Ok, so, let’s say, hypothetically, there’s this girl. And let’s say she goes on a hypothetical holiday. To Sydney, hypothetically speaking, to stay with her hypothetical cousin (d’you get the whole hypothetical message, already?) One night while she’s there, she goes out to a bar with her cousin and his friends, and has a bit too much to drink. She meets a guy, whose name is (hypothetically) Jim. He’s really nice, and really good looking, and they chat for a while, and he buys her a couple of drinks. When the girl’s cousin leaves to go to a nightclub, she stays at the bar with Jim. Eventually, she goes home with him, and they sleep together. They both know she’ll be going back to the other side of the country in a few days, so there’s no possible future in this. When she leaves next morning, she leaves her phone number on a bit of paper in his shoe (hey, it seemed like a logical place to put it at the time), but he never calls.
The girl is a bit freaked out by this whole incident. She’s not exactly inexperienced sexually, but she’s never slept with a virtual stranger before, and she didn’t think she was the kind of girl to do that type of thing. She broke all her own safety rules about not going home with someone she didn’t know. She was pretty drunk at the time, but not so drunk that she didn’t know exactly what she was doing.
So, what I want to know is this: what do you think of this girl? Was the way she acted right/wrong/indifferent? How would you feel if your best friend/little sister/daughter/ex-girlfriend acted like this? Guys, if you were Jim, what would you think of the girl? One-night stands happen all the time in books and movies, and we don’t blink, but how do people feel about them in real life?
Please spare me the safe-sex message - I teach sex-ed to high school kids, and I know how important it is. For the record, the girl didn’t use a condom, and is kicking herself. She’s going to get a thorough checkup when she goes to the doctor next week.