Yeah, that’s one of the great ironies of the world. I hear so many of my women friends lamenting the lengths that they go to in order to become pregnant…and I never wanted to become pregnant at all, yet I turned up all eggshaped every other month.
I don’t think that it’s at all easy to persuade a doctor to perform a hysterectomy for BC reasons. I’m pretty sure that they have to justify it for medical reasons.
It’s fairly impossible to convince a doctor to perform a hysterectomy unless you’ve got a really serious reason, like cancer or tumors or something.
Although it does sound like the ideal way to go.
Yeah, actually this has happened. REALLY super-rare, but just within the last year there has been a report of a woman carrying a baby to term in her liver, and in other instances an etopic pregnancy has not resulted in ruptured tubes but the baby growing as a parasite on the intestines or some such. Definitely gyncological emergency territory.
The only way to make absolutely sure a woman can’t conceive is to destroy/remove her ovaries, but that’s awful mighty extreme, and early menopause in a young woman presents a host of other problems.
This was exactly the problem, she had this same problem the first pregnancy too, But the second pregnancy was much much worse.
I have no clue how her tubes were tied, I have never bothered to ask her but I can next time I talk to her.
Luckily she still has all of her baby items as they are three and one and a half, she hadn’t thrown anything away yet. Her New Husband also has a son who was a premie and his own set of problems, so there are 3 children under the age of three in the house already :eek: and one on the way.
She is not considering abortion, even though she has considered adoption. Her husband does not really like that idea, and frankly neither does she. I think she is going to try and keep this baby and see if she can make it work out. I wish I lived closer to her, even though there is not too much I can do for her either as I work full time.
She might want to get in contact with a pro-life group, and see if they have some sort of resources for her. Some do, some don’t. Generally, I dislike their politics, but if they actually do work with women who want to carry the pregnancy to term I respect them more.
I hope that she finds solutions to her problems.
Lynn’s advice about pro-life groups is good, but if your sis decides to go that route, be warned that to be on the safe side, she should go to them while she is still pregnant. There is an organization in Canada called Birthright that offers help to struggling mothers, but they turn away anyone they don’t get to during pregnancy. snarky comment alert Because they don’t care about babies who aren’t trophies in their anti-choice struggle
Pardon me if I this has been proposed before, but would it be imprudent to suggest to your sister a hobby that does not involve her husband as a diversion? OR-How 'bout getting the the old man clipped? Or better yet -other delicious forms of sex that have been known to bring down a President? A good sex life is like a stock porfolio-to survive you have to diversify. ( warning: rant here) And all this talk re: sueing the doctor is ridiculous! Some people are what are known as “super healers” in medicine. You cut it out, a new one grows back. This is why some doctors will not do a tubal ligation after childbirth.
Pardon me if I this has been proposed before, but would it be imprudent to suggest to your sister a hobby that does not involve her husband as a diversion?
Yeah, I think that’s pretty rude, personally.
They are married. Married people have sex.
I do agree, though, and I’m wondering: why can’t this husband of hers get fixed?
Man : hormone injection shots (they exist), vasectomy, marijuana, tight underwear, and jack off frequently before engaging in intercourse, condom
Woman : pill, tubes tied, hysterectomy, abortion, RU481, adoption.
I guess if you do all that and still have a baby… wow.
If I understand correctly, the first husband refused to get fixed so she did. Got divorced, remarried new husband. Since she had already gone through the procedure, it seems completely reasonable that he wouldn’t bother–there was certainly no reason to suspect that their was any risk of pregnancy.
Of course, now is a different story, and I rather suspect that that is the next logical step.
There must be something to this “universal equilibrium” thing, I’m infertile - couldn’t get pregnant if I tried - and there’s your sister at the polar opposite [not trying and still getting pregnant]. I feel so bad for the woman, I hope she manages to work something out
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What? :rolleyes:
If the doctor has not performed the tubal ligation correctly, then he/she should bear the consequences, which in this case is going to be the birth of an unexpected and unprepared-for child.
I’d really love to see a cite for ‘superhealers’ as you call them. Are you suggesting that the woman ‘grows’ a new fallopian tube to compensate for the blockage of the other ones? The human body is a marvellous thing, but I’ve never heard of it being quite that versatile.
kambuckta, I can’t give you a cite on this because I heard it in a doctor’s waiting room, but here’s the story anyway!
I was there for my 6 week post-natal checkup and I got to talking to a woman there. I mentioned that I’d had a C-section (my third) and had my tube (I only have one because of a previous ectopic pregnancy) tied while I was still on the table. She told me that she’d had a tubal ligation years before and after 14 years, found herself pregnant (ectopic). The doctor told her that the tube had rerouted itself. Unfortunately, though there was enough room for the sperm and egg to meet, the scar tissue had prevented them from getting to the uterus for implantation.
So I guess it can happen on occasion, although I feel that that would be pretty rare, and even rarer for a normal (rather than ectopic–which REALLY hurts, btw) pregnancy to be the result.
Oh, and Broomstick, my cousin’s wife carried a baby TO TERM completely outside of the uterus–and they never knew it until it was time for she was ready to have the baby and she suddenly said that something was very wrong. They performed an emergency C-section, and found that the baby had implanted on the OUTER uterine wall. (Don’t ask ME how–I’ve never figured that out myself!) Baby was fine! But that was the strangest thing I’d ever heard!
Qadgop, I know those consent forms are written to cover the MD’s asses, but I hope you are not trying to discourage Deadly’s sister from talking to an attorney.
You may be write, it may just be one of those things, that the doctor did everything right. But I would think pregnancy is a pretty strong sign that perhaps the sterilization procedure did not go exactly as planned.
My step-sister’s husband went in for a vascectomy after number 3. The doc could only find one vas deferens(?) so only did one side. Yep, sure enough, she got pregnant again.
:smack:
Dammit, QtM, you may be right.
Pick up a hobby? PICK UP A HOBBY??!!!
“Honey, the kids are asleep and you look soooo good in that shortie nightgown. Let’s go to the bedroom and look at our stamp collection”
I don’t think you are imprudent Gansagrl. Just hilarious and maybe a little–no a lot-- niave. A husband and wife should find something else to do instead of having intercourse. Haahaa.
Hence the word “could” in my statement which you quoted, ivylass. My point was to demonstrate that fertility after a sterilization procedure is not automatically evidence of an improperly performed procedure in and of itself.
kambuckta, spontaneous re-canalization of severed fallopian tubes has long been a recognized phenomenon after tubal ligation. In fact it is for this reason that the tubes are no longer just tied off, but rather tied twice on each tube, snipped in between the ligation, and then the loose ends cauterize. Despite these aggressive measures, recanalization can still occur. Just Google “Tubal ligation” and recanalization for a ton of cites.
Ryled up, I didn’t really get your comment. Were you being snarky? Because the OP’s sister obviously didn’t have a hysterectomy, nor did her husband have a vascetomy. But you still mentioned them. If you actually think that someone should have to take all of those steps in order to not get pregnant, I don’t even know what to say. If you weren’t being snarky, then just ignore the above comment.
And Gansagrl, I really hope you were kidding. Do you honestly believe that a married couple should never get to have sexual intercourse again because they seem to defy all odd’s in getting pregnant?
To elaborate further, I think the smart thing to do when one has medical concerns is to go to a doctor, not to a lawyer. Get information first. If the doctor says “gosh, I see by your laparoscopy that one tube is tied, but on the other side it appears your ureter was tied off rather than your fallopian tube” then I’d advocate retaining legal counsel.
To put it bluntly: I am suggesting a pleasant diversion to oral sex. Be creative.
And I am shocked, just shocked! to find out that married people have intercourse!:smack: