Yeah, that’s ostensibly how it works here, too. But if a parent allows it, what’s the school going to do, pin her down and take out the ring by force? Suspend her? When she comes back still wearing the ring, suspend her again? I’d love to see a school keep that up for long without getting sued. Hell, it’d probably just take the threat of a lawsuit for the school board to overrule the school’s decision.
Generally warning, then detention, then suspension, same as any dress code violation (if indeed piercings are mentioned in the dress code. Some schools prohibit visible piercings specifically, some don’t, and some consider it to fall under the umbrella of “Other” things that they can prohibit on a case by case basis.). Keep the kid home under protest and you’ll find yourself looking up the Truancy section of the handbook when a police officer shows up at your door.
It’s been tried, and the courts have found in the school’s favor, as they have an interest in maintaining order and discipline, and students do not have the right of freedom of expression when in school. The courts response to parents, more or less, is, “Don’t like it? Homeschool.”
In this country, we have the right to a free public education, but we don’t get to dictate every detail about how the school is run. We have the legal obligation to see our minor children receive an education, but it doesn’t have to be at that same free public school. If you want to allow nose piercings and your neighborhood school won’t allow it, you are free to pay for a school that will or to educate your child at home, where you can control all the details.
Fucking hell. That’s a shock, I thought the USA was way better than here in that regard.
We have two daughters, 13 years old and 15 years old.
Nose ring? Hell no.
No earrings, tattoos, piercings, or boyfriends.
No fast dancing, either, I take it?
I don’t think a 13 yr old should be trying to look hot, and I don’t think a parent should be encouraging them to look hot.
Honest question: no boyfriends/dating even for the 15 YO? The only reason I say so is that I was also not allowed to date at all until I left home, and that left me woefully unprepared for the world of men. I think 15-18 is a great time to start dating because then mom and dad can still help train and guide the child in the right direction, whereas once they are out of the house it’s much harder. In other words, it’s a great way to let the child fall, a little bit, so you can help pick them up - teach them independence, in other words.
Interesting point. But no, I do not know! My mom was (STILL IS) so overbearing and such a micromanager that I try very hard not to be like that. But maybe she does still need to rebel against something.
She’s already another buffalo in the heard of self-mutilation, with her earrings.
Good advice. No reason I can’t honestly explain to her how I feel about it.
It is arbitrary, but she first brought it up recently, and she’ll be 13 in March, so I said no way can she get it done before she’s even officially a teenager, because I mean come on. It’s not something I’ve been promising her or anything, but this just came up the other day.
I already said I have no problem telling her no about it, if that’s what I decide I should do.
I didn’t even think to consider that.
Only when he’s shooting at their feet.
I’d say no because once she gets a nose piercing, then she’ll want to come up with something else, and then something else, if that makes any sense. She’ll have it in her head that she’s a daring risk taker and want to keep at it. Next she’ll want tongue studs and lip and eyebrow piercings and ear gauges, which make me slightly nauseous.
I just took my 17-year-old to get her nose pierced, against my desires, but she’ll be 18 in 2 months anyways. And her straitlaced aunt/schoolteacher has one, and I really had no other reason not to except that I didn’t want to see my baby get pierced (although as a filipina she’s had her ears pierced since she was an infant). It’s something she’s been asking for for many years, and not a passing fancy. It didn’t hurt her much at all, and I have to admit it looks pretty good on her, as much as a nose piercing can. But I’d say you should have a very well-shaped nose or it will just draw attention to it. Her employer doesn’t allow nose piercings, so she has to take it out for work, which is a problem because it’s still so fresh.
It’s quite common to get clear, flat studs that are pretty much invisible and are usually used for these situations. I’ve even worked on a filmset where they were invisible enough that, combined with make up, they could do close-ups. Might also potentially be an option for school, if they’re not happy with it? Though I presume in the case of the OP, school would be fine with a pierced nose.
I’m not suggesting she or anyone get a gun piercing on their nose. I’m just pointing to the OP possibly why her cartilage piercing in her upper ear didn’t seem to hurt so much.
Way to miss the point there. Just because I find nose piercings hot in certain circumstances on certain people of the correct age and gender, doesn’t mean that it’s inherently an act undertaken to arouse sexual desire in people. I put in that comment for context so that people knew I am coming from a strongly pro-piercing standpoint, not to suggest the OP’s daughter is going to suddenly become “phwoar” just with the addition of some face jewellery.
Also there’s no guarantee or indication that the OP’s daughter is suddenly going to become a guaged, scarified, branded BM freak just because she’s been allowed to get a nose piercing. I am presuming the OP knows her daughter’s mindset and whether one instance of leniency on her own part will lead to a slippery slope of “What the fuck have you done to your face?”
Obviously Crafter_Man is on something with his stance, IIRC, that his kids can’t so much as get their ears pierced until they’re out of the house (or at LEAST until they’re 18), but that’s not really the point here.
I don’t understand this. First of all, as other people have said, YOU’RE the parent, tell her no. And I have never wanted anything other than my nosering. Those other things make me slightly nauseous, too. It’s not a slippery slope of piercing! Some of us have self control.
I wouldn’t want one for myself. It’s hard enough keeping snot from escaping the two nose-holes I was born with. Last thing I need is a “punch top” vent hole for easier pouring.
Surprisingly enough, nothing comes out of that hole. Even with my stud out, both nostrils blocked and blowing as hard as I can, I cannot make a snot bubble come out of my piercing hole! 
Epic disappointment! 
But I feel that you have reached the age and maturity to get one of those big stretchy hole things in your nose with a massive ring in it. Really, I trust you to make the right decision here. Go on, off you go!
Depends entirely on the gauge, placement and anatomy. As I found out during a particularly disgusting drunk hug one evening… (I don’t have a nose piercing. I do have a friend who does. And was drunk. Very drunk. Do we see where this is going? Ew.)
That was what my daughter (now 22) argued, and I relented. She will soon graduated top or close in her nursing school class. She has no kids and is punctual for all appointments.
ETA: she actually wanted to be “cool”, not “hot”. And she sure did look “cool”.
I would think 13 is a little young for this. Maybe make her wait it out awhile and then see if she still wants it, 6 months, a year? This could just be a fad or an itch that will pass, and if she waits a bit she won’t want it anymore, and it will be better that she did not get an extra hole in her face. If she still really really wants it after a good amount of time, maybe seriously discuss it then?
And I am only 26 and holes in faces do not bother me. I have no extras, not even ears (I have tiny earlobes) and no tattoos, but I think they are just fine on others. My dad and brother even have earrings, and my brother at points had tongue and eyebrow piercings as well, and all my friends have tattoos.