A messageboard romance - true love via the Net

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Firstly, congratulations on you’re 500th post. You must have wasted countless hours sitting at your computer posting feeble comments like your previous one.

“You are not only messing with the wrong members…”
I am messing with the WRONG members? Sorry I was supposed to mess with the RIGHT members. I suppose I should get scared now? Scared of all the evil things these “members” will do to me for messing with them?

“posting tedious riddles”
Am I? Shit, I’m certainly getting a lot of responses to my ‘tedious’ riddles.

“you also seem to be criminalizing and demeaning love”
HAHAHA! He was with her for TEN DAYS! You understand? 10 DAYS. I’m sure he’s in love after having actually been her presence for less then a fortnight. But hey? If he wants to give up his education, job and life as he knew it to see if this woman is the one then hey!! You tell him to go for it! And if it doesn’t work out? Then what? Will you be there to pay his bills, get his feet back on the ground yadda yadda… no!! You won’t be!!

“I correctly guess that you not only got your pasty white, hairy ass dumped by a woman but she also told you the truth about your pencil dick.”
Oh that is VERY mature of you Sue, BRAVO.

“…tells me that your spelling and grammar SUCKS (with a capital S) and confirms that the FBI profiling of serial killers really works.”
Hmmm… I was only state spelling bee champion 3 years running, but I guess because I made a few typos, I have poor grammar skills! FBI profiling of serial killers works does it? I think you need a CAT scan ASAP. HOW you drew that conclusion is beyond me.
“My suggestion is that you get off the computer and crawl back into your basement bedroom”
Although you spend your pathetic feeble life trapped indoors, bolting at the first sign of sunlight, I actually ENJOY the outdoors. I enjoy doing physical exercise, I ENJOY having a life.

So, in conclusion, next time you decide that you are a love expert and begin advising people to throw away everything they have worked for in a slim chance of romantic happiness, don’t. Also, stop living your life through a computer. There are OTHER things to do in the world then stare at computer screens. I KNOW this may come as a shock to you but you CAN ACTUALLY HAVE A LIFE. What you need to do is blow the extremely thick pile of dust that has engulfed the “off” switch on your computer and give it a press (if it still works).

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Best of luck to you! I have a friend I met on another message board who met a girl through same message board. They are now trying to see if this will “work out” for them. He is in NY and she is in PA, so not too far apart…I sure hope it does. They are both nice people.

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I actually find it humorous that I spent my 500th post in my first flame. Yes, bravo to me!

Oh yes, you should be scared, very scared. I am but a pissant in the world of troll-busting. Be wary.

You have GOT to be kidding me. I’m assuming your next riddle will have three words that end with ‘gry’ in it.

You poor baby, you DID get screwed (with a capital S) over. Did she hurt you bad? Did you cry? I’m sure it was awful, we feel your pain. Wanna hug?

It’s sad that your glory days were in elementary school. I suppose you’re one of those people who thinks that memorizing PI to the 1000th decimal make you a math whiz too.

RE: FBI profiling. It certainly seems to be true. Compulsive masturbation, poor body image, chronic lying, sleep problems…they’re all good signs. Tell us, do you wet your bed?

Well, since you obviously don’t know how to use a spell check or the quote function, I’m assuming that you also can’t work the search engine. If you did, you would see that I usually post well after most people have gone to bed, including my loved ones. It also took me almost a year to get those 500 posts. I happen to be a night owl, so crucify me. :rolleyes:

I know who you are and you’re pathetic. You are the person who’s breath smells of death because you have to piss on anything that brings joy to people.

You’re the succubus of the modern world, you feed on sucking the hope, the fun out of life. You think of yourself as the voice of reason but no one can stand you because all you are is a misogynist killjoy.

I pity you.

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does sound borderline insane…
…then again, doing some borderline insane things isn’t that uncommon when you’re 20 or thereabouts, as Lotus sounds to be. Dropouts have also been known to return to school later. Good luck.

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"quote:

Originally posted by Manta
Firstly, congratulations on you’re 500th post.

I actually find it humorous that I spent my 500th post in my first flame. Yes, bravo to me!
quote:

I am messing with the WRONG members? I suppose I should get scared now?

Oh yes, you should be scared, very scared. I am but a pissant in the world of troll-busting. Be wary.
quote:

I’m certainly getting a lot of responses to my ‘tedious’ riddles.

You have GOT to be kidding me. I’m assuming your next riddle will have three words that end with ‘gry’ in it.
quote:

HAHAHA! He was with her for TEN DAYS! You understand? 10 DAYS. I’m sure he’s in love after having actually been her presence for less then a fortnight. But hey? If he wants to give up his education, job and life as he knew it to see if this woman is the one then hey!! You tell him to go for it! And if it doesn’t work out? Then what? Will you be there to pay his bills, get his feet back on the ground yadda yadda… no!! You won’t be!!

You poor baby, you DID get screwed (with a capital S) over. Did she hurt you bad? Did you cry? I’m sure it was awful, we feel your pain. Wanna hug?
quote:

Hmmm… I was only state spelling bee champion 3 years running, but I guess because I made a few typos, I have poor grammar skills! FBI profiling of serial killers works does it?

It’s sad that your glory days were in elementary school. I suppose you’re one of those people who thinks that memorizing PI to the 1000th decimal make you a math whiz too.

RE: FBI profiling. It certainly seems to be true. Compulsive masturbation, poor body image, chronic lying, sleep problems…they’re all good signs. Tell us, do you wet your bed?
quote:

Although you spend your pathetic feeble life trapped indoors…

Well, since you obviously don’t know how to use a spell check or the quote function, I’m assuming that you also can’t work the search engine. If you did, you would see that I usually post well after most people have gone to bed, including my loved ones. It also took me almost a year to get those 500 posts. I happen to be a night owl, so crucify me.

I know who you are and you’re pathetic. You are the person who’s breath smells of death because you have to piss on anything that brings joy to people.

You’re the succubus of the modern world, you feed on sucking the hope, the fun out of life. You think of yourself as the voice of reason but no one can stand you because all you are is a misogynist killjoy.

I pity you. "
That’s probably the weakest response I have ever read in an arguement, so I will not even bother… errr… how does it go?

“DNFTT”

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Anything even remotely negative I have to say is probably tainted by the fact that I don’t currently have anyone I would drop everything for. But I once did feel this way about someone, and it was the greatest feeling in the world. I envy that you can leave your life to pursue this. I wish you luck, and hope you find what you are looking for.

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Give up Sue. If Manta really is a troll, then all you are doing is lowering yourself to his level.

However, if he as honest as he says he is, then from where I stand, you are grossly overreacting to some rather fanciful perceptions. At least, that is how your posts are being perceived.

Remember, he has a right to an opinion as well. And the right to express it. If you don’t like it, that’s just too bad. Isn’t the right to free speech enshrined in law in your part of the world?

Either way, you can’t win. So take a deep breath and chill out.

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Manta:

Please send me your address. I’ll mail you a quarter so that you can call me. That way, when I tell you to go fuck yourself, you’ll be sure to understand.

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…but Manta has a point.

You can’t throw away who you are, or what you truly need, for a romance, even for the romance of a lifetime.

I periodically see people throw away their plans to have a life, a viable career, etc. of their own, for a romance. That’s always bad, IMO.

To alter said plans drastically - to resume one’s studies or one’s career in another city, to use the beginning of a new romance as part of the dynamic of choosing a new career direction - these are all fine and dandy.

But to throw away what you’re doing to be with the one you’ve fallen in love with, and to have no idea what, if anything, you’re going to do to make a living now - to me, that’s like forgetting to leave a trail of bread crumbs behind you.

Usually, it’s the woman who does this, then when the guy ditches her a year or two later (or she has to leave with the clothes on her back because he’s turned out to be an abusive jerk), she’s got no money of her own, no recent job history worth anything, her skills are rusty and out of date, and life sucks. If she’s lucky, she doesn’t have kids.

While the risks aren’t as great for a guy, I still think it’s a bad idea. We all need to retain the ability to be self-sufficient, or (in the case of someone who hasn’t completed his/her education) need to proceed expeditiously to that level. Getting off that track is a bad idea, unless you have a clear idea of when and how you’re going to get back on.

Lotus, I’ve put this in general terms because you may have thought this through further than your posts so far indicate; if you do have a pretty good idea of what you’re going to do, school- or career-wise, once you and your lady get back to Toronto, then more power to you. In any case, best of luck.

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I think there have been some misunderstandings. I have had misgivings about University since November - in fact, I allowed my mother to browbeat me into going. I am not, I repeat,not ditching University because of or for Celeste. I just mentioned it because I was trying to show that my life is currently a blank slate, with only the love that Cel and I share written upon it, which frankly, excites me.

I’m a woman.

I am going to college to become a legal assitant and writing freelance.

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Thank you to everyone who sent their good wishes. :smiley:

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I see you still haven’t learned to use the quote function. Nice try though.

Hey sockpuppet, it’s Mundane Pointless Stuff I Must Share. Obviously, you’re missing the pointlessness of my posts.

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How could a thread about love create so much strife? :frowning:

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Look who got banned. :smiley:
Best of luck Sweet_Lotus!

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DVous Means,

You are correct in that Manta has his right to an opinion, but I also have mine.

That said:

Off the top of my head I can think of two examples on this very board of people who have successfully met their SOs online. I’m sure if I go look up a ‘How did you meet your SO?’ thread I could find even more positive examples, I’m just too lazy.

I, myself, met my first serious boyfriend when he was visiting his father in MI during the summer. He lived in CA. After ten days, he left and we corresponded for 6 months (by snail-mail no less, this was 1988) before he packed up and moved to MI to be with me.

I eventually moved back to CA with him and it led to a four year relationship. After 12 years, I still count him as one of my closest friends.

Also, I met my closest girlfriend in a message board. We met through ParentsPlace, at a message board for expecting mothers. Our children were born w/i three weeks of each other and I love her like a sister.

Love requires risk even if you aren’t moving to another country for it. You risk yourself by loving and trusting another person unconditionally. If you don’t take the risk, you don’t reap the reward.

Same with becoming a parent. Oh, it makes me cry just thinking about all the risks my little girl will face in her lifetime, but all I can do is try to minimize her risk. Just having her was a financial risk, an emotional risk, and a medical risk. Would I trade her for a risk free life? No f-ing way!

My point is that Sweet_Lotus and Celeste can make it work and people shouldn’t shit on their love because it involves risk. Risk is a part of life.

I applaud them for taking a chance on love. I hope they make it.

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I love you Sue. Marry me. We’ll run away together to Saskatchewan, and live in a bung-studded pinealow, complete with a little guy who lives in a clock tower to tell us when the geese are flying overhead. That way, we’ll know when to shoot off the bottle rockets to provide us with dinner.

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OOps, sorry to assume you were a man Lotus. Have fun, and again best wishes.

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I have to say I sorta agree with manta on this one.

I have a friend who did this exact same thing. In three months he was on the street, homeless, in a stange city, and had no job, and no money. After 3 days of living on the sidewalk with nothing to eat he was faced with 2 choices-prostitution or call mom. He eventually went with the call mom approach and obtained a bus ticket back to his moms house. We never discussed the prosititution.

michael

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There were no McDonald’s in this town, I assume. I think anyone who agrees with manta is missing the point. The point is that there is going to be a certain amount of risk involved whenever you take that plunge towards love. Whether it’s your heart, your wallet or whatever that is on the line. That doesn’t mean you have to be an idiot. Sorry Labdude, but I think your friend must have had his/her eyes closed the whole time.

For the rest, I defer to:

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My apologies for:

  1. making an assumption with respect to your gender; and

  2. if I drew invalid assumptions from your OP.

That’s why I tried to couch my words in general language - because one of the things I’ve been learning here, over time, is that very often we give our firm conclusions based on the small part of a picture that we can see from a handful of words. I was trying to be diplomatic, but it’s not exactly my strong suit. I’m glad to find that you not only know where you’re going with your love life, but also with the rest of your life. Good luck to you and Celeste!