Hell no! I’d never want to return to the days of “premature” orgasms. The way it works now is a huge improvement.
How huge?
I’m under 40, but I’ve experienced this too.
Here’s what I told my coworker:
“When I was in my teens, I never thought my hormone level would decrease. Nowadays, I’m lucky if I have two of them to rub together.”
***Fuckin’ ***huge!
Age 74. Flomax pretty much eliminated libido. The mind is still willing but the body just don’t respond. Spouse has health problems so it really isn’t important, maybe it is a benefit to not give a damn.
Coming up on 63. Takes all night to do what I used to do all night. Still worth the effort.
- Over the years, there has been a tradeoff between quality and quantity. Or maybe I should say frequency and amplitude. At any rate, where I once was able (and more than willing) every night, nowadays it seems like that whatever discharges during orgasm takes increasing amounts of time to recharge. More frequently than every 8-10 days, while sometimes possible, just are not interesting. My wife reports the same thing, although she might be racting to me. And this is without any loss of desire on either of our parts.
So by all means he should discuss it with his doctor, it may be simply that screwing less frequently will increase the pleasure enormously.
Hari, I think you’ve described it perfectly as a frequency and amplitude issue. He has said the ‘re-charging’ time is longer. So, less screwing, huh? Well, we’ll try that. And he will speak with his doctor.
Thank you all for your answers.
I haven’t noticed much of a drop in performance…desire has declined as my wife’s physical condition allows little intimacy. So I do the usual thing. BTW, I’ve been on Flomax for at least 10 years, plus blood pressure medicine; neither of those have had any lessening effect to speak of. Of course the Flomax does decrease the amount of ejaculate, but not the sensation.
Sorta wish that my libido would drop off. Life would be easier.
I’m not an older man, but for what it’s worth:
I was reading the literature at my husband’s urologist once and it said that men can practice the same techniques as women for improving muscle tone in the genitals. I think the main one is starting and stopping urine flow deliberately. The intensity of the muscle contraction has (or can have?) bearing on the intensity of the orgasm.
jsgoddess that’s really interesting. I’ll tell him to try the start/stop pee thing. Thanks!
So, kegels for him? *Hegels? *
Hee. Yes!
Seriously, though, I have zero idea if it works, so take with pellets of salt.
Great big endorsement of this: My desire has not lessened but ability and situation have. I agree, life would be easier if the damn desire would simply evaporate.
Previous post said interest had waned. I should have been more clear. Interest has waned so far as present partner is concerned. Interest in the general sense has not waned.
My stepdad has worked on using kegels and other things for many years, and is always talking about how well it works for having ejaculate free multiple orgasms.
This is the same guy, who when I asked him how it felt being a grandfather at the birth of my daughter, stated, “Hell, I ain’t a grandfather, I am a grand-mother fucker!”