I’ve recommended meetup.com to lots of people. I belong to a volunteer group, a group that likes playing cards, a group that gets together to shoot pool, etc. Whatever your interest—wherever you are. Punch in a zipcode and see what comes up.
I say keep rolling with it. If you enjoy his company and he enjoys yours, does the rest really matter?
It sounfs to me like the guy described in the OP maybe isn’t a long-term connection. Class issues, like religious and intercultural issues, can be worked around if the will is there. But if he didn’t even bother to read the OP’s profile—!
I think tdn speaks words of wisdom: “meet as many as you can”.
I’ve been pretty reclusive the past few months, partly because of certain planned things that proved to be undoable (or at least extremely premature) for me, and I was picking up the pieces, so I kind of set myself aside, but… in July I’m taking a holiday in Montreal and meeting people from all over the place! That’ll jump me out of my rut…
Date him. See what happens.
I think the best pairings come out of a combination of “things we have in common” and “ways we are different.” Your comments about his lack of ambition were a little ambiguous: you say it’s not what YOU would want, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is do ascribe a value judgement on people who don’t have the same ambition as you? The flip side to the way you are viewing him is the notion that happiness is a level of content with what one has, rather than what one wants. I’m not saying one is better than the other, just different.
Listen. you’re young (despite what gremlins in the back of your head might be telling you) and no relationship ever worked when someone cuts it off before it’s had it’s chance. Rather than putting the kibosh on something because you have preconceptions on why it might not work out, try it on for size and see if those turn out to be issues or not.
My earlier preconception of who I “thought” I wanted to date has changed by virtue of meeting different types of people and discovering new traits I never would have thought mattered and finding that some stuff I thought was “so important” really didn’t matter.
What do you have to lose by trying him on for size?
Unless he was joking, that’s sort of a red flag right there (for me, at least).
But 30’s the 20 so there may be hope for him, and as others have pointed out, What do you have to lose? If he’s picking eHarmony dates based on pics only, he may not be looking for anything long-term himself.
You know what? I do! But I was a dumbass and wasted it.
I had signed up for a singles event tonight. I was supposed to meet about a dozen attracive younger women. But I’d forgotten about it until late in the day, and I couldn’t make it. I’m missing it right now, and that’s screwing things up for the women. And I can’t get a refund. I should have offered you my spot.
I’m scheduled for one next week, and I can’t make that one either. Do you want to go in my place? It’s already paid for, so all you have to do is show up.
Make that exactly one week 
As for the OP, put me in the ‘date him, go slow, and trust your feelings’ camp.
“Gamble everything for love, if you’re a true human being /
if not, leave this gathering
Half-heartedness doesn’t reach into majesty” - Rumi.
My mind is so boggled at the “he didn’t read my profile” part I can hardly speak or think. To avoid reading to that extent…a few short paragraphs to learn more about someone you are spending money to meet…does not bode well for a future. Get over the car, and move on to someone else. Reading is fundamental, after all.
If the car is a biggie, you could contact a list broker and get the names of all the single males between age X and Y who’ve purchased red Mustangs, and contact them. For an extra fee, the broker will massage the list to put in in mailman walk sequence, too!
Where are you again? 
Be in Boston in 6 days, or you lose your spot. Robot Arm gets first dibs.
Bother. Just a little too far, a little too soon. Oh well. Thanks for the offer.
(Says the guy who at one time was seriously contemplating the possibility of a long-distance relationship with someone in Vladivostok…)
It may not be wisdom for Sattua, but it was a damned good idea for me. I went in not with the hope of meeting the love of my life, but of just getting out and getting used to the idea of dating inappropriate and/or ugly chicks. I had no idea that I’d fall so madly in love with such an amazing and beautiful woman. Oops!
Had I screened her out for being such a suburban soccer mom (a deal-breaker right there), I never would have met her.
One thing I’ve learned is that I’m attracted to the unlikelist people, so I tried to keep my preferences as open as possible on eHarmony. Unfortunately, it’s starting to look like I left them a little too open. I massaged 'em this morning. It looks like the next two I get to the coffee stage with are both college professors, and both with the same first name. One looks perverse, one seems to want a second mother. Fun.
I don’t like how the “education” criterion doesn’t quite capture what one is after when one uses it. For example, the queer dear has three years of college under his belt but never graduated, so technically, he’s only got a high school degree. He can also mop the floor with me when we play word games, and has a much better brain for math and physics (and those three years of college were in a major that I wouldn’t have stuck out for even a single semester). Of course, both his parents are well educated–so he was brought up to think. See? A dating website isn’t going to capture that distinction. And I feel weird about excluding people based on actual degrees earned.
I have come to the conclusion that people usually fall into one of two groups. Neither of these groups are necessarily bad or wrong, there is just a differance in their outlooks on life. I wish I could have come up with better names/descriptions for these though.
Group one: People who acheive some level of employment and/or comfort in their lives and are perfectly happy to remain at that level indefinetly unless forced to change. I’m not saying that this is bad in anyway, but this sounds like your eHarmony guy.
Group two: People who are always looking to improve themselves and/or their lives, even if they are perfectly happy where they are now, they always need to be working towards something. This sounds more like you. (ISTM that more Dopers also fall into this category.)
In your situation, it sounds like you are in group two, he is in group one. I think that it is possible to change from one group to another depending on the circumstances in your life. For example I think part of retiring happily is being able to transition from a group two mentality to a group one mentality, I also think that there a number of ways to motivate a person to go from a group one mentality to a group two mentality. Not everyone can or wants to change their outlook on life to that degree though.
If you are willing to give him a chance, a long term relationship may be what it takes to get him motivated and into more of a group two mind-set. I was kinda stuck in a group one frame of mind until I met my wife. Now we are both group two type people.
There’s just something fundamentally wrong with the world when a 27-year-old bellydancing doctor with a six-figure income can’t find a guy.
It depends on the event. If it’s guest conducting for the Pops, I’d probably give it a miss. Apart from that, I think I’m up for it.
Check your PM – I’ll tell you all about it.
One would think, wouldn’t one. Don’t forget the samurai sword thing either. Actually, maybe that’s what scares them off.
You collect samurai swords? That’s wicked cool! I bought my first one a month or so ago. Wait, is this a joke? If it is, then poo on me because I’m serious 
I don’t collect them. I use them.