A dating reality check, please

I actually tried this once (journalist). It was just…terrible. I have a hard time being attracted to these types of guys. They tend to be whiny, passive and generally have a chip on their shoulder about the underpaid nature of their industry. Of course, when I suggested he go to law school if he wanted more money, he just threw the biggest hissy fit.

On the other hand, a lot of the agressobeasty ibankers I date tend to be irritating and awful in their own way, but at least I don’t refer to them as “whiny little bitch” in my head.

I think if you are an agressobeasty financially successful woman yourself, the reality is that you have to let go of the dream of being married because there aren’t a whole lot of guys out there available. The majority of men who make more money than you want a more “supportive”/oh-my-god-I’m-a-doctor’s-wife type woman whose world revolves around the guy. The ones who don’t are kind of rare, but their testosterone-saturation spills over into the relationship. While they make enough money not to have their egos damaged, they lack the small level of emotional vulnerability and sensitivity necessary and tend to be super-callow.

Sometimes you can find a gem amongst the IT guys but they tend to get snapped up by doctor-chicks pretty fast, so hurry. By your late 20s you’re just about looking at dickweed doctors, lawyers and finance guys and they’re the WORST (though with the latter two, very sexy).

I think the happiest moment in my life was when I let go of the thought of being married and substituted it with the decision to make fucktons of money.

I am super-callow.

The elephant-in-the-room issue has largely evaporated, now that we know each other a little better. This thread is soooooooo last week…

Actually, the OP here is making my skin crawl, now. I wouldn’t mind if the mods closed this thread… I wouldn’t mind if they nuked it from orbit.

He’s smart, sweet, friendly, kind, and one of the few people I’ve ever met who I could talk to for so many hours in a row. I like him. I like him a lot.

I’m glad you went to meet him.

Maybe the mods will close this down, but before they do, I want to share something.

Years ago, some people (no cite) conducted a survey among attendees at a singles event. It was a questionaire about what the attendees were looking for a mate. It was conducted just before the event, just after, and several weeks after. The results from just before and weeks after were very similar, with people often having lofty ideals about what they wanted as far as looks, income level, height, weight, etc. But the results from just after the event were far different. They much more closely resembled the people that they had just met. I guess that goes to show you that what people want and what they think they want are often very different.

I feel for you, man.

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