Okay, let’s suppose, hypothetically of course, that I wanted to lose my virginity. I’m not a minor, I’m female. What would the best tactic be? I mean, if I just wanted to have mindless sex with no emotional attachments? Walk into an area frequented by males and say, “Who wants to help me lose my virginity?” (Really, comic mayhem could ensue.)
It should be noted that I have no intention of actually giving away my virginity to the highest bidder, so to speak. That’s going to come after a firm relationship is found.
Exactly what you said should work. Maybe try a little tact. Get to know them first. But otherwise, yeah. You said you were a chick, right? Then there shouldn’t be a problem.
accept into your loins an experienced man of the world, fifteen years your senior, like ME
sell your virginity on Ebay (but you’ve already discounted the highest bidder… and that was tried already, anybody got a link handy?)
Just kidding! Seriously…
What are you looking to gain from the experience? Just that? An orgasm? Social acceptance? Rebellion?
IMHO Your best bet is a person of (relatively) your own age, perhaps also a virgin. So you can experiment together.
It won’t be perfect the first time. period. It will likely be not even enjoyable, and it may hurt, so choose wisely. You will remember this for the rest of your life.
I will say emphatically, DON’T OPEN YOURSELF UP TO THE FIRST “COOL GUY” WHO ASKS FOR THE PRIVILEDGE. He’ll likely consider you a conquest and treat you like shit afterwards.
Hypothetically of course, how old are you? You shouldn’t lose it just for the sake of losing it.
It was more just a hypothetical question, inspired by a conversation I had with a friend over whether or not sex leads to dancing, i.e. does sex have emotional and social connections remaining after the act.
Oh, and to find out if there really are people who will just up and have sex with the first person who offers it. I knew there were, but I didn’t want to believe it. The people I hang out with are the kind of people who adults use as examples of “nice, young folks.” (I’m 18, by the way.)
As for hurting, I am hymen-less, thanks to several falls out of trees and tampons.
I agree with Eleusis . Firstly to yourself what gratifies you more? the orgasm or the actual togetherness in the concept of love? my first, second, third time sucked ass! but then i met the right man who I really had feelings for deeper than sex. My exhusbnad…lol. Yeah we may not be together anymore but now i know that theres a quality both physical and mental that made sex “good” instead of the thought of my first few yawn boring times…
Sex doesn’t necessarily have to have ongoing emotional connections. I don’t personally place that much importance on the act itself, the relationship is more important. To clarify, sex is just an act, and two adults can have sex without an emotional bond. It’s not really the SAME as sex with someone you love, but that doesn’t make it completely worthless.
I’ve never really done the prototypical one night stand, not my style, though I have had sex on the first date. I worry more about whether or not I want to “date” someone than whether or not I’ll have sex with her. I figure, if I’m dating someone (as an ongoing thing) that implies a certain level of commitment. Since I don’t like to lie to people, I only date one girl at a time, and don’t play around. I can have casual sex with a woman, and as long as she agrees there is no commitment, we are both free to do what we please afterward.
Having sex with someone you don’t really know is a touchier subject. The casual sex I described above I would only really do with women I already know. Going from first contact to bangy-bangy in a few hours is a little much. There are, without question, guys who would take you up on your one night stand offer, I doubt you would want to be with them, who knows where that thing’s been? eww
On the original hypothetical question, I don’t think you’d have too much trouble accomplishing it. Just go into a bar (that allows 18 and up), start flirting, let one of the interested guys chat you up for a while, and when he asks if you want to go somewhere else, agree. (Or if he doesn’t ask, then you could ask, “hey, you want to go somewhere else?”) Of course, in this context, “somewhere else” would probably mean somewhere private, like his place.
You shouldn’t have too much trouble finding a willing accomplice. Hypothetically, of course. (But somebody you just met? Cheesesteak’s right, you don’t know where it’s been).
The aftermath would depend on the emotional maturity of those involved. Yes, a woman could walk into a place Chock Full O’ Men and walk out to have sex in 30 minutes or less, without asking for it directly. Whether or not he calls you the next day, or walks up to you to ask you to dance the next weekend WITHOUT the expectation of more sex would depend on what happened in the time you were together, and if you or he thought, “Hey, I really LIKED that person!” Personally, I think that non-sexual emotional connection would be rare. Sex would lead to dancing if dancing led to more sex.
Oh, don’t think that while you’re hymen less it won’t be painful. I can’t speak from personal experience, but one of my partners was a hymenless virgin and according to her, it took some time before she was comfortable enough before she was able to enjoy things.
