My husband will be 60 soon. He told me last night that over the past several months his orgasms are, uh, different. His climax has become somewhat anti-climatic without the force or duration to which he’s been accustomed.
I would imagine that it’s typical of the aging process. Perhaps it has to do with declining testosterone or other subtle hormonal changes.
He’ll ask his doctor about it of course, but I just wondered whether a) it’s experienced by all men, and b) whether it continues to decline with age, or does it hit a plateau of sorts.
Of course I did ask if it was anything to do with me, i.e. too much familiarity; shortfall in technique; my own age, etc. He says no.
I’m almost 64. I don’t need to have sex quite as often as I used to, and my erections aren’t always what they used to be . . . but the orgasms themselves haven’t changed at all. Actually, the only difference with the orgasms is that it takes longer to have one . . . which is a very good thing.
Your husband should definitely talk to his doctor about it, especially concerning medications.
I’m 64. Over the last few years, my orgasms have become less intense, and it takes longer to reach climax (which has its advantages too, of course). So changes like this can be part of the normal aging process. Still, it doesn’t hurt to talk to a doctor about it: we men are often unwilling to seek help and advice when we ought to.
I’m a little younger, but not enough that it matters. It’s never wrong to ask your doctor about such changes, since they could be symptoms of prostate problems, diabetes or other underlying conditions. And yes, many, many different types of prescription drugs can have side effects in that - um- area.
But remember, none of us are the same at 60 as we were at 30.
Something I’ve been wondering recently; you can get a temporary loss of libido but still get rock hard morning wood. Are the changes that posters here have described accompanied by a drop in morning wood hardness?
I’m 64. For various reasons I’m not going into, erections and orgasms now seem to be just fond memories. Your husband is fortunate to retain those experiences and to have you take an active interest in them.
I’m 69 and am currently being divorced for reasons that make no sense to me. So my answers might be influenced by my marital status and my marital status might well be influenced by my answers.
For the last two years, I have had absolutely no interest in sex and therefore no interest in orgasms. My lack of interest stems partly from back surgery and partly from being fed up with constant refusals that supposedly were based on fear of making my back injury worse. Obviously, there would have been no refusals had I not made advances and I wouldn’t have made advances had there been no interest.
I think I’m finished with sex but I really have no idea how much my age has influenced this decision.
62 here. Time does march on and takes it’s nogoodcocksuckingbuttbittingshitsucking toll but for the most part mine are just as good as ever. Though I have noticed that there seems to be periods where they are not quite up to snuff. I’m glad to report that these episodes only come along now and again and and are short lived.
Sex isn’t so much about the actual equipment as it is about the mind. Are there things lurking in the back of your mind that you might drag out and surprise him with some evening?
I remember reading in, “Shogun,” that, according to Mariko, a lady who could not have sex with her man (generally because she wasn’t married to him and would be killed if she did and got caught but it could be for other reasons) could procur him a geisha. You could try this and see if it helps.
Just a suggestion, but let us know how it works out if you do try it.
My sometimes-partner is 61. Sex with him isn’t the same as it was twenty-some years ago. Some of it’s me, but a lot of it is him. Some of it’s better, some worse. Just not the same.
Part of it are a couple of his meds (yes, he’s had the discussion with his doctor). Some blood pressure meds (in his case) tend to cause “inflation” issues. When he was on Welbutrin in his attempt to quit smoking, he just flat out lost interest. He has told me that orgasm is very seldom explosive like it was in his twenties and thirties.
The main thing that I notice, though, is timing. It takes him longer to reach climax, but it’s actually getting closer to the time I reach mine.
Hell, no! Chemistry is your friend! There’s testosterone. There’s Viagra/Levitra. There’s Cialis for that “always ready” feeling. Look at Hef, 82-years-old and gettin’ it on with 18-year-old twins. Look at Rush Limbaugh, 58-year-old fattie and still bangin’ the rare hottie who’ll have sex with Republicans (even if he does have to fly to the Bahamas or wherever to do it). Etc., etc. When you reach 60, or whatever age you reach when you begin to require assistance, you should thank your lucky stars that you live in the day and age you do now. None of your forebears had it so good! I know when the time comes that I need that stuff(;)), I’ll be thanking my lucky stars that I live at this time in history!
I would be surprised if age and familiarity didn’t dampen the thrill of sex. Add to that high blood pressure medicine and other factors and you’ve got life in the reality lane.
Thank you everyone for your replies. My husband is on low dose Topomax as a preventative for migraines. He also takes Immitrex when he gets a migraine. Otherwise he is med free. No high blood pressure, no diabetes, etc.
I asked if a Geisha might be the answer - because I love him that much - and he said he was pretty sure it wouldn’t make a difference. Bless his heart he didn’t suggest doing the research to be sure.
So, he will talk to his doctor and see if this condition is indicative of something else that would be more concerning. Should we find that it is an underlying medical problem - I’ll post the information as a public service for anyone else feeling the same way.
