Oh my fucking god. Can someone remind me to not give fusoya any sympathy when he starts the inevitable, “Wah! My heart is broken!” thread?
ETA: I realized that I asked for more drama earlier in this thread - I take it back! Too much drama!
fusoya
January 21, 2011, 4:55pm
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I’ve lasted another 2 weeks without having any contact with her. Worry not, my heart is not broken, she’s really more of a afterthought of my life story now. One credit I do have to give her is giving my love of all things classical music a much-needed jumpstart, so I actually got out with more gained than lost!
SMDB stalkers out there (and I know you’re out there), what does it mean when someone logs onto AIM a couple times a day, for about 5 seconds at a time? That’s all she’s been doing since the weekend of the big sleep. I’m not quite sure which of us got the last word in…
BigT
January 22, 2011, 7:14am
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fusoya:
I’ve lasted another 2 weeks without having any contact with her. Worry not, my heart is not broken, she’s really more of a afterthought of my life story now. One credit I do have to give her is giving my love of all things classical music a much-needed jumpstart, so I actually got out with more gained than lost!
SMDB stalkers out there (and I know you’re out there), what does it mean when someone logs onto AIM a couple times a day, for about 5 seconds at a time? That’s all she’s been doing since the weekend of the big sleep. I’m not quite sure which of us got the last word in…
I don’t know about AIM, but I’ll sometimes do that on Facebook to see if anyone I want to chat with is online. Before the advent of group-based ignore settings, I would go invisible really quickly if someone I didn’t want to talk to was there.
fusoya , read this again:
I’ve known a few girls/women like that in my life and often they are sexy and desirable and interesting on the surface but they’re a pain in the freakin’ ass to try to have a relationship with. They are their own worst enemy, and not only are they inclined to do whatever they want whenever they want (do the degree they can), but they don’t want you giving them any shit about it. They are undependable, do almost everything the wrong way, are chronically unhappy, and, like I said above, both unwilling and unable to change.
I spent a few years married to one of these women. Count yourself lucky, man.
Me, too.
Run away and be done with it.
fusoya
February 10, 2011, 5:08pm
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Hey, finally some closure!
I heard from her last night, first time in about a month. She moved to Vermont, and got a job at a music store, so it looks like she ain’t going anywhere for a while. So I’m done. Thanks for playing, now how about that SDMB Singles Forum?
Starving_Artist:
I’m gonna level with you. Having seen her photo I no longer think that by hooking up with her you might wind up with a druggie stripper and her convict boyfriend that you can’t get rid of. But frankly she looks like someone who is living a very difficult life, most likely of her own making, but still not her fault so far as she is able to do anything about it.
Some people are just wired to have a hard time of it in life, and even though they are miserable and wish their lives were different they just don’t have it within themselves to recognize what they’re doing wrong and/or the discipline or desire to make the changes they need to make in order to have a better life. And sometimes these people try to come off as kooky or quirky or whatever in an attempt to appear charmingly eccentric rather than someone who is, for lack of a better term, a loser. (That chicken purse is a clue to me that she’s either going for charmingly kooky or she’s trying to draw attention to herself in the wrong way and for the wrong reasons. Plus it doesn’t seem to fit the rest of her. She doesn’t look like the type of person one would expect to be carrying such a bag.)
I feel sorry for her but I also think she would be a pain in the ass to spend time with. She looks guarded, troubled and beaten down, but with a hint of defiant belligerence that suggests she is not going to be changing anytime soon.
I’ve known a few girls/women like that in my life and often they are sexy and desirable and interesting on the surface but they’re a pain in the freakin’ ass to try to have a relationship with. They are their own worst enemy, and not only are they inclined to do whatever they want whenever they want (do the degree they can), but they don’t want you giving them any shit about it. They are undependable, do almost everything the wrong way, are chronically unhappy, and, like I said above, both unwilling and unable to change.
So if you want someone in your life who is a nonstop source of drama and frustration and unhappiness - someone who is pretty much a permanent cloud in your life - a woman of that type is who you’re looking for.
Now I realize that I may appear to have extrapolated an awful lot from a single photo and that in reality she might be an utterly wonderful person to have a relationship with. But I’ve also taken her background clutter and her current situation into account in making my analysis, and I think that the evidence we have so far indicates that she is very much more to be the former than the latter.
However it goes, I wish both you and her the best of luck.
And I agree that the “meet you in my dreams” line is out of place. I would think that would sound threatening to a woman, and it’s a poor choice of words. I think “See you in my dreams” would sound better, but even then only as a pickup line if you’re the charmingly rakish sort or after you’ve already slept with someone.
Just my two cents.
You know sometimes I’m all rageface.jpg at some of your posts but when you’re right you’re right. I’m a recovering version of one of these people. This post has given me a lot to think about. Thanks man.
There was a CHICKEN PURSE? I wish I had seen that pic.
Wow. Thank you too, Tao , you just made my day!
Yep. Imagine a more or less full size ceramic chicken with a loop handle.
I don’t think it was actually made of ceramic, but that will give you a pretty good idea what it looked like.
Was it as weird as the pelican purse ?
Don’t know, I can’t find it on that site. Still, I’d bet a pelican purse would be worse.
