A quick question for doper men:

In My Humble Opinion
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Like so many others in this thread, I can only echo the sentiment that, if the feelings are there, then how long you wait to have sex is kinda irrelevant.

I met my husband in a bar and about 8-10 hours later (after much talking and breakfast in a 24-hour restaurant), we were making the beast with two backs. That was nearly 9 years ago, and we will have been married for 3 years come September! :slight_smile:

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Pretty much everyone seems to agree that it doesn’t really matter when you sleep together in regards to long term relationship status. Good to know. As we have date #4 coming up this Thursday I am reasonably sure he is sticking around for a bit.

Now, onto more serious questions…how soon can you refer to him as your boyfriend without making his brain melt in a fit of panic? :smiley:

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Pretty much everyone seems to agree that it doesn’t really matter when you sleep together in regards to long term relationship status. Good to know. As we have date #4 coming up this Thursday I am reasonably sure he is sticking around for a bit.

Now, onto more serious questions…how soon can you refer to him as your boyfriend without making his brain melt in a fit of panic? :smiley:
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Ohh - much longer for for sex. Wait until you agree on “exclusiveness” and then wait a bit longer than that…

Congrats on your relationship - that sunshine & lollipops phase can be a lot of fun.

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I am glad you have found some one that makes you happy and I hope he’s the one and continues to make you happy for a long long time.

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I think that measuring it in hours of face time, not number of dates, is far more useful, at least to me. They say that 4-10 hours of face time is normal, with 7 being the most normal. Thinking back on most of my past relationships, it seems to have been 7 hours almost exactly.

Having said that, I would certainly question the possibility of a relationship with someone who would put out in hour one. It makes me think she’s not very discriminating, and I want someone with standards. I’d still do her, but I’d consider it a one-time thing.
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For the record, the first 3 hours were at a concert, the next almost 5 were at Denny’s, then there were several hours of driving (his place was in a different state, my place had a religious mother . . .) and y’know. sheepish grin