No, not generally. I’m rarely comfortable with that level of unguarded intimacy. Not saying that’s a good thing, that’s just the way I am.
I’m with the folks who enjoy eye contact … there are definitely times to squeeze your eyes shut tight, or times when the position makes it unfeasible, but I like to frequently make eye contact. I know they can speak to my own insecurities, but if I feel like she is avoiding eye contact, it makes me wonder (a) if she’s really enjoying it (which is a big thing for me), and (b) what/who she’s thinking about (I believe The Stranger previously mentioned that part). Especially in my current monogamous relationship, I care so much for my gf that I love the connection we make when we lock eyes in the midst of things.
I liked eye-contact with my ex-wife, but nothing more than 10 or 15 seconds. Now that I am “dating” again I find that some women do like eye contact and others do not. I guess that is just the nature of the beast. I do not like eyes locked for the whole time, that just seems like it would be too distracting. I do like looking at my partner’s face while having sex and do not mind if ther is no eye contact or just brief eye locks. I guess whatever makes the other comfortable is what counts.
PS Did you get my last email? How is your little angel doing?
JackaRoe, I sent you off an email and got a returned delivery error message. It couldn’t deliver it. Is your email addy correct?
It appears to be correct. Try jackaroe42@comcast.net
As a slight preamble, I should mention that I’ve never been much of one for casual sex. If I’m going to have sex with someone, it’s going to be a woman who means something to me.
That said, I find eye contact during sex to be hot, Hot, HOT!!! Not the whole time, mind you, for reasons mentioned by previous posters. But to gaze deeply into her eyes and see my desire reflected in them just sizzles!
Now, I’m no Hollywood hunk myself. Just a regular guy. But still, I’ve had a hard time convincing several girlfriends (including my ex-wife) that they were, in fact, extremely attractive to me. So I know the kind of shyness and self-consciousness you’re talking about. Let me throw out a few thoughts on that one:
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[li]Everybody, and I mean everybody, looks goofy during sex. So don’t worry that your expression isn’t fitting for the cover of a magazine.[/li][li]You don’t have to be a professional model to be beautiful in someone else’s eyes.[/li][li]If you are beautiful in someone else’s eyes, your eyes are (IMO) one of the most beautiful things your lover can ever see.[/li][/ul]
I think that if you can overcome your shyness and look into your lover’s eyes, you’ll end up really liking it too. Start small – just steal a peek here and there at first. He knows you’re shy, I’m sure, and so he won’t mind if you don’t hold his gaze for a long time. But I think you’ll like what you see.
Just a footnote (and maybe TMI), but one of my favorite moments with my ex was when I was behind her. She stole a quick glance over her shoulder and gave me a HUGE smile. Wow! Very, very sexy! 
Never underestimate the erotic power of your eyes when they’re expressing your desire for your lover. Nothing hotter in the world.
Eye contact is a form of communication which, IMO should give both people a sense of bonding. It’s also not meant to be a staring contest. “looks” can portray may emotions so you can project yourself in many ways. With just a glance you can be innocent, horny, domineering, satisfied etc…
You have certainly read many times how people interpret emotions through eye contact.
LOVE eye contact.