Actually,I don’t think she’s a slut at all!
You know Lisa there are 57,259,000 square miles of surface area on this Earth…It’s pretty sad that you’ve limited your scope to a radius of 50 miles or so…So the people that were known in High School as “geeks” or “Jocks” or “losers” or “Pot Heads” or any one of a hundred other labels never change for you huh?..You judge people today on what they were like 15 years ago as children? Because let’s face it, you could hardly be considered an adult at 17 or 18.
I grew up in a small town…were the “in” crowd looked down on most everyone else…the “Good ol’ boys” ran things they way they wanted…and I’m so glad that I’m open-minded enough to make my own decisions about people as they are today. If I ever run into anyone from my school, I’d judge them as adults, not by the junvinile behavior we all demonstrated in high school
If it makes you feel any better, Lisa, my future husband does not disaprove of my past. If he did, I probably wouldn’t be marrying him, because it is part of who I am. I wouldn’t marry a guy who thought that I was disgraceful or a bad person because of my dating around.
As a matter of fact, I met my fiancé at the very height of my “wild days”. The first three months that we dated, I was seeing other guys, and he knew it. Carl was supposed to be a short fling (yes, I even slept with him on the second date), but he decided to stick around.
So if you are at all worried about my terrible reputation ruining my chances at matrimony, don’t. My fiancé is MUCH more open-mided than you.
Cessandra
Why sex is better than religion: You can scream “Oh, God” during sex, but just try saying “Oh, f***” in church!
Cessandra, I’m very glad you found someone who you love and who will respect and honor you, a self-proclaimed “slut.” I am just a little skeptical that you’ll always be so proud though. I could be wrong.
You know, for someone on the verge of making a lifetime commitment to someone, you seem awfully frivolous. Marriage is more than a nice dress and a big party. And a bit of unsolicited advice to you on your big day: Try to refrain from saying, “Oh fuck!” in church.
I have never met a woman, married or otherwise, who has not admitted to having fantasies about men other than the one they are currently with. To be honest, as long as such fantasies are not acted upon, they can tend to add some spice to a relationship. While it may be unhealthy if the fantasizing turns into obsessing, the other extreme of not fantasizing at all is just as abnormal.
I agree to a point, Drain. However, if the person who is fantasizing is also the person who entitles her thread “A Slut and Proud of It!”, it makes me a tad skeptical about her maturity. However, that is an issue for her fiance, not me.
My whole point on this thread was that proudly proclaiming your promiscuity may seem cute, or even whimsical NOW, but I’d be careful. A lot of people end up regretting those choices LATER. And it’s very, very hard to overcome a seedy reputation. Ask Hugh Grant or Rob Lowe.
Byzantine wrote:
Wait a minute … you mean, once upon a time, a young man could be called a “GIRL”?
Quick-N-Dirty Aviation: Trading altitude for airspeed since 1992.
So why is the desire for a monogamous committed relationship so all-fired mature? Is it impossible to grow up, mature, and hold the considered opinion that sex is good and there’s no reason not to have it with as many people as shall be mutually acceptable? What a silly prejudice this whole “slut equals immature” trope is.
The point of this topic was merely to protest the idea that women should jump headfirst into commitment so as to keep from being labeled a slut.
I am “proud” of being a slut, because to me it means that I was able to break from what all of my friends and family thought I should do, to follow a path that was more fulfilling for me. I was much happier with my lifestyle than I would have been had I simply given myself heart and soul to any man that offered to go out with me (the way that many of my girlfriends did). I also feel that I am better off in my current relationship because of the lifestyle that I led during my high school years. I am far more comfortable with my body than most of the girls I know. I am more capable of saying no to unwanted advances than girls who have spent years trying to please their boyfriends for fear of being alone. I know far more about sex and the risks (both of STDs and pregnancy) than any of the sorority girls that I went through rush with. I know that because I talked to them about it.
I know so many girls who just want to have a boyfriend. They’ll do anything to keep him, even if it means sacrificing a little of their self-esteem. I have never done that, because I know that if I wanted, I could just go to a club and find someone to spend the night with.
I chose my fiancé because he respects me, and I respect him. I also know that I love him, and that it isn’t some schoolgirl infatuation.
I feel that my past experience (even if I didn’t actually have sex with most of those guys) helped to make me the person that I am. And if it makes me a slut, then I’m proud to be one. If it makes me immature, then I’m damn proud of that, too.
Cessandra
Why sex is better than religion: You can scream “Oh, God” during sex, but just try saying “Oh, f***” in church!
Here’s the way I see it: This nation has one big hang up regarding S-E-X. I say, and I’m sure that there are many who would agree, an open-minded and experimental attitude towards sex is healthy and constructive, as long as you respect the limits of the guy(s), girl(s), sheep(s), whatever, you’re doing it with, and most importantly, know where your own boundaries are and respect those most of all. The problem is that the general public isn’t always quite as accepting. So, therefore, the first step in America’s overcoming its sexual repression is for more people to acknowledge their sexual inclinations, and respect those of others. The fact that someone can still have a “seedy reputation” dating back decades is not a delicate situation that needs to be tiptoed around, but a real problem that needs to be confronted. If I wasn’t willing to confront the truth about my sexuality and the “majority” opinion regarding it, I would still be in the closet and feeling miserable, and I think that it’s the same thing for the sluts of the world.
So, everybody sing it with me: Neuro is a slut, she’s a big fat slut, she’s the biggest slut in the whole wide world; Neuro is a slut, she’s a big fat slut, she’s a slut to all the boys and girls…
“That’s entertainment!” —Vlad the Impaler
::Singing along::
Neuro is a slut, she’s a big fat slut, she’s the biggest slut in the whole wide world; Neuro is a slut, she’s a big fat slut, she’s a slut to all the boys and girls…
New verse:
Cess is a slut, she’s a big fat slut, she’s the biggest slut in the whole wide world; Cess is a slut, she’s a big fat slut, she’s a slut to all the boys and girls…
Talk to kids around the world, it might go a little something like this…
tracer – yes. At one time it was very much a slam to call a young man a “girl”. When I get home I’ll drag out the dictionary (Wicked Words) and give you the exact reason why. I’ve got part of it in my head but I don’t want to mis-post!
Oh, great, everyone ALWAYS runs away when I get that book out! Hey, come back…
Best!
Byz
I’d like to add my 2 cents in here. First off, Cess- I don’t think you ARE a slut. In my neck of the woods, a slut if someone who sleeps around a lot. Not dates a lot, not makes out a lot, but actually is fucking lots of different men.
Actual slut reputations are a real bitch to shake. I went through a hard time when I was younger and got sexually involved with a lot of different men over a short period of time. TO THIS DAY, 10 years later, I have run into these men (at the mall, at work, etc) and had to come face to face with my nasty past. I know when they say “hello” to me in the mall, that the minute I turn the corner they are telling thier friend that they “fucked” me. It’s a nasty dirty feeling and I hope you never have it. It doesn’t sound like you will.
Your OP addresses the question of girls settling down quick so they aren’t labled sluts. It may very well be that in your area of the country this is true- people who date a lot of other people are labled “sluts”. As I said earlier, in my area a slut is someone who is fucking a bunch of different guys. So when you post a thread called “A slut and proud of it”, it gives a much different idea to most of us then it does to you. Just wanted to point that out 
Zette
I have read all of the responses that are on this board and just have a few comments.
First of all, I don’t think that you can be classified as a slut for sleeping with 3 people and dating several guys. 3 isn’t that many at all. I’ve had a total of 8 and 7 of them I slept with in a 6 month period. I don’t consider myself a slut for it though. I was 18 years old and just had a wild hair I guess. I certainly don’t regret it. I met my future husband that year and we had sex two weeks before we had our first date! Three years later we were married. Two years after that I divorced his ass! Anyway…
As for sleeping with married people… I’ve done that too. (once) I was 18 and he was 30. We were very much in love but he was married and I was dating my future husband at the time. It just wasn’t the right time for me and this married man to be together. He is now divorced, as am I, and we just happened to hook up again within the last couple of weeks after not seeing each other for 5 1/2 years. This time is “meant to be” I guess you could say.
I also had an affair while I was married. The guy knew that I was married and I made it clear that I just wanted sex and nothing more. Of course he was o.k. with that, what guy wouldn’t be. I still wouldn’t call my self a slut because of my affair. No one knows what was going on in my personal life to make me look for someone outside of my marriage. I know that I am partly to blame for the affair but so is my ex-husband. He agrees with me on that one. I even got pregnant by the man I had the affair with. (He doesn’t know that though) Even after all of this I still don’t consider myself a slut. Maybe some of you out there think I am. I’m kind of curious as to what kind of response I’m going to get from this post!
A slut is someone you don’t like. Its just a form of insult. My friend had sex at 11,but I idolized her. A church mate has 3 children out of wedlock,and I love her. Its all in your opinion of the person. Whats past is past.
orangecakes wrote:
Lucky so-and-so. NOT having had sex by age 20 damn near killed me.
Livin Life:
You give sluts a bad name. Please read my response to your thread.
orangecakes wrote:
My friend had sex at 11
So I take it she missed the film ?
Coldfire
“You know how complex women are”
- Neil Peart, Rush (1993)
friend cessandra,
you asked:
your age is given away on your home page:
(and a very nice homepage, my compliments!)
“don’t get strung out by the way that i look, don’t judge a book by it’s cover” (tim curry as dr. franknfurter in rhps)