldn't go up to his hotel room "for some fun" five minutes after he walked up behind me, grabbed my ass, and said "Hey, you're hot."


Despite my objections that he should find someone else, since I didn't know him. And was offended by him just grabbing me that way. And wasn't into random sex. And I was one-third his age.
And straight.

He left after "Hey, look. If you don't fuck off I'll kick you until you do."
Three cheers for jackboots.
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Old 03-25-2006, 02:33 PM
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If it makes you feel any better, I had an old man try to pick me up in a bar recently. He walked up beside me and put his hand on my lower back/upper ass as he attempted to make small talk. He was old and grey and probably around 60+ too. I just brushed him off, got my drinks and told him to have a great night.
I just wasn't interested. It might have been the age difference as I'm 26 and he was pushing mid 60s. Of course, it might also have had something to do with me being a heterosexual male.... and married.
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Old 03-25-2006, 04:47 PM
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If it makes you feel any better, I had an old man try to pick me up in a bar recently. He walked up beside me and put his hand on my lower back/upper ass as he attempted to make small talk. He was old and grey and probably around 60+ too. I just brushed him off, got my drinks and told him to have a great night.
I just wasn't interested. It might have been the age difference as I'm 26 and he was pushing mid 60s. Of course, it might also have had something to do with me being a heterosexual male.... and married.
You're straight? I always thought the "bear" stood for...something else.

My granduncle through marraige came onto me at my cousin's christening. He thought I was one of my aunt's many cousins, and he was very polite about it. I was fourteen. But I thanked him for the compliment.

His girlfriend now is in her fifties, and he's at least 30 years older.
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Old 03-25-2006, 05:10 PM
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I've been reading Anaamika's, Rubystreak's, Zoe's and Anastasaeon's responses with a jaded and critical eye. See, I'd been joking to my friends for years I'd probably finally get married when I was fifty to a woman half my age. I haven't ruled that out yet. But the "Ewww! Gray pubes! Gross!" responses of some of ladies here are giving me a rare moment of pause. I need opposite validation.

So who here has an April / October, date, relationship, encounter of a romantic nature? They can be of a satisfying or unsatisfying nature. My Pops is living proof they happen, and can happen without old dudes flashing a lot of money around, and they can be highly satisfying to both parties.

Any dudes who want to jump in with their encounters with significantly older women (or men), feel free.
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Old 03-25-2006, 05:20 PM
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Like men who prefer thinner women to fat ones, women have shallow preferences, too. Mine is to date men my own age. There are chicks out there who will date older men; don't let our preferences (which are moot anyway) scare you off. Date all the young women you like. The ones who like that kind of thing will line up at your door, I'm sure.
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Old 03-25-2006, 05:23 PM
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Sorry to double post:

Also, turn the situation around. Would you have dated a 60-70 year old women when you were younger? If no, you can see where we're coming from. If yes, then you see you have nothing to worry about - there are people out there who think like you do, and you shouldn't have a problem.
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Old 03-25-2006, 05:24 PM
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The greatest romance of my life happened when I was separated/divorced. I was in my early to mid 30's (32-35) and he was in his late 50's-early 60's. His beard was mostly grey, but his hair (thin, but definitely there) was still gold, and he had eyes the color of forget-me-not's. He might not have had the body of a god, but he had the soul of a poet. He had traveled the world, worked in the Arts all his life, was a published author, and he swept me off my feet, head over heels.

I was starlight, he was golden, and the air sparkled whenever we were together.

We spent large amounts of time on the beaches and in the wildflower meadows of Kodiak. He made me feel truly womanly, truly feminine, and truly wanted for no other reason than he found me delightful. He was the only person, male or female, to know who I am, to understand my heart.

He died three years into the relationship. I will never stop loving him, and will always be thankful for the time we spent together.
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Old 03-25-2006, 05:33 PM
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I was proofing this and posted before Askia's request. I am not throwing you a bone hun, for myself a man with some living behind him is a far better option than a younger man who has less.....polish.
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Old 03-25-2006, 05:43 PM
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When I was a little younger than 20, the owner of a cafe where I regularily hanged out with friends was always offering me the boot. And in no uncertain or subtle terms. He was in his late 50s, seriously overweighted, a liar, dishonest, and a a fervent supporter of the extreme-right. The fact that I was straight didn't seem to be a issue for him, either. He also offered a couple times a monetary "compensation" .


In case you'd wonder why I kept hanging out in this cafe, that would be because we were a closely tied little group of friends, and one of us had a crush on the waiter (who was the fuck-buddy of the cafe owner, incidentally). We stopped coming there after we clearly expressed our view to our friend that becoming the girlfriend of a former felon, alcoholic and drug addict, 15 years her senior, who fucked his boss and insisted that she should give up medical school in order to work and support him financially wasn't exactly a bright idea. After that she didn't want to see us ever again and we stopped meeting this trio.
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Old 03-25-2006, 05:50 PM
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I got a marriage proposal this week from a strange man on the Metro. He was at least 20 years older than me, and had a funny accent I couldn't quite place.

I was standing, holding onto a pole for balance, reading, and someone bumped into me. When I looked up to see who had nudged me, this old guy was staring at me. He then declared loudly in almost-singing voice: "Oh, beautiful lady! Marry me and make me pretty babies!"

Funny, I always thought my first proposal would be a little more romantic...
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Old 03-25-2006, 05:51 PM
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I've been reading Anaamika's, Rubystreak's, Zoe's and Anastasaeon's responses with a jaded and critical eye. See, I'd been joking to my friends for years I'd probably finally get married when I was fifty to a woman half my age. I haven't ruled that out yet. But the "Ewww! Gray pubes! Gross!" responses of some of ladies here are giving me a rare moment of pause. I need opposite validation.
I never said, "Ewww! Gray pubes" or anything like it. I just don't want to date someone who is 45 years older than I am. This man was about 78 years old and he looked it. If I got involved with him, he would almost certainly die on me and leave me devastated. If we had children, he wouldn't live to see them grow up. I just can't sign up for that.

Askia, ae you saying that you have zero physical criteria for your lovers? Everyone has things they need and other things that they can't deal with, and for me, a man over 50 is too old. I like men within 10 years of my age, pretty much.

How many men in their 30's would date a 78 year old woman? I know, I know, Harold and Maude, but really, truly, how often does that happen? Older men get younger women all the time, but I rarely, if ever, hear of a man dating a woman 45 years old than him. Seriously, now.
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Old 03-25-2006, 05:59 PM
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Okay, I needed an excuse to tell this story.
Me, too: one of my fondest memories was of flirting back with an 80-something casting director for the Ziegfeld Follies, back in 1981. He told me I looked "just like Miss Ruth Etting" and he could've taken me up to Flo's office and gotten me "right into the Follies." Bliss!

(By the way, I could not have looked less like Ruth Etting if I took a night course in "How Not to Look Like Ruth Etting").
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Old 03-25-2006, 06:11 PM
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I never said, "Ewww! Gray pubes" or anything like it. .
Truth be told, I might be guilty of uttering something like that - but I didn't in this thread. My story involved a man who was seriously disrespecting his wife, and by calling her old and ugly, earned my disgust. Who did he think he was? Adonis? We're all going to be "old and ugly" someday. I don't do pity fucks or wham bam thank you ma'ams, or fulfill adulterous fantasies, no matter how young or old you are: debonair gray haired man, liver skinned pus weasel, strapping young man, or not.

Ew. Gray pubes!
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Old 03-25-2006, 06:35 PM
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I currently have a crush on a woman my mom's age. Fortunately for the both of our relationships, she's straighter than a stainless steel I-beam in a gravitational void.

However, if in the unlikely event she ever made a pass at me, I don't think those gray pubes would bother me one damned bit.
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Old 03-25-2006, 07:30 PM
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I'll be eligible for AARP in less than a handful of years, and I tend to prefer younger men, mostly because I like my sex athletic and men my age are often toting waaay too much baggage or are whiny bitches. Last year I had a date with a 24 year old I met online--we had a beer, I liked his conversation and he was pretty as could be so I invited him over for dinner. He ended up propositioning me but I turned him down... just didn't feel like getting used to a different guy at the time. I had been broken up with Mr Aleq (we do that fairly often) for about six months at the time and I realized I was missing him more than I was missing just getting laid. So I looked him up again at New Year's and we're being together again. He's eight years younger than I and was nineteen when we met.

Age is largely a matter of opinion, seems to me. I know eighteen year olds who are more stodgy and "old" than I by a long shot.
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Old 03-25-2006, 09:10 PM
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Shuddering over the idea of an older man going for a younger woman is amusing to me....considering that I'm 22 and am primarily attracted to men in their 40's. In fact, guys my own age become less and less appealing as I delve deeper into the dating world.

To each their own!
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Old 03-26-2006, 01:27 AM
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Oh to have had the gumption back when I was young and had all my hair. And less around the middle.

Gee, you sound like you are becoming my type.

I've never been happier since my husband shaved his head. And when he did the Atkins diet and got down to 220lbs, I was buying him snickers bars.

My heart can not be true to hairy, skinny man.
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Gee, you sound like you are becoming my type.

I've never been happier since my husband shaved his head. And when he did the Atkins diet and got down to 220lbs, I was buying him snickers bars.

My heart can not be true to hairy, skinny man.
More for me, then! I just love them lanky hair farmers...
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for myself a man with some living behind him is a far better option than a younger man who has less.....polish.
Receding, thinning hair is Nature's way of saying "Look! Not like the 17 year olds you used to date!" That's why it's hot.

I love dating older guys. It might be genetic; my great-grandfather's third wife was 37 years his junior (and they were happily married for almost a decade until he passed away). I'm seeing someone 18 years my senior, and he makes me incredibly happy. And when I say he's gorgeous, I don't even have to add "for a guy who'll be 50 next year." And he's smart, and has lots of experience at lots of things, and doesn't have any nesting instinct going on, and it's all awesome.

Corr
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Old 03-26-2006, 07:50 PM
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Shuddering over the idea of an older man going for a younger woman is amusing to me....considering that I'm 22 and am primarily attracted to men in their 40's. In fact, guys my own age become less and less appealing as I delve deeper into the dating world.

To each their own!
I actually prefer dating older guys, too. Just not 30 years older. As I said, 10-15 years is the maximum gap I'd consider. I just like someone who is into the same things as me.
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Old 03-26-2006, 10:02 PM
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I actually prefer dating older guys, too. Just not 30 years older. As I said, 10-15 years is the maximum gap I'd consider. I just like someone who is into the same things as me.
I completely understand.

I've surprised myself with the age thing, though. I use to think that I wouldn't be interested in anyone more than maybe 10 years older than me....then I fell for a guy 22 years older.

The man that I am currently having lunch with (as it is at the very beginning of something that could likely turn into something great, but I have no idea), is 26 years older. I'm not in for the money, he's not in for the sex with a sweet young thing - there is just an undeniable attraction, both physical and otherwise.

Live and learn, I guess.
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