A chef in the kitchen, a lady in the living room, and a whore in bed:
Is this still the general consensus among hetero men (or others of similar inclination) of the ideal woman?
Well, I’d rather have a whore in the kitchen, living room, and bedroom, but that could just be me.
Seriously, do you honestly expect a real debate out of this?
I’d prefer a proletariat intelligent (as in singular of intelligentsia) all around. Except for maybe the bedroom.
Nah, second thought, intelligence is sexy.
True dat. Especially if that intelligence is accompanied by, shall we say, a healthy curiosity.
Yes.
I remember reading this line someplace…can’t remember where. Anyway, I tossed it out at a party where the discussion moved to gender politics. The stickiest part of the debate: Is this what men really want? For all the lip-service paid to equality of the sexes, are we still conditioned, perhaps even hardwired, to desire this out of our female companions? If we are deconditioned, or conditioned to look for the “modern woman”, does this create inner tension with the innate desire for the mother/whore?
Many men said this was absurd. More than a few of us (male and female) suspected they were lying.
I would have to say: a wit in the living room, and adventurer outdoors, a hard ass in the board room, a chef in the kitchen, and a slut in the bedroom. Who wants a whore who isn’t into sex and just wants to get paid?
I dunno…wouldn’t the house be really crowded?
Think of it as a compromise alternative to polygamy.
I wouldn’t mind having (or being) a slut in the bedroom and a chef in the kitchen… The living room though? Hm… Let’s say therapist. Or snuggle bunny. Or both.
Where are my loose shoes?
Kitchen: Stay the hell out of the kitchen, I do the cooking around here.
Living room: Be yourself.
Bed: Be yourself.
Glad to clear that up.
I suppose you will be first in line to see The Stepford Wives, then?
OK, let’s see. Perfect woman.
Intelligent. Compassionate. Geeky. Outdoorsy. Spiritual. Kinky/playful/adventurous.
In that order.
Sorry, Binary Drone reminded me of one:
Intelligent. Independent. Compassionate. Geeky. Outdoorsy. Spiritual. Kinky/playful/adventurous.
In THAT order.
Okay…I don’t get this statement. Intelligence is attractive, but I have never. once. found it sexy. It doesn’t make me want to have sex. Voices, asses, glances, whispers, and an occasional swagger? Those usually make me want to have sex. But not intelligence. Maybe it’s me…I dunno.
That is apropos. What’s the point of satire if there’s nothing to satirize?
I’m with you. I don’t want a moron for a lifelong companion, but for pure sexual response, pretty face and hourglass figure trumps brains any day of the week. There’s a feeling one has stumbled on something almost miraculous when you can somehow combine first-rate looks with first-rate brains, but it’s the body that gets us aroused, more often then not.
It’s true. Women report that they can have more orgasms sequentially if their partner is physically attractive. Men report a more rapid achievment of orgasm if their partner is physically attractive. I.Q. appears to be irrelevant at the basic level.
Hm. Maybe it is just me, but a smart person is one of the biggest turnons. Someone who shows that their mind is sharp and they are a freethinker scores more points than a looker on my chart.
Plus, there is that whole geek chic look. Long dark skirt for the ladies, casual button shirt, glasses…
Maybe I have some genetic bit that looks for “intelligence”… I dunno.
And by “intelligence,” I don’t mean “agrees with me”… I’d almost rather date someone who I could debate with (and we all know the best sex is angry or makeup sex).
Pardon me for pointing this out, but wouldn’t ANY ideal mate be someone who is the best at everything? i.e., great in bed, great with cooking, great manners when needed, always fun to be with, etc.? Isn’t this what all women would want in a man as their ideal too?
I mean, when was the last time you heard anyone, man or woman, advertising “a prude in bed, lousy cook, terrible job, bad attitude, real couch potato” etc.?
For women, the ideal mate is:
a masseur in the bathroom,
a gay guy in the living room,
an exterminator in the attic,
and a roughneck in the bedroom.
So there!