I have never used a prostitute (it would creep me out) , but several business acquaintenances have, and I here to tell you there is tons of young attractive action out there for one or two $ 100 bills any day of the week.
For $ 2,000. any man of the world can get usually obtain more attractive, more experienced and far more quantity of action with willing young ladies/hookers (some of them college coeds) than a quickie with a hungry coed doing it as one off. Some men are cruel and if the offer is accepted will not follow through, but will then being to negotiate having established that the door is open for a deal. Anytime someone offers to grossly overpay for something they could obtain at less expense and in greater quantity with the same results, the person being propositioned is usually being played.
I think you saved yourself a screwing on more than one level.
His original offer was $200. I told him no, so he offered $400. Told him no again, so he left me alone… for a while. Then it went to $300 every two weeks. The guy was trying to make some bi-weekly arrangement with me. I said hell no to that one. Then it went back to a one time thing, but for $500. With the $500 he kept saying things like, “I know you need the money.” Ick. Then $800, $1,000, $2,000! Holy Christ. When he said 2k, I told him I didn’t believe him and there was no way in hell was he going to pay me $2,000 for a quick shag. Now this guy is filthy stinkin’ rich and all, but still. 2k? Then he told me he’d give me half upfront since I was so skeptical. I still said no.
:smack: Passed up money for nothing, but at least I can sleep with myself at night.
Man: Excuse me, dear, but you’re very attractive. Woman: Why, thank you! Man: Let me ask would you consider sleeping with me for fifty-thousand dollars? Woman: OH WOW! This is great! I’ve been in real financial trouble lately, and that would be a god-send. So I could probably be convinced! Man: Ok, would you sleep with me for $50? Woman: MY GOD! what kind of woman do you think I am!?! Man: Madam, we have already established what kind of woman you are, now we’re haggling for price.
FWIW, I think you made the right choice, MeanOldLady.
You people throw around the word “whore” like it’s a bad thing. Have you ever exchanged labor for goods and services? Then on some level, you’re a “whore.” You own your body and if you have the right to rent it out to sling burgers or enter data or fly a jet, then you ought to have the right to rent it out for purposes of having sex. And you ought not to be subject to arrest or moral condemnation for making that choice. I have paid for sex before and would do so again. I’ve also, in all but currency, had sex for money (a guy once paid for me to fly to California with the understanding that I would sleep with him while I was there). I don’t regret having been on either side of that equation for a minute. If you think that makes me a whore, feel free to think it, then ask me how much I care.
If you don’t want to pay for sex or sell sex for money, then by all means don’t. But if your sole argument against it is “doing it makes you a whore” then fold your tired morality five ways and stick it where the sun don’t shine.
MeanOldLady, you’ve made your decision and I support it. If it matters to you, should you change your mind I support that too.
Otto has made more common sense in this thread than anyone else I have read. Basically, it comes down to ownership of yourself. If you accept that you do own your own life, and your body, then you may indeed rent it out. Call me biased, I have happily dated (romantically) several woman who have been prostitutes (yes, even while I dated them). I saw it, and still do, as no different than trading any other service for cash, in any other job. I have no issue with it at all. Period.
MeanOldLady You have my full support in whatever you choose - given that you are the ultimate arbiter of what is right for you. Pretty good, as I do not know you
Hell, if I were closer to you MeanOldLady, I’d offer you $2000 to just go out and have a good time, but that’s just me. I’m even in my low twenty’s and not too bad lookin’. It’s a shame that some women think that all men want is sex. No wonder they think that, it’s because of garbage like him, that offered you money for sex KNOWING that your’re not a prosititute. (I have nothing against pros’s, just don’t go asking the girl next door for services that are unwelcome, multiple times.). Your better to go with your first instinct and don’t do it. Because your first instinct is usually your consious saying, “don’t do it”, and is usually the right option. That first instinct is what will make you sorry if you had. However, for those ladys that would have actually had you take more money (your friends), it wouldn’t be a moral delema for them at all because it wouldn’t have bothered them, which is fine too, everybody’s different.
Otto though there is nothing wrong with being a whore, this hypocritical society with live in does not see it that way. Unfortunately if someone agreed to do such a thing, and years afterwards decided to go for public office, then if the details of the paid sex got to the press it would ruin that persons chances. Totaly hypocritical, since I think everyone here and probably most people believe that it would be completely ‘MeanOldLadies’ choice of what she did and not of particularly high moral importance. Because of this it seems correct to advise against the act, under the assumption that society will not change that much in the future and will remain hypocritical.
A practical issue - are you planning to go into a job after college which will require a security clearance? State department, defense dept., something like that? You don’t want this to come up for the background check.
A man who asks a woman if she would sleep with him for a million dollars. She allows that she probably would. In that case, the man presses, would you sleep with me for $10? “What kind of a woman do you think I am?” she asks, indignant. “We’ve already established what kind of a woman you are,” the retort comes. “Now we’re just negotiating over the price.”
Heh, it’s funny how all of the people who want me to do it are either poor, male or both. Man, saying no was tough, but I guess I did the right thing. I have integrity.
I have no problem with prostitution. People pay me for my brains, why should it be wrong for you to accept money for your body? (OK, legal issues aside.)
But I believe you see it as wrong and so I think it is wrong for you.
The married thing bothers me as well.
I guess my take is, I wouldn’t condemn you for accepting, but I think you will be happier not doing so.
I’ve always seen it attributed to Winston Churchill, but then again it seems nearly all of these apocryphal jokes are attributed to one or the other of them.
If you could live with yourself after the fact, OK. Since it seems you’re having a problem with that, then stick with your intuition and don’t do it. Taking money for sex is not something that you can undo.
In the long run, your integrity and peace of mind may be worth much more to you than an amount of money that is, after all, only about 10% of the cost of a decent car.
As for the OP, get over yourself and stop pretending like your vagina is some kind of holy land. Fuck the guy, take his money, and move on. If he wants seconds, then guess what, that’s another 2G’s. If I had someone who wanted to f me in exchange for 2 months rent and bills…
Take it now. Call it retirement money that you’ll spend when no one in the world would even consider you for a conjugal exchange.
Personally, I think you’ve made the right decision. As you’ve said, you’re the one who has to live with yourself; and obviously your personal morals and integrity led you to the conclusion that it was a bad idea. If it’s something that would cause you to feel bad about yourself, then you’ve clearly done the right thing. If it wasn’t, then that’s (of course) okay, too.
But for those of you who jump in to say “go ahead and do it,” let me ask you, how would you feel if it was your sister? Or your mother, for that matter? Would you still support the notion?
