“Anyway, if the second time she just lets you pay for everything and doesn’t really want to give
you a hug/kiss/fuck then she’s probably not really interested in a relationship. Just don’t call her
past that.”
What’s your logic in this little scheme?
OK, so now I get to fill you all in on the rest of this little “hypothetical” ethics question.
Date two. We went out for coffee, we went to a bookstore and roamed the aisles, and then we met up with some of my friends for Japanese food. After the restaurant, we went back to my car and I let the defoggers run for a bit. They didn’t really need it, but I felt it was a pretty good excuse to slow things down a bit and see what happened.
We talked a bit more, and then, seeing that no opportunity would ever really present itself for me to just lean over, I summoned up my courage and flat out asked her “I’d really like to kiss you. Would that be OK?”
Her response “No, I’m sorry. I just…don’t think we know each other well enough yet.”
Now, I’m not sure if I’ve used these smilies before in a post, but I really don’t think there are enough in the entire fucking universe to express what I’m feeling at this point. Good lord! There are people that would fuck you after knowing you for an hour. We’ve spent a good 10 hours over two days engaging mostly in conversation. You don’t know me? You don’t know me?!?
Well fuck that! You knew me well enough to share a piece of pie on our first date. Did my saliva become contaminated since then? You knew me well enough to think I had gimp tattoed across my forehead.
Hey, if you wanted to just be friends, fine. But tell me that after the first date. Don’t lead me on. Don’t wait until I bring the subject up late into the second. What the fuck did you think would happen? Did I mislead you into thinking we were just going out as friends?
Look, you tell me you just want to be friends after the first date and I’ll understand. You tell me in the car as I’m trying to kiss you that you’ve just gotten over a long term relationship or that a long distance relationship won’t work right now (she was only in town for about two weeks) and I’ll be a tad pissed at the timing of the comments, but I’ll understand.
“I’m sorry but I just don’t know you well enough.” ?!??! See, now you’ve made me both pissed and confused. That’s not a pretty combination.
sigh…
I wouldn’t be too hard on her. There’s a large difference between sharing a slice of pie and locking lips with someone – at least in my world. Just because there are some people who’d fuck you after knowing you for an hour, that doesn’t mean that this young lady is one of them. Personally, you come across as a bit too harsh to me and Lord knows if she picked up on any of that, you shall never get a chance to kiss this girl. It’s one thing to be put into the situation where you have to give a guy permission to kiss you; quite another to be in that situation and then have to deal with his pissy attitude when you don’t think it’s the right time.