Over the last several years, I have found that women with their kids (presumably on the prowl, since I hardly ever see wedding rings) seem to graviate towards single guys in malls, movies, busses, etc. Is this a relatively new thing? I remeber when the opposite was true…women seemed to avoid guys without wedding rings, unless thety knew that he was “safe” (gay, impotent or whatever). Has anyone else experienced this?
I sure wish I had experienced this (which is to say no, I have not). Television/movies aside I have never seen nor never known anyone to successfully get hit on while shopping or at the movies, etc.
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Not in Washington DC they don’t.
It’s complete bullshit. If there’s a real spark it can happen anywhere but passively prowling malls. bookstores, parks, churches etc while trying to look like a good idea to the opposite sex is usually (on the whole) a giant waste of time. Bars/nightclubs, the workplace, online dating, and friend/associate mediated hookups are still the mating and dating mainstays.
Where are these malls, bus stops etc. ?
Please provide driving directions.
I would be happy to do some field research on this topic.
Seconded :smack:
Why would women gravitate towards men with wedding rings, though? unless they’re looking for an affair?
So you’re positing that single women gravitate towards single men with the aim of hooking up?
Sociological genius, I say!
Because there are a lot of women out there who are both conventional enough to assume that married men are somehow road-tested for suitability as lover/provider/etc. AND selfish enough not to care if they’re breaking up someone’s home.
Yes. They can PM me. 
I have been flirted with in the Grocery store, however.
The new place seems to be wine tasting bars.
What does a single girl need with a gay or impotent guy?
The best place to meet single men is in bars/clubs, work, church/temple, organized coed social activities (ie your coed pickup kickball league), online or through friends.
Here’s the problem though:
-Bars and clubs tend to expose you to a lot of drunks, wannabe “players” and juvenile man-boys
-Work introduces a whole set of office dating politics
-church/temple, organized coed social activities becomes a closed pool of hookup buddies
-online is…welll…online
-and the single friend is often “crazy single friend who can’t keep a relationship”
The fact of the matter is that you can’t force or trick someone into liking you and you can’t approach it like you are hunting for a job. You just go around meeting people until you find someone that you click with. In my early 20s, my friends and I did a shore house with the intent of partying it up all summer. But as it happened, one girl and guy in the house ended up getting together and ten years later have been married for some time. Two of my staff at work met in what was their first post-college job. They dated and two years later are married.
Apparantly I didn’t make something clear in the OP - the women in questions had THEIR KIDS with them - I feel that the only reason that they do this is to find prospective FATHERS, not necessarily husbands.
Well, any guy a woman with kids marries will be both a husband and father. There’s really no way around that. Some single guys seem to approach dating women with kids with the idea that she can pretend to be single to date him, but raise the kids on the side as some kind of hobby. I don’t see that work out too often in the long run. (Not to be confused with the mom making the sound decision not to introduce boyfriends to her kids until it is serious.)
When my mom got divorced 100 years ago in the '70s, she was looked down at quite a bit. Attitudes toward divorce and single parenthood have changed a lot. Her reasons for leaving my dad were extremely sound, but the idea that she would be well within her rights to seek out a suitable life partner, even though she had a kid, was not mainstream at all. So yeah, in that kind of situation, where a woman with a kid is considered a social pariah, I could see a woman interacting primarily with married men, etc.
If by “on the prowl” you mean things like finding out a guy’s name, where he works, how long he’s lived in the area, I’m not exactly scandalized.
Try to be a single mom (or dad) and have time without the kids. That alone may be why they’re approaching somebody with kids in tow.
I guess I’m wonder what kind of attention they’re giving this guy. Is it just flirty talk, twisting a strand of hair in a finger kind of thing? Is it, “Hey, you’re cute - how 'bout I put the kid down for a nap and you and I get it on?”
Just friendly talk with the kids nearby? No problem. The latter, well - not so much.