Bring and use your OWN birth control.
This is almost word-for-word what I was thinking when I read the last update (after I wondered what the hell AS meant).
I’ll be honest, the idea of a weekend in bed with her does sound intriguing. I’ve always had an attitude of “it is what it is” and tend to not get more attached emotionally from sex, so that’s not an issue for me. Not sure if it would be for her. Again, I’m really not sure what she was getting at, although she did steal my “meet me in your dreams” line on me when she said goodnight (which I somehow neglected to mention in my last post).
I haven’t spoken to her since that convo so I’m not sure what the weekend plans are, if any. As usual, I am proceeding with caution, and will stay home if I get a hint of something bad happening (so far I’m not convinced I’m going to lose a kidney). Also, NYC’s getting another snowstorm, so cuddling in a bed with ANYONE cute sounds like a fun idea.
QFT?
Okay dopers, you tell me. Is she hot enough to offset the crazy?
Umm, besides the fact that Melon was assumably not being less than 100% serious, IMO she is not over the desired slope of hot/crazy.
Is that her real photo? I don’t think it’s wise to link to a real photo of her, if that’s what it is.
It’s her real photo (but still not her real name). What would happen? I figure I’ve already revealed enough about this situation that if she’s a doper, I’m already busted (I did find out last week that she used to visit the same IRC channel which I pop into from time to time, so this world keeps getting smaller and smaller). I’ll kill the link once I get enough opinions.
It just strikes me as kind of… odd to post someone’s photo so that posters can publicly vote on how fuckable she is despite the craziness.
Anyway, IMHO, she could be Olivia Wilde’s hotter sister and it still wouldn’t matter. Either it’s worth the potential risk of drama, heartache, etc. or it isn’t.
That’s a jerkish thing to do. Take her photo down. You’ve just made yourself unworthy of doing her.
“Quoted for truth.”
Dr. Qadgop is a wise man. Heed his warning.
I agree with Lobot. Looks don’t matter if the relationship is nothing but trouble.
Do yourself a favor. Hire a hooker. It’ll be easier, cheaper in the long run, and you’ll have better memories. 
I keed, I keed. Still…
Yes, the AS stands for asperger syndrome. I fall victim to it yet again 
Good thing you’ve got us here to steer you, then.
Aw I didn’t see it and now the link won’t work. I wasn’t being serious when I asked but it’s a cruel irony that the one who asks is the only one who doesn’t get to see. PM? 
Well done Sir! Don’t think of it as losing sex. Think of it as retaining life & avoiding being the subject of a Nancy Grace show. :eek:
I’ve been around this World Wide Web for a little while now, but I actually thought that stood for something that began with “quite” and ended with “true.” Huh.
Turns out all she wants to use her bed for tonight is to sleep. Dodged a bullet?
Why would you use a line like “meet you in my dreams”, on someone you barely know? You are moving way too fast, even if she wasn’t totally insane. I’m not hardly a prude, but you have to save that kind of material for when you’re in full-on love, not some chick you are dating.
Can’t believe you’re bothering to talk to her, and letting her drag you down to drama-ville. In my lurking you’ve always come across as pretty smart. I’m sure you have something to offer a woman who won’t make you miserable from jump street. You deserve better, don’t sacrifice your sanity because of low self image.
I’m gonna level with you. Having seen her photo I no longer think that by hooking up with her you might wind up with a druggie stripper and her convict boyfriend that you can’t get rid of. But frankly she looks like someone who is living a very difficult life, most likely of her own making, but still not her fault so far as she is able to do anything about it.
Some people are just wired to have a hard time of it in life, and even though they are miserable and wish their lives were different they just don’t have it within themselves to recognize what they’re doing wrong and/or the discipline or desire to make the changes they need to make in order to have a better life. And sometimes these people try to come off as kooky or quirky or whatever in an attempt to appear charmingly eccentric rather than someone who is, for lack of a better term, a loser. (That chicken purse is a clue to me that she’s either going for charmingly kooky or she’s trying to draw attention to herself in the wrong way and for the wrong reasons. Plus it doesn’t seem to fit the rest of her. She doesn’t look like the type of person one would expect to be carrying such a bag.)
I feel sorry for her but I also think she would be a pain in the ass to spend time with. She looks guarded, troubled and beaten down, but with a hint of defiant belligerence that suggests she is not going to be changing anytime soon.
I’ve known a few girls/women like that in my life and often they are sexy and desirable and interesting on the surface but they’re a pain in the freakin’ ass to try to have a relationship with. They are their own worst enemy, and not only are they inclined to do whatever they want whenever they want (do the degree they can), but they don’t want you giving them any shit about it. They are undependable, do almost everything the wrong way, are chronically unhappy, and, like I said above, both unwilling and unable to change.
So if you want someone in your life who is a nonstop source of drama and frustration and unhappiness - someone who is pretty much a permanent cloud in your life - a woman of that type is who you’re looking for.
Now I realize that I may appear to have extrapolated an awful lot from a single photo and that in reality she might be an utterly wonderful person to have a relationship with. But I’ve also taken her background clutter and her current situation into account in making my analysis, and I think that the evidence we have so far indicates that she is very much more to be the former than the latter.
However it goes, I wish both you and her the best of luck.
And I agree that the “meet you in my dreams” line is out of place. I would think that would sound threatening to a woman, and it’s a poor choice of words. I think “See you in my dreams” would sound better, but even then only as a pickup line if you’re the charmingly rakish sort or after you’ve already slept with someone.
Just my two cents.
Yes, you dodged a bullet. One should expect to dodge bullets if one chooses to play around between marksmen and their targets at a riflery range.
Actually she used that “meet me in your dreams” line on me. But I’ve used that line 100 times (on other people) before she did, so that was a surprise.
And Starving Artist, you’re right about everything. I woke up this morning and realized that when you’re in a good relationship, every moment shouldn’t feel like a struggle. And this is what it feels like to me. I really feel like it isn’t worth the effort, especially for someone I’ve barely even started to get to know.
For the record, I’ve stuck my dick in way crazier than her, so this still sort of feels like a step closer to sane. But honestly, single and happy beats whatever this is. I’ll be disappointed if we part ways before I get to see her naked (immature of me, I know, but c’mon), but it may be for the better. I lent her my copy of Godel, Escher, Bach the first time we met up, but that can be easily replaced (and a convenient excuse if I ever need to see her one more time). Really, the thing that first attracted me to her was the fact that she wanted our first date (or “undate”…remember, she’s still officially classified as undateable) to be at the symphony, and things just grew from there. However, we all have our history and our quirks, and the bad comes with the good, and often overclouds it. Quite frankly, this feels more like a struggle than the start of a relationship, and the fact that I had to start this thread at all is a good sign that things are likely not gonna work. Oh well.
I wouldn’t even say he dodged a bullet. She just hasn’t pulled the trigger yet.