Not really-do you mean you pray, and then you’ll get “a sign”, or does God actually talk to you? Or do you mean things will work out that will allow it-like your doctor will reccomend it?
I’m honestly not questioning your faith, or saying that it’s wrong for you to feel this way, I’m just very confused by this. I just want to know how you “seek God’s will”, and how “He” answers?
Oh, and Wesley, that is NOT an Al Bundy quote. That was what Donna told Jackie on That '70s Show, when Jackie slapped Donna’s hand when the latter tried to take Jackie’s candybar away.
Seriously though, it’s not just how men judge women, it’s how society at large (no pun intended) does.
Its an Al Bundy quote too. Actually its a generic cultural quote but i’ve heard Bundy use it. Al was riding in a carpool with 4 obese women and one of them said ‘you’re never too big to be sexy’.
I definitely dress and compare my body against the bodies of my female aquaintances. I know guys. They don’t really care about a lot of the stuff I do every day to make myself look nice; they seem more interested in boobs. It’s about fitting in and having the girls ask you where you got that sweater and those shoes are so cute and I like your haircut.
I hold myself against the women I know. I think “oh, if only my body looked like hers, I would be happy.” How much do we identify as our body shapes? I wrote out, and then deleted, “I am a size 6.” No, I’m not. I’m Kyla. I usually wear a size 6, but it’s not who I am. Still, that’s how we see ourselves. And if only I could be a size 4, everything would be perfect. Right? I remember when I weighed eight pounds less than I do now and I still wanted to lose another five. Now I’m struggling to lose those eight pounds again.
I waver on it, though. I know that I’m slender and at a perfectly healthy weight. Who really cares about the stupid eight pounds? Me, when I see my coworker with the perfectly sculpted body.
Although I’m not fat, never have been and probably never will be, that’s me. I got on birth control about 6 months ago and slowly, slowly, slowly started gaining a little bit of wait. One day I woke up and my size 3 pants didn’t fit. I literally could not fit into this pair of pants that I just had on a couple of days ago. I went back to the health clinic and was shocked to see that I had gained nearly 20 pounds. It’s all I think about. I doubt other people can tell, but I can tell. I can feel the love handles and stomach pudge that I never had before, and its an awful feeling. I hate it. I’ve never had bad eating habits and still I’m gaining weight. I called the health clinic to make an appointment to switch my BC. You might be thinking, well thats not that much weight gain, you’re still skinny. That’s what I’m thinking too. But how do I know if the weight gain is going to stop? When will it stop? I ate healthily and exercized 3 times a week for 3 weeks and guess what? I gained a pound. It sucks.
raz, if you’re on Mircette, that’s the exact same experience I had. I found out after I went off it that it causes uncontrolled weight gain in a lot of women. See my post above.
I used to think that. I used to tell my sister that when she started to put on a bit of weight. She went from a size 4-6 to a size 10-12 over the course of a year and all I could see is “But I would KILL to be a 10-12, wtf is wrong with her?” Well, turns out that what was wrong with her is that she was no longer comfortable in her clothes, the things she used to wear were now collecting dust in her closet and she was watching her body shape change in ways that she was not prepared for.
It’s pretty sick and judgemental for someone who has never lived your life to think “God, it’s only 20 lbs. I could lose 20lbs in my couch cushions and barely notice.”
There are probably people so obese that they can barely walk who would look at me and say “God, it’s only 100 lbs. I lost 100 lbs once and I was still huge and thus, 100lbs must not be very much.”
No one really knows another persons struggle. To be honest, if I ate healthily and excersized three times a week to find that I’d gained a pound, I can assure you that I would spend the following evening crying into a giant bowl of Lucky Charms.
I hope that changing your BC helps and that you’re back where you’re comfortable soon!
Thanks for the support. I really hope that switching BC will help. You know, gaining the weight wouldn’t be so bad if it wasn’t all in one frickin spot! Why couldnt one teeny little pound or so go to my boobs?
I guess the one thing I’ve learned is this: No matter what you look like, and no matter what other people tell you or think about you, you will never be happy until YOU are satisfied with yourself and how you look. For some of us, it comes easily. The rest of us, not so easily. It may be because we are physically unattractive, or maybe it’s just all in our heads. I think its much easier to look skinny to others than it is to feel skinny inside our own heads.
How interesting, I’m exactly the same way. I’ve lost 46 lbs since July and it’s been really hard work (the last 10 lbs are killing me). It’s much easier for me to say no to all cookies than cookie number 2.
I binged and purged Sunday night. I took laxatives and threw my guts up maybe 20 times. I spent an hour sobbing in my therapist’s office Wednesday afternoon.
My mother and pediatrician put me on my first diet when I was in 4th grade. It included diet pills (Tenuate). I lost weight.
Thanks so much. I don’t know where that post came from. Usually I show much more restraint. Yes, I am trying to work it out. This is something that just rears it’s ugly head now and then.
And then I have a Pop Tart.