When I was in college, a close friend of mine was from Vietnam. She became an American citizen while we were in college. She liked to date white guys, and after college became engaged to one.
Her parents were incensed. So incensed that they threatened to disown her. Although this girl was a straight-A student in microbiology, she was “a disgrace to her family”. She eventually ended the engagement, and I never heard from her again. I don’t know if she was too embarrassed to face me or what.
Cut to today. Another good friend of mine is an Australian chap born of Chinese parents. He has been over here working for several years on his green card. He met a beautiful Chinese-American woman, and they fell madly in love. Last Christmas he took her back to Australia to meet his mother (father has died). His mother decided she hated this girl, and was absolutely incensed that her son had chosen a wife without any input from her. She told him to choose between the girlfriend or her. They cut the trip short and came home. He chose Mom, and dumped the girlfriend.
Now my little emancipated American brain can’t even fathom these scenarios. Is it the custom in most Asian countries that parents help choose the spouse? Why weren’t these parents happy for their children? In both cases, the mate their kids had chosen were wonderful people. Why didn’t that matter?