Very valid point. 
Reminds me of the old - heaven is British police, French food, German cars, and an Italian woman. Hell is British food, French cars, German police… and an Italian woman.
Sounds like most guys I know O_o
My God! It’s as if you know me and have been spying on me! 
Personally, I find that quality takes a guy from “Hmmmmm, that’s nice…” to “rowwwwr You! C’mere!”
I had an almost immediate crush on a guy when I went to the Robot Sumo Challenge in Toronto this year. He built AWESOME robots.
Without the robots, yep, I’d have probably looked at him, as his presented phenotype was just the kind I like, but the addition of demonstrated brains nearly hypnotized me. Went from abstract aesthetic appreciation to “I’d like some of that! Wonder if he’d like a groupie…oh yeah, my husband …”.
Spit. Nasssssty conscience. Bothers us, it does.
I’m not alone! Yay!
Speaking of, it would be nice to hear what women have to think of this thread
Trust me, you are not at all alone. It’s one thing to appreciate a guy purely from an aesthetic viewpoint, but I personally am wired in such a way that I’m not going to have any urge to touch him whatsoever unless I feel like there’s some kind of deeper connection. And for that, a brain is definitely required on both sides. I’ve never been one for mindless flings, but a large part of that is because I’m not attracted to mindless guys, and it’s hard to have a mindless fling with a guy who has a mind.
Brains, compassion, empathy, sense of humor are absolute requirements. Pluses: musical talent, backrub abilities, cooking skills. Oh, and he must bathe regularly. (Don’t ask.)
Almost everything else is either optional or impossible to define; just lump it under “chemistry” if you want. But I do find that there is a certain ineffable geekiness among guys I’ve been attracted to. They weren’t all geeks in the usual sense of being into computers and Star Trek; it’s more like a certain level of intellectual curiosity; they have all enjoyed using their brains.
But if you want a woman’s opinion on the guys’ posts: well, you’re amusing, but unfortunately not a representative sample of guydom.
Science-geek guys in glasses make me weak in the knees, I love them so!
I’m with Apos. I want all of that and more. Of course being a good cook (or any other practical skill, actually, I wouldn’t mind a lady who’s a great mechanic/handywoman, I can cook for myself wll-enough) is a plus, some degree of sophistication and conversational ability is a necessity, and I wouldn’t kick a woman out of bed for being good in bed.
I think what you may be trying to challange is the idea that that’s all we want or need a woman to be.
Myself, I also want a psychologist on the couch, a movie critic in the theatre, a mother in the nursery (eventually), a adventure heroine on the road, a comparitive theologian in the church, and an expert in whatever profession she’s in. Oh, and scientifically literate enough that her eyes don’t glaze over when I talk about MY day at work. But that’s just me. Your central three are a good start, at best.
You’ll find them inside the heated outhouse where you left them!
I want a lady in the kitchen, a chef in the bedroom, and a whore in the living room.
OK, that speaks volumes.
After 25 years of searching, I have an answer.
My penis is really some weird growth, and I’m really an underdeveloped woman.
Maybe my brain missed out on a Y chromosome or something…
I want a man who doesn’t label in the bedroom, a man who doesn’t label in the kitchen and a man who doesn’t label in the living room.
I really do find two of the labels elusive. If by “lady,” you mean someone who is quiet and demur, that makes me shudder. If you mean that she is kind, engaging and trustworthy, I can understand that. If a woman has to go without cursing to be considered a lady or if she has to defer to the male at all times, I think that’s a lousy deal.
The other label that is a puzzle is whore. Is that the word commonly used to describe women who are passionate in their love-making and who take pleasure in pleasing their partners? If it is, that’s a shame.
As for the quality of intelligence, I suspect that many intelligent women are clever enough to dazzle you into thinking that they are beautiful.
Back to my original list. The thing that is a real turn-on for me in a mate is happiness. If the man I’m with is happy or excited about something and laughs a lot, I like that.
Hourglass figure? Bah. Like having sex with a broomstick. Give me a woman with some meat on her bones any day of the week.
As far as intelligence goes … there was this one female classmate of mine in grad school who was an astrophysics major. She didn’t have much in the looks department, but she had a brain to die for. She works for JPL on the Cassini space probe project these days. Every time I think back on that time when I heard her lecturing to a bunch of freshmen about the Herzprung-Russel diagram, I kick myself for not having gone after her. I could’ve been married and divorced to her by now. sigh
Hmm… do I have…?
Intelligence? Check
Independence? Check
Comapassion? Check
Geeky? Check
Outdoorsy? Check
Spiritual? Check
Kinky? Check. Playful? Check. Adventurous? Check
Let’s get married.
I prefer a man who likes me for my personality, but wants to rip my clothes off as well. 
Of course not. The ideal woman would be a deaf-mute nymphomania millionaire drug connection. And she should also be a midget with a flat-topped skull, so you can rest your beer on her head while . . . well, you get the idea.
I think the hourglass figure rather requires a fair amount of “meat” on the bones. I guess, to use an example commensurate with the level of discussion my OP has generated, think of “tits and ass”, or maybe “baby got back, and she’s a brick house.”
Carry on.
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So, um, how YOU doin’?
Old joke (dating from the '60s or earlier, I think – at any rate, definitely pre-feminism):
Bob: “You know, I wanted to find a wife who would be a lady in the living room, an economist in the kitchen, and a witch in the bedroom.”
Tom: “Did you find her?”
Bob: “Sort of. My wife is a witch in the living room, a lady in the kitchen, and an economist in the bedroom.”
Rawr! People like you keep my hopes up.
Nothing like “Hi honey, how was work?” while ripping clothes off.
Witch, OK, I’m pagan, that’s cool. Economist sounds sexy as hell. Dunno about lady in the kitchen, but 2/3 ain’t bad!