7 questions about crying

In My Humble Opinion
41

Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
No. My friends and I cry in front of each other all the time, whether it’s emotional sadness, happiness, or pain.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? :frowning: **
A couple weeks ago. I had this infection in my finger that made it swell up twice its normal size. I was in Europe with my school, so my teacher had to pop it with a needle. When she did, she’d squeeze it really hard and damn, it hurt like hell. I didn’t cry like a baby, but my eyes were tearing a lot.

**When is the last time you cried, period? :frowning: **
A couple nights ago. I felt so overwhelmed for no apparent reason. I think the PMS was a part of it, too.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? :frowning: **
To me, neither. Crying because of physical pain is normal. It happens to everyone.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? :frowning:
I admit, sometimes. It depends what they want and if I’m willing to give them their way.

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? :frowning: **
Depends on who the person is.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years? :frowning:
Only once. My mom grounded me over something and I was so upset that I hoped if I cried in front of her, she’d feel sorry for me and unground me. It didn’t work.

42

Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
Yup, I don’t like to cry in front of anyone.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain?
About 8 years ago. I fell down a half a flight of stairs, brusing and cutting my back up and generally scaring the shit out of myself.

When is the last time you cried, period?
I’ve cried a lot lately. In the past six weeks a work friend died and a pet I’d had 1/2 of my life (literally 1/2 of my life to the week) died on my birthday…I’m not over either death, really, yet.

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain?
It wouldn’t affect my feelings either way.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way?
Sometimes and no. I worked with a three-year-old who cried every time she didn’t want to do what she was asked for weeks. It’s hard on the nerves, but I’ve learned not to give in to automatic waterworks.

Do you feel sad when other people cry?
Depends on why they’re crying. They’ve had something bad happen to them, yes. They are crying because they got a B instead of an A, no.

Have you ever cried in order to get your ** way within the last 5 years?
Five, no. Ten, yes kind of. I didn’t cry on purpose, but they helped. tears convinced my parents that I was serious about deciding on a different college at the last minute, and so made a 3 hour drive to drop off the paperwork

43

i don’t cry, so, no

the closest i came to crying was when i did a massive wipeout skiing a double-black diamond trail on Killington about 8 years ago, it was more of a scrunch my face up against the pain thing than tears

can’t remember, not since grade school, to me, crying is a sign of weakness

honestly wouldn’t care either way, if you pressed the point, i’d probably be a little annoyed, i was raised in the old-school philosopy of “men don’t cry”

nope, exact opposite in fact, it pisses me off, hate the sound, goes right up my spine

see last answer above

never, it’s just not done, crying is a sign of weakness and is not to be expressed

44

Of course not, we’re friends, we’re supposed to be there for each other in times of crisis not just to share good times.
I was at a friend’s house for a party when I got a call telling me a relative had died. I asked questions, got the details and made plans calmly on the phone, then hung up and went to find my friend to pull her aside and tell her, and that’s when I cried.

  1. Although it was because of breastfeeding gone horrifically wrong pain, so there was a heaping helping of hormones and frustration wrapped up with the physical pain.

I well up all the time, could be sentimental or empathetic or happy or sad, but actual bawling? 5 years ago at my grandmother’s funeral, I welled on and off thruout the whole dying/visitation/service thing but when my mother broke down trying to give a eulogy about her mother, I just sobbed.

I’d like to think that I wouldn’t think less of him. If it were more of an adreniline reaction thing I’m sure I wouldn’t, but if it seemed self-pitying I’m sure I probably would think less of him.

No. I will comfort them, of course, but any giving in would be rewarding emotional manipulation and that’s a horrible lesson to teach them.

Sure, empathetically, but not if it’s manipulative whining, that disgusts me.

Great googly moogly, no! I’d say I’ve never done that in my life but my mother would probably register to post about my toddlerhood and call me a liar. :wink:

45

Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?

Not exactly embarrassed–I just don’t like subjecting people to it, since there’s really nothing they can do. With the exception of my boyfriend. I’ll cry in front of him, but I still feel bad about it because it makes him so upset.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain?

Probably not since I was a little kid. I guess sometimes a couple tears come to my eyes, but I’m usually just focusing on cursing a red streak if it’s that bad.

When is the last time you cried, period?

Last night. For various reasons it was looking like my life had gone completely in the shitter, and I was too tired to think straight about fixing it all.

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain?

No less than I would a woman. If that’s not that bad an injury I’ll be annoyed at anybody for crying, regardless of their sex.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way?

Well, I’m not going to give in to a tantrum, if that’s what you mean. I would try to comfort the kid and get them to calm down.

Do you feel sad when other people cry?

It depends upon why they’re crying and who they are. People who’re crying to get their way or just to be drama queens just make me annoyed. But even if it’s truly out of sadness or frustration, with anybody except my boyfriend or my parents I’m most likely to feel uncomfortable on top of any sadness. I don’t really know how to deal with it or what people want from me in that situation.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?

No, and I think it’s a disgusting and manipulative thing to do. However, I cry when I’m really angry or frustrated. I guess sometimes it looks like I’m doing it to get my way, but that’s honestly not the case at all. In fact, it generally restricts my ability to do the one thing I really want to do in those situations–express myself clearly. No luck in controlling it, though.

46

Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
Not embarrassed, per say, but it does make me feel a little bit uncomfortable.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? **
Two summers ago, when I had my wisdom teeth out. That’s the last time I can remember anyway. I almost cried a few months ago when someone hit me in the head with a bottle but I managed to tough it out.

When is the last time you cried, period?
Gosh, I can’t quite even remember! Probably sometime in January.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? **
Wouldn’t think nay differently. It’s completely normal.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way?
I usually just think, “they’ll get over it”.

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? **
Yeah, to a horribly high degree. I cry if I see someone else crying most of the time.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?
No, I don’t think I could make myself cry even if I tried.

47

OK. I’m female, btw - I have a feeling that the gender of the respondent will make a difference to your poll.

**Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
[/QUOTE]

No, not at all.

Umm… a few years ago when I had a major case of gastritis. I felt so rotten I wanted to die.

Few days ago. Mostly due to lack of sleep, exam stress and PMT.

Neither less nor more. It’d make me want to find out what was wrong with him, call a doctor, fix him a nice cup o’ tea, etc.

If they’re crying because they’re sick or tired, then yes. If they’re crying because they want to be a brat, then no.

I feel sympathetic. However if my mum or dad cries, I find that saddening and disturbing, because the only time I’ve seen either one cry was when a family member was sick or had passed away.

I…don’t think so. I only cry if I feel really upset, angry or ill. I can’t just turn on the waterworks willy-nilly. :smiley:

I would cry if I had to take Algebra again, I tell you what. :eek: :frowning:

48

Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
Never done it, but if I did I would be utterly mortified.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain?
Not since I was a toddler. Clenching myy teeth and muttering “Fuck” over and over is more my style.

When is the last time you cried, period? I privately cried tears of rage and frustration during my divorce when I thought I was finally going to get to see my daughter and then my ex-wife decided to take off to Florida with her. That was 3 years ago.

Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? Probably not, but I’ve seen guys suck it up after some pretty horrific injuries. After watching a guy lose several fingers to a chainsaw and not cry, it might be hard not to think less of a guy who’s crying because he hit his thumb with a hammer. Hasn’t come up though.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? Depends on the situation. If it’s just a tantrum, no.

Do you feel sad when other people cry? Depends on who is crying and why. I may feel sad, it may make me feel embarassed for that person, it may make me feel Schadenfreude.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?
No.

49

Yes

About 18 years ago when I was 12

A month ago

It would depend on the pain. If he’d stubbed his toe, yes. If he’d had his arm chopped off, no.

No. However, I suspect that when I have my own kids it might be different story.

Yes, if it’s something I can empathise about.

No.

50

Huh. I’m sure my answers weren’t bold in preview.

51

Are my posts bold to other viewers?**

Test

52

Yes, as well as refreshing and insightful!

53

Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?

Somewhat. Possibly because I’m a very private person in the emotional sense.

When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain?

Two days ago.

**When is the last time you cried, period? **

Two days ago. :stuck_out_tongue:

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? **

Neither.

When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way?

Depends on the kid and the situation. I have good radar for manipulative kid tears. If they’re genuinely upset, sometimes. If it’s a crocodile tears situation, not only no but hell no.

Do you feel sad when other people cry?

It depends on the situation really.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years?

I haven’t cried to get my way since I was approximately 5 years old.

54

** Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?**

Yes.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? :frowning: **

When I was 5 or 6, I really don’t remember. I cried when I got beat up by a few kids at the age of 14 but that was not because of the physical pain.

**When is the last time you cried, period? :frowning: **

When I was 14, I am 19 now.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? :frowning: **

Less, but it really depends on the pain.

**When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? :frowning: **

Sometimes.

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? :frowning: **

Depends what they are crying about.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years? :frowning:

No.

55

Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?

Possibly - would depend on the situation

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? :frowning: **

Probably when in labor with Dweezil, so nearly 11 years ago

**When is the last time you cried, period? :frowning: **
Last December, when my mother was dying.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? :frowning: **
No. If I can cry, he can.

**When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? :frowning: **
Nope. I feel sorry for them if the crying is for physical or emotional injury, but not if it’s the manipulative sort of sobbing.

**Do you feel sad when other people cry? :frowning: **

Depends on why they’re crying. Maybe sad, maybe sympathetic, maybe “whatdoIdonow?” nervous.

Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years? :frowning:
I don’t think so. If I have, I’ve blocked it out :smiley:

56

**Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends? **Yes. So I don’t.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? **Sometime before my 11th birthday. On my 11th birthday I had a really bad accdent involving a rope swing, a 20 foot slide down the bank of a coal mine lake (steep & gravelly), and all the skin on both legs. At the end of the slide, before I could wrap my head around what happened, I saw my cousin sitting on a boulder laughing. He told me right then that I could laugh or cry, but i’d still be fucked up. I laughed, and learned that if you can make yourself laugh at the first sign of pain, it works as well as crying.

When is the last time you cried, period? Every evening this year. Full on bawling.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? **Less. See item #2. Crying for pain suggests mental weakness, the inability to understand the source of discomfort. Crying because of prolonged discomfort is alright by me because I understand mental fatigue can result from “dealing with” pain. Mental fatigu = no more control.

**When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way?**Not if that’s WHY they’re crying. It will cause me to try & figure out why they’re crying, and then maybe to take action to help the kid. But I’d rather a kid learn finesse & planning in order to get what it wants.

Do you feel sad when other people cry? Depends why they’re crying. I’ve seen far too many crocodile tears to be moved simply by the sight of weeping.

**Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years? **No.

57

Woah…thread’s broke.

58

Are you embarrassed to cry in front of your friends?
Sometimes. Especially if I’m crying and I don’t want them to know why.

**When is the last time you cried because of PHYSICAL pain? **
checks livejournal The last day of April, when I hit my head on the ceiling and fell down the basement stairs.

**When is the last time you cried, period? **
Wednesday.

**Would you think less or more of a man who cried because of physical pain? **
Tears are a natural reaction to intense pain. I wouldn’t think less of anyone who cried because they were badly hurt.

**When kids cry does it make you feel sorry for them so you give them their way? **
Only if they’re really, really cute. Usually I just feel guilty.
Do you feel sad when other people cry?

**Have you ever cried in order to get your way within the last 5 years? **
If it works, use it. I used to be tremendously good at this when I was younger. Five seconds, and I was bawling. Now, not so much. It’s hard to get me upset over a lot of things.

59

Oops, missed one.

Do you feel sad when other people cry?
I don’t feel sad so much as I want to cheer them up.

60

Sorry about the triple post. I just thought (after reading this thread and realizing what the question actually meant) I should say that I haven’t actually started crying just to get my way. It’s just that if I am already crying, I don’t take kindly to pity. And people usually react better when I ask them to help rather than STFU.