A different thought about love...sorry

Well, I didn’t want to spoil the nice thread over there, so I brought this to a new one.

Except for the object of your affection. Like when she suddenly stops calling, stops wanting to see you, stops wanting to talk to you. And, much later, after spending anguished hours trying to find out what you did wrong, you figure out that she was just using you to get revenge on someone for a previous bad relationship. Of course, you were left to come to this conclusion on your own, cause she sure didn’t tell you (honesty, apparently, being above her). You just put things together from what mutual friends said after the fact.

She just went along with everything you said and did (including spending every waking moment with you, holding hands, and telling you she loved you, yadda yadda yadda) to be a spiteful, hateful person.

This can change one’s outlook on life.

But she was good at it. I honestly thought we had something. What a fool I was.

Yes, I’m bitter. The concept of “love” is equivalent to the concept of “bear trap” – something to stay out of, lest it cause you more pain than it’s worth.

Hon, I have BEEN there myself. More than once. Hell, I fell hook, line and sinker for a man that married another woman while we were dating. And I stayed with him for 5 years AFTER he did this. Because I thought I was in love with him. He had me fooled and good. But I’ve also come to the conclusion (because I’m in stage on of the post I made) that you’ve GOT to take a chance, and not let bitterness take over your life. Because if you’re bitter, or you doubt it can happen, then you’ll miss the golden opportunity of forever happiness.

I’m not saying that you’ll be able to turn around and be able to look for love today, or that you don’t have a reason to be bitter. All I’m saying is to not closer your eyes to the possibility. You never know when Cupid might nock his bow in your direction.

big Valentine’s Day hug from a friend

Well, we’ll see about that.

But thanks for the hug, regardless :slight_smile:

By all means, be bitter, wallow in it, throw pity parties, be self-indulgent, then shake it off and get back in the game someday. Don’t let one REALLY bad apple spoil the barrel for you; if you let that happen, then she wins, and that just isn’t right.