When my little sister was around 14, my dad did the thing where he just happened to be cleaning his shotgun (borrowed from my brother) when the date showed up. Seemed kinda funny at the time but then I was 16 and knew nothing about dates. I guess we will never know why my sister became so secretive in her teen years and spent so many years dating such losers. I mean, our dad made all the right moves, right?
“Be safe and have a good time!”
“I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me.”
Oh sheehs, necroposted. Regardless …
I feel sorry for you that you can’t have an actual conversation with your kids or their friends. No, it’s not a conversation as equals, but it can be a real conversation. It helps to have a common interest and actually do something with them, and let conversation happen naturally.
Truth.
The best you can do is make sure your kids know what to look out for and what to do if things go south. But what they choose to do, you have little control over.
Just check what some TV gangster - like Tony Soprano or some other bad guy - said to his daughter’s first date and then say something similar.
Hey…perhaps you can feed him trifle…then everybody is happy
It seems to me there’s a difference between a date where one of the parents is chauffeuring the couple to a school dance and one where one of the daters is doing the driving not necessarily to a school dance.
“You’re waiting for any chance to bang my daughter, because boy. My daughter hates sex, because girl. She’s also stupid and easily manipulated, because girl. Before you try anything, though, remember: her cherry is mine by right.”
In the cliched threats, though, her will doesn’t come into it.
Realizing it is an old thread…
I had two sons. They were taught PRIC (personal responsibility, informed consent). If anything happened between them and your daughters, it was because she wanted it to happen also.
If you have a daughter, she is going to have sex when she wants to, regardless of how much you threaten her dates.
This may not be appropriate for someone as young as 14, but if you are worried about a boy dating your daughter you could hire a prostitute to have sex with him in the car before the date. That way he should be satiated and not try anything, so long as you keep the date short. For longer dates make him take frequent prostitute breaks.
Logically, that should do it. LOGICALLY.
i would be like be home at this time and while cleaning the shotgun at the table …
it ll probably give him something to think about being on time …
( something of scaring him with, at that age boys have one thing on their mind and it is not trading baseball cards )
I only came in here to point out that the thread immediately above this one is: **Have you ever used a vibrator to masturbate? **
I suppose something about a Turkish prison and gladiator movies might be appropriate, too?
It amazes me how often people still think threatening the kid is a good idea. Have you ever BEEN a teenager?
It’s a perfect solution, of course, if what you want is for your daughter to hide all her boyfriends from you. By all means be a big asshole if you want to know nothing at all about who your daughter’s making out with.
Don’t embarrass your daughter or intimidate the boy or your daughter will avoid telling you about future dates and “meet” them somewhere you’ll never be aware of. That’s what I did and it put me into a lot of unsafe and unwise situations I regret. Hopefully you’ve already given her all the advice and self confidence she needs to make the right decisions with boys. If not it’s probably too late now. Just cross your fingers!
- Sounds like a bit of an empty threat to me, though. Still, it sounds like your strategy worked. 
LOL!!!
No kidding. If anything, I would have seen that as a challenge. And all it will do, as you say, is have her hide her boyfriends from you.