Ah, it feels so good to be doing a MPSIMS dating rant again.
So Friday night, Amy (not her real name) finds my okcupid profile and sends me a couple of IMs. I’m already asleep so I don’t get them til early Saturday (I had to work all day). Finally we catch up Saturday night, have a day and a half of amazing IM conversation (where she kept warning me that she’s UN-DATABLE due to some circumstances in her life), and we set an “un-date” for Monday night at a concert. This meeting goes incredibly well, and after the show we go get some pizza up the street (despite being incredibly broke, she wouldn’t even let me pay for her $2 slice) and decide that we both want to return for tomorrow night’s show.
The next night, the same thing, except this time we ARE calling it a date. Once the show gets out, we decide to go someplace private (and warm) to talk. We settle on my place. Keep in mind, this is my first 2nd date in almost 4 years, so I was already into unfamiliar territory.
After some clothed spooning and lite chit-chat, she has a breakdown and tells me that if this is going any further, there’s some stuff she has to be honest with me about. She gives me the option of putting off the talk and letting her go home, but being the curious guy I am, I ask her to proceed.
She goes on this long story about her best friend (lets call him Mark), from her old town. The night before she had to move to NYC (over the summer), due to some family issues which needed her help, the two of them finally came very close to hooking up, and then before they could explore that, she had to leave in an emergency, and hasn’t seen him since (although she’s still kept in contact with him, and did tell him about meeting a great guy last night). She hasn’t been on any other dates since then, so this was the first, and she wasn’t sure what to expect. She said everything with me was going great, except that when I was holding her hand during the show, it felt strange to her, as if she was cheating on Mark, and that one of the reasons she declared herself undateable is that she is “emotionally unavailable” right now. However, she wishes that wasn’t the case and would love to pursue a relationship with me. As for me, if she could get her baggage in line, she’d be my dream girl, so if there’s any chance of this working, I want to try. We were talking almost the entire night, until we ran out of energy to even do that, and then the next morning, we had to hurry off to our jobs.
We were both dead tired yesterday, so every moment I wasn’t at work, I spent trying to catch up on sleep. We’ve conversed on AIM a bit, but it seems like it’s been nothing but small talk, and I really have no idea how to proceed. I’m in fact amazed she’s still talking to me at all.
So…now what?